I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Thursday, August 17, 2006

Other aspects

Before we get the chance to play with our new toy I will have another official weigh in. I worry that I won’t have made goal. The goal is completely reasonable. I have been to the gym 4 times this week and I have really worked hard. But one of my big downfalls is soft drinks and junk food. I love them both!! And I haven’t made the decision to cut them out yet. I want to continue the weight loss for me but this is also the only place that Nick as agreed to use spanking for discipline. I don’t want him to think I am not trying. Or that I am trying to ‘test’ him. I promise that this is not the case.

I know that he is more comfortable with erotic and good girl spankings. But he needs to know that discipline is okay when he feels that it is necessary. I myself am conflicted. I truly do not want a punishment spanking for two reasons; one it means I have let both of us down and two because they hurt!! At the same time I worry that he will let it go and that might just hurt worse. Even as inexperienced as I am with the discipline spankings I know that its not so much how hard he hits or with what its just more the seriousness of the occasion and the realization that he is not playing.

I hope he knows that if I make goal or not, discipline spanking or not, it will not affect my willingness to play at any time. Sore or not, that’s my problem not his. There may be no reason to worry; I am on my way to the gym in just a few minutes and I may have lost after all. I know all this sounds like topping from the bottom (Which he doesn’t completely mind at this time in our relationship because as he says this has been in my mind for decades, not his. I think knowing my thoughts helps him as he becomes more comfortable in the lifestyle.) But if I can T from B about one more thing – I would like to save ‘Mollie the Red’ for playtime!


  1. Ohhhh sounds like you have a good man. He really wants to make you happy. I am certain that if you are exercising you will lose even if your eating habits don't change. It will just be slower. Also muscle weighs more then fat so you should not rely on the scales but the way your clothes fit. Do weight resitance work, that is the key. Exercise is also great for your sex life! The gym 3 days a week??? You are my hero! Can't wait to hear about the flogger!

  2. How can I ad you guys links to my site? Is that what blogrolling is? I have been toying with this for two months. I am not real computer literate, and Michael wants to major in computer engendering! Oh well all advice appreciated

  3. Elis,

    I'm rooting for ya' on both counts, losing weight and getting the proper discipiline.

    Thanks for the nice comment on my blog and the link! Cool!

    Theresa, I'd be happy to help with the links and such as well. Yes, a blogroll is a list of links to your favorite blogs. You can either use a manual list that you manage in your blog template. (Like the list Elis has here.) Or, you can use some neat tools to help keep track of all your favorites. (I use a couple of different ones.)

    Oh, and Elis, I wouldn't put your email address out like that in plain text. Spammers harvest your email address that way. You can put your email address in your Blogger profile and it will show on your blog. Blogger will show it in a way that the harvesters will skip over it. Or, you can say something like my email address is 'anawtymouz a-t gmail d-o-t com' and people know what you mean, but the harvesters miss it. (You may want to copy your comment, delete it, and recomment without your address. You also published it on a post on Friday, August 04, 2006, but you can go back and edit that one out.)

    [I normally email directly regarding the format or editing of someone's blog, and keep those issues out of the comments. I wonder, perhaps I should open a new blog for sex blogging help. what do you think? Email me.]

  4. Theresa,
    I do have a great guy and he is learning by leaps and bounds! I have actually been to the gym 5 times since Saturday. I am killing my self this week because I have to go back to work next week.

    If you want to email me I can tell you what I know about adding links and such. But I am probably the least knowledgeable of the bunch. If I wasn't trying to write spanking hot sex stories I could get more help from my kids!!!


  5. Nice blog Elis, I hope that you have lost weight.
    That's a good attitude about punishment, it's not something either of you should enjoy.
    Big hugs,

  6. Elis, Theresa is right, muscle does weigh more than fat so using the scale to measure can be discouraging. I have an idea that could be fun for both of you, weekly measurements.

    Take the measurements of your chest, waist, lower abdomen and hips, both thighs, upper arms, knees and calves. Add all the numbers together for a base total. Don't freak out if it's way past 200, or even 300. Date it and take the measurements again in two weeks. You'll be so pleased when you subract the new numbers from the old number and see how well you're doing.

    Now, about soda, here's a lovely fact that may change your mind. One soda per day can add as much as 15 pounds in a year.

    So if you need fizz...drink carbonated water, but please, please, please say adios to the pop, it will fight you every step of the way.

    **Big Hugs**
    ♥ CeeCi

  7. Paul,
    It worked out just perfectly. I can't believe how much Nick knows.

    Two wonderful suggestions. I love the one about measuring. It sounds great!! I hate the one about giving up soda. But I guess I just need to suck it up and do what I know I need to do.