I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Tuesday, February 28, 2017

A thinking question

Yesterday I read Baker’s post over at Our Sweeter approachto Life. She asked an excellent question and my answer popped into my mind firmly and of its own accord. No hesitation at all I knew this answer. If you haven’t read her post I wish you would go over there now and read it and give her your answer, or at least get your answer in your mind.

Go on,  click here, I’ll wait… but don’t forget to come back!

Glad you’re back. Being a lifelong spanko my answer was a no brainer. But I want to ask a different question. Ladies, what would your answer have been if your man came to you (much like we each came to our husbands) and told you he wanted to submit and put himself under your dominance?

Now before you say ‘Ick no, I don’t want to think about it.’ – think about it. This is the person you love and care for asking you for something you feel is off the wall and something that is totally out of your comfort zone. Isn’t that what we did to our men when we came out and asked after twenty or thirty years of marriage? (For some of your men, it wasn't that far out of their comfort zone, but go with me here.)

What if he told you that this was something he desperately wanted, needed in his life? What if he told you that this was what it took to make him feel totally loved? Totally safe? How would you have reacted?

I think the first reaction of many would be, “No, it makes him seem weak.” Does it? I certainly don’t think of any of us as ‘weak’. We are all strong, independent, intelligent women who after careful deliberation chose to submit (well, sorta) to one man – not to laying down our rights and be a doormat for the world. We are no less of a person because we made this choice.

Some may think, “But traditional rolls have the man as the HOH, the leader, the one with the final say.” Okay, sometime. Nick has always made the biggest money decisions – buying cars, building onto the house, investing. We always discuss, but I have no problem letting him make the final decision. On the other hand, decisions involving the children were my strong suit and I was usually the one making the final decision. Nick was better understanding finances; I was more in tune with the child rearing. None of that changed with TTWD.

If your man had asked – would he have seemed like less of a man to you?
(Did he see you as less of a woman?)

Would you have listened to what he was asking, sincerely, and stepped up to at least try to give him want he said he needed?
(Did he do that for you?)

Could you have made guide lines and spanked your man for not following them?
(Again, he did it for you.)

This is an age of swirling rolls between men and women. Fewer relationships are black and white. I know there are those out here where the woman is the dominant partner and they seem very happy. But for the majority of the people I know here the man is dominant, he does the spankings and we do the ouchy ‘just got spanked’ dance and that’s exactly the way we want it.

But what if… what if our loves had come to us with the same needs, desires, longing and fear of what might we have said? Would we have stepped up to give it a try in the way our loving men have done for us?

Just wondering…

Monday, February 27, 2017

Last, but maybe not least

Most everyone has done this lovely meme by now and I've enjoy reading all the answers, here are mine.

Who's older?
Nick, by about five and a half years. He robbed the cradle.

Who was interested first?
We had both see one another a time or two, but we began talking at a friend’s birthday party. I think we both got interested that night. 

Same High School?
No, rival high schools.

More sensitive?
Me, I guess.

Worst temper?
Hard to say. When he’s really mad, he’ll lash out and sound very angry, but it’s over in a flash. I rarely show anger. I keep in inside and let it roll around as I quietly steam.

Then again...

More social?
Me I think, because is so very quiet and reserved. But lately I do all I can to avoid social settings.

Most stubborn?
I’m going to say neither of us. We’re both too laid back – “Whatever you want is fine.” Is our motto.

Wakes up first?
Nick always and forever. We’ve been married for almost thirty-four years and I’ve beaten him out of the bed maybe five times.

Bigger family?
Nick, there were five kids in his family, only two in mine. His great-grandfather had ninety-two grandchildren. We will not be trying to beat that record.

Not often – I don’t think either of us thinks about them.

Who cooks the most?
Nick. I don’t like cooking, I don’t like cleaning up after cooking – I’d rather snack and forget meals.

Cries more?
Me I guess, but I never let anyone see.

Said "I love you" first?
I guess I’m really getting old, I honestly don’t remember.

Better singer?
Couldn’t tell you. I’ve never heard Nick sing a note. Now when I’m alone in the car, I’m phenomenal!

Better driver?
I’m going to say me. I drove my parents around a lot as they got older and I’m very careful not to make sudden moves, breaking or turning. I don’t want to sling my passengers around.

Hogs the remote?
Neither, but I usually have it near me because I’m willing to adjust the volume during extremely loud scenes and commercials.

Better cook?
Although he does more, we’re about even. I can cook if I HAVE to.

Clothes and shoes hoarder?
Me I guess. He has some clothes from decades ago – but at least he can still wear them.

Saturday, February 25, 2017

Bad news, good news

I woke up Friday morning with some kind of stomach bug. Not fun.  I didn’t feel really awful (until later in the day). But I sure didn’t feel good. Nick was worried because I didn’t pick up my computer all day – he felt that symptom put me pretty much at death’s door.

However, for me I found an upside to the stomach bug – retirement! Had this happen before Christmas I would have had to go and try to tough it out, or founds a sub, and then gotten lessons plans for my six classes. But this time as I realized I felt bad I just went back to bed. Not one worry about school – not one worry about anything. I just rested, slept and I’m definitely planning to feel better by tomorrow. Nick was off too and he checked on me every now and them with a little something to drink and that’s all I needed.

So I am not feeling good, but I have the time to rest and get well and that’s where I’m heading now.

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

No contest

I shared here that Sunny and Ella and I all went to see 50 Shades Darker while we were together. We enjoyed the movie despite the fact that there wasn’t enough spanking. However, I don’t expect it to get a Oscar nomination for next year. After the movie, we came back to the room and hung around a while until it was time to head out for the evening. All very enjoyable.

But this past weekend Nick went to see the movie with me – the previews were the same, the popcorn was the same and the movie was the same. Even the discussion of the merits of the movie were very similar. But when we got home…

(One of my favorite scenes)

I got something to drink and settled into my recliner, Nick – who always goes to bed early – headed to the bedroom. Moments later he was back holding out our cuffs. From that point on the evening was far different from my evening with the girls. I enjoyed them both but Nick wins the contest hands down!

Friday, February 17, 2017

Bloggers trippin'

Where to begin? I was so happy to see the others waiting for me at the airport. Sunny was in about the same spot where I saw her for the very first time nearly four years ago. There were hugs all around then off to the hotel.

I wish I could give you hair raising stories like the adventures of Cassie, Sue and Annie – but this was real life instead and we just had fun, with no arrests, no visits to the drunk tank, no prostitution license. But still fun!

The movies first – 50 Shades Darker, I liked it. Jamie Dornan seems to have grown into his role as Christian Grey and did a much better job this time. Now as far as spanking goes, there was very little in this movie. Basically, it was a very well done, 90% vanilla, dirty movie with a story. I’d recommend it and I thank God Mollie did not go into acting. I hope Melanie Griffith and Don Johnson simply support their daughter in her career choice and DO NOT see this movie, not one for the parents of the leading lady.

I agree with Sunny that LaLa Land was not that good. I realize all the awards and nominations it’s racking up, I just didn’t like it myself. When we saw it, there were only about ten people in the theater and three got up and left before it was over. Truly the hysterics in the elevator were the highlight of the movie evening for me! (If you’ve missed this part read here.) I also did something on this trip I hadn't done since I was about thirteen - I lied about my age to get into a movie for a cheaper price. You had to be sixty-two to get in for the senior price. I'm only sixty, but the guy didn't questions me for a minute, sigh...

I fulfilled a lifetime dream on this trip – I got to see Cher in concert! And I loved every minute of it! How can she possible be seventy years old? She didn’t dance and kick up her heels as much as when she was younger, but boy she can still sing! Sunny and Ella are not the Cher fans I am but Sunny did go along with me and that made it so much more fun than if I’d gone alone. It was a very special night for me.

The next day Ella and I struck out on our own while Sunny met up with a friend living close by. We did a little shopping and then to a wonderful gospel show. It was a brunch and the food was out of this world! The singing was super too, but nothing topped seeing Ella on her feet swaying and dancing with the best of them. A truly great day.

The other two things that occupied much of our time was eating and gambling. We had some fine meals and I can tell you right now if I don’t get the weight back to where it’s supposed to be quickly my ass is going to pay big time for the joy of eating those great meals. I did an hour of cardio yesterday and I plan to today so I hope to make my goal by the twenty-eighth.

As for the gambling – I won! I only risked about thirty dollars and won around one hundred and fifty! There was this one machine that seemed to like me. And by winning, I mean I was able to stop and bring it home with me, that's true winning.

The last day we just chilled, it was even sunny enough to be around the pool for a little while. I really enjoyed being with these two wonderful friends. More trips in the future? Who knows, I hope so. This one was definitely in the winner’s column.