I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Friday, December 29, 2006

What was that again?

This is a rerun. I wrote this response to a question that Bonnie asked back in July. Bonnie has also pointed out that she wrote some really good stuff in the very early days of her blog before many people had become daily readers. I like that she republished some of these good stories because I might have missed them otherwise.

I wish everyone would do that! I have only been here for 6 months. Even those sites I read every day I haven’t had the time to go back and read all the good stuff I know is there. How about it folks, take the time to look back through your own blog and republish a few posts that you think are good but that many of us might have missed.

I love Bonnie for asking this question. Not for the chance to tell what I hope my blog with say to other, but so that I can understand it myself. So here goes.

What are the 10 things, thoughts, or ideas you would most like readers to take away from your blog?

1. If you are turned on by spanking (and you know who you are) tell your partner today! Do not waste one more minute. The worse he could say is – not interested, and you have lost nothing.

2. People who love spanking are very normal people. We are nurses, teachers, secretaries, lawyers. We look after our kids, sometimes our parents; we teach Sunday school and bake cookies for school parties. We are NORMAL!

3. Being spanked by someone you love and trust make you feel cherished, safe and loved in a way that nothing else can.

4. In a spanking relationship, the relationship becomes the core of your life. Other things like work, neighbors, chores, errands, etc. are just things you do. Real life is you and your partner.

5. If this has always be a fantasy and you are just getting ready to try it for real you need to know: Spankings hurt!! They can hurt like hell. But you will still love the experience and the feeling afterwards money can’t buy!

6. Sex after a spanking is the greatest thing since sliced bread! It’s your birthday, it’s Christmas morning, it’s winning the lottery. This is coming from someone who simply hated sex, I loved my husband, but I hated sex. Now I can’t get enough. I have the most happy, stunned husband on the planet.

7. Be understanding of other people’s chosen lifestyle. People are different, that’s a good thing. Some would say I’m a pervert for this kink. I’m not. My husband and I love each other and hurt no one. Be understanding of other and live and let live.

8. Look for toys where ever you can find them. Kitchen supply stores, hardware stores, pet supply stores. Always be on the lookout for items that would not attract attention in the bedroom. Fly swatters, belts, slippers, back scratches. Remember your kids are everywhere, many toys can’t be left out but these can.

9. Men if you are reading here please don’t let us down. If we have finally told you that this is what we want and need, understand that we have probably been thinking about this, dreaming about this for years. It’s not a spur of the moment request. We want it, we yearn for it, and we need it. You are the only one we trusted with this embarrassing secret. If you try it once and then stop, we may never have the courage to bring it up again and we are going to feel a bit rejected, a bit lonely and a bit sad.

10. Men can’t read our minds. I know that is stupid of them, but they are only men, so cut them some slack. We can’t give up either. Talk with them, explain things to them, tell them which blogs to read. I can’t look at my husband and talk to him about this yet but I email him a lot! I can get going with words. He seems to love it. If it’s not working out like you expected – keep working at it, it’s worth it. Don’t give up!


  1. This is a lovely post PK, Mel and I were so lucky.
    I grieve for those spanko's who can't or won't come out.
    No we can't read minds, anyway you'd hate it if we could.
    But we learn!
    Warm hugs,

  2. Thank you for this reminder, PK! And just so you know, in case you hadn't guessed, even if I don't comment here everyday anymore, YOU are one of my heroes here in bloggerland. Not just cause you get spanked and enjoy it, but for your attitude and approach to life, blogging, real-life, friends and family. Your sense of proper balance and priorities helps keep me on track!

    Love you, PK!

  3. Ok now didn't I just read this....how come you two twins came up with this idea the very day I decided to archive? Mysterious. I guess great minds think alike!


  4. Beautifully written! You captured so very much in ten excellent points. Love it!


  5. Paul,
    You and Mel were so very lucky to have found each other!

    I am honored and suprised by what you said. I do know that we all learn from each other out here. I like it this way! Thanks friend!

    At least three great minds running around here!

    Thanks! I love the way bloggers share thoughts.


  6. Thanks for posting this Elis! A lot of food for thought :)