I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Please cross your fingers

Well, well, well I think I have myself in an interesting situation. We began all this – all TTWD – with me wanting to lose weight. I introduce Nick to dd with the idea of helping me get to a healthy weight.

I know weight issues and the idea of a husband using dd for this reason can be a minefield. But for us those issues were never a problem. The way it worked was me doing the exercising and deciding what I would eat but Nick did his part by holding my feet (or butt, I guess I should say) to the fire. It worked pretty well – I lose 40 pounds in the first 2 years.

Then I hit a plateau, in several areas. The rest of the weight just wouldn’t budge. I was sick of the gym, sick of exercising, sick of watching what I ate. The blogging world, which had also been key in keeping me interested in changing my life, had changed. Friends had come and gone and I was losing interest in the whole thing. I think Nick was too, at least with trying to be the ‘healthy lifestyle police’.

We both ignored it for a while but it’s getting bad again. Something has to be done or I’m really going to be putting my health in danger. I'm getting ready to jump into it again.
My interesting situation? Unlike when we first started and I was so interested in the idea of ‘punishment’ I can honestly say I don’t want that right now. Heck, he spanks lightly now and I feel like he’s killing me! I feel like such a wuss!! Now I have two deadlines – one is this Friday (I have to lose one pound this first week), and another goal for the end of January. Now rather than wondering if he would really follow through with a hard spanking – I know he will and I don’t want him to!! I’m finally, in a situation where I’m going to have to work in order to avoid a spanking I don’t want. Who would have ever thought?


  1. Anonymous3:00 AM

    "Healthy lifestyle police" I may have to borrow that phrase. Weight can be such a difficult issue to tackle as a couple. We are currently operating in ignore mode. It is so difficult to police her activities. I try to remind her that she feels better and likes the way she looks a few pounds lighter. I'm sure she hears, "You're fat!" Which isn't true at all. We're only talking about ten pounds or so. It is just difficult for her to find the discipline to stick with the healthy choices and the exercise. I'll be interested in following how things go for you two. Hoping for some tips that might help us.

  2. PK,
    As someone who diets on and off on a regular basis, I know that there will be those times when you will do everything right for the week... portion control, calorie count, fat reduce, exercise, dot every eye and cross every T... and still not lose an ounce. It happens. Your body makes mysterious chemical and muscular changes that you will have no control over. This is where the frustrating plateaus come in. I've always found that if I go off my diet for a while and start over again, it's like hitting a reset button. Not all bodies react this way, but I've found that mine does. Relax until after the holidays. Keep up the exercising, (you want to maintain, not let your weight climb) but increase your food intake a little. Pick a date to begin again (Jan 1st like the rest of us?) and start over with a new resolve and a second wind. I'll bet you'll find out that your first couple of weeks you'll drop rather quickly and then hit a comfortable pace.

    40 lbs? You've done beautifully so far. Don't let the plateau discourage you.


  3. PK, I'll keep my fingers crossed for, but, if you don't make it I hope that Nick follows through.
    Love and warm hugs,

  4. PK: Good luck on the weight battle and what a turn of events that you now want to avoid a spanking. LOL.


  5. Yeah, who would have thought you'd try to avoid a spanking? Good luck with the weight loss.


  6. I'm with you PK and fingers are crossed and everything :)

    Don't forget to let us know how it's going.


  7. Welcome back to the diet club! We all know how hard it is to lose weight...be kind to yourself. Long range and reasonable goals seem like a great start! Good Luck!

  8. My Sir won't spank me for weight loss or gain. We bought a Wii Fit and I like how I can change up the routine. I can't always go outside because of my asthma so this really helps,of course some days I don't get on it,and THEN the motivator comes out. So indirectly he IS spanking for the weight thing but NOT in his mind! ;)

  9. Uh wait....so you want to AVOID a spanking?

    This is so unnatural.

    I'm going to have to think about that for awhile.


  10. Darkknight,
    This is so tricky – it works for us because I am the one asking for it. I wouldn’t want Nick policing my activities. That’s why I ask for him to help me create a goal and how I reach that goal is up to me. Consequences follow for not making a goal.

    You’ve made some good points. Nick just wants me to maintain for the holidays too. My biggest discouragement is that nearly all of the 40 pounds has come back and I feel like I’m starting over. But I know if I don’t start I’ll be 40 pounds bigger in a couple of years. It’s time to make a stand.

    I think I hope so too. It’s very, very strange to not want a spanking.

    It’s a turn of events for sure!! Hopefully that won’t last for ever.

    It came on suddenly and it surprised me. We hadn’t done much spanking for a while and then a short session HURT! I was shocked. Maybe some gentle fun, sexy, good girls will bring it back.

    I’ll be telling you – the support system here and just being able to explain what I’m feeling and how things are going really, really helps me.

    I guess you should say welcome back. Nick is big on very reasonable goals. Sometimes mine are too ambitious and he brings me back to reality.

    I know that is something we will have to decide on. When Nick sees me working and doing everything right he does not want to spank just because the scales simply won’t show the results.

    I KNOW!! It’s crazy. I feel like I’ve stepped through in to a parallel universe. Hopefully this will correct itself soon.

  11. Anonymous6:30 PM

    PK -

    You are not alone. I too am on the healthy living bandwagon, but it was mandated by my Doctor. Dear Husband is on the band wagon and I think he got spanking lessons cause they are ouchie!

  12. PK,
    I am mood swinging seriously. I think that I would cry like a baby if I thought I might get a spanking. I would lose a lb of weight in tears only!

    I just wanna wrap my arms around you and hug you and wish you well. Truly well. Healthy well! We all need healthy!

  13. Lil,
    It was so much easier to work on the weight when Nick was standing behind me with a paddle, so to speak. At least it helped me mentally. Good luck to you too and please keep in touch.

    Thank you. I know mood swings really suck. I have been blessed with pretty good health except for the risk the weight is putting on me. I just have to work. I'm glad you came by.