I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Saturday, December 12, 2009

We'll work on it

I am sitting here (Saturday night) stuffed to the gills. So much for the diet today. We went out with friends tonight and I feel like I can barely waddle. We had a coupon for a free blooming onion, then I had their good bread and then ribs and mashed potatoes. I guess I need to hit the gym hard Monday!

I love weekends. Nick and I slept late and it felt so good just to lay there and cuddle. Nick mentioned it too. We went so many years not touching – really hardly ever. Now we cuddle, turn in unison most of the night to spoon, we rub and touch and just enjoy being close. We wasted so much time. But that’s in the past now.

There is just one thing we need to work on. It’s not a big deal but I know we have room to improve. I’ve mentioned it before but we still need work. Nick really wants me to initiate sex more often and I really always intend to but I know I don’t initiate as often as he would like. As for me I want him to spank more often. Now it’s not like we’re holding out on one another – not like that at all. But for whatever reason my make-up is such that the only time I really feel sexy is when I am spanked often...when we don’t have the time or privacy to get in some spanking I just don’t feel desirable or sexy... and when I don’t feel sexy I don’t think about initiating sex... and then Nick seem to spank less... and on and on, see how it goes? It’s not really a problem, just a hitch but I wish we could get into a more regular routine. I know if we both put in just a little more effort we would both like the results.

It’s really not a bad problem to have. So many people our age have totally lost interested in each other and just don’t care. I know we’re close now and I really don’t see that going away. I think we’re both happy and I think we are both willing to try to do things that will make us even happier. We’re at a good place after 26 years of marriage. We’re having a great time and looking forward to even better times to come.


  1. PK, I think that you are right, you don't have a problem.
    Perhaps when you have more time to yourselves this will cure itself.
    Love and warm hugs,

  2. It sounds like you are doing so much that's right, I don't think you need to worry. Consider it a natural process of growth and change. It's something you can both aim for.


  3. Anonymous11:21 PM

    Perhaps you could try to get yourself into an aroused mindset when you know your going to be able to have some time to enjoy each other? Seriously, tell yourself how much you want him, and think about all the ways you want him to touch you and vice versa.. Your brain should start communicating with the rest of your body, then be a sex kitten and go after him!


  4. Paul,
    I'm sure you're right. It's still just hard to have a good spontaneous spanking when there is still a teenager still in the house.

    That's all true. We could so easily have grown farther apart as the children got older. We're in a good place.

    I know that will help it's just that I don't have the time sometimes with our private limited. But the idea is good. Fantasy is a wonderful thing. I know it can work wonders for me!

  5. I used to find it hard to initiate sex when we first were together but we've grown, changed and now I'm fine with it, I actually love doing it.

    You don't have a problem just needs a slight adjustment which you can both aim for.


  6. PK: You're both in such a good place in your relationship and I think it'll get better when you're an empty nester.

    Can you find a way that to reach a deal that he spanks more and you initiate more?

    By the way, what exactly is the definition of the word initiate? When I got more wife up this morning, I started rubbing her back and the next thing I knew she was asking if I wanted to cuddle. Not sure who initiated it. I just enjoyed it.