I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Monday, July 16, 2007


I have been working on another post all morning its important and I need to complete it but this just couldn’t wait.

This post, as well as Eva’s, is a direct answer to C. Well actually not as much C as her husband and to all you husbands and significant others who just WON’T LISTEN!!

Guys – snap out of it! What do you want? Do you want a happy, close relationship with your wife? Do you want a woman with an entirely new attitude on sex? Do you want a woman who feels such love for you for allowing her to open up to you about something that means so much to her? You can have it!! It’s right there; she is begging you to understand!! Can’t you hear her screaming? Of course not, she is doing her begging and screaming in her head. She had tried to tell you and you blow her off, laugh a little, shake your head at her ridiculous request. After that happens we learn to shut up. But the longing doesn’t go away. It just keeps getting deeper and deeper along with all the rest of her feelings and emotions.

And then you have the gall to wonder why she lacks interest in sex? Well let’s see how you would feel if your wife says “Sure I will have sex with you but let’s don’t involve your penis. I won’t touch it and don’t let it touch me, but sure let’s have sex.” I know this is ridiculous but for some of us women the desire to be spanked is a central and overwhelming part of our sexuality. And you are asking her to engage in sex but denying her the one thing that she knows will turn her on.

I was so lucky and trust me I do know it! I didn’t have the courage to come out to my husband for 23 years. I robbed us both of those years when we could have been so close. But once I got up my courage he did listen! No he did not fully understand, probably still doesn’t but his willingness to hear what I was saying and try my ideas allowed me to change from a sexual frigid repressed woman to a warm sexual being happy and anxious to experiment sexually anyway either of us can think of.

I know that husbands that don’t want to hear this are also not reading here. I know I am preaching to the choir but please, please girls give it one more chance! They have to be willing to try! If they give it a fair chance and they just don’t like it well, I guess we can’t ask more. But fellows if the love of your life hands you this to read and you won’t even talk about it, if you are not even willing to try, well then maybe you don’t deserve this wonderfully brave women!


  1. Anonymous4:04 PM

    Choir or not, Amen Sister!!!!!! Preach it!!!

    C, I sure hope you're still listening!!!


  2. Both yours & Eva's posts are great! Hope they help someone along with their quest!


  3. C, I hope you can get your husband to read this. A year ago I was like your hubby. Now when Mthc brushes me with those sweet cheeks of hers I just want to make them crimson red.

    I even make my own paddles now. I hope you e-mail Pk and don't give up

    *hugs and grins*

  4. Anonymous9:12 PM

    Hi, PK -

    As I said to Eva, thank you for posting about C and her travails. If her husband can somehow take your advice and just give it a try, he might find it quickly becomes quite natural. I was her just a few months ago - my advice is for her to stress the sexual / foreplay nature of spanking and to tell him she'd love it if they could each indulge in the other's fantasies (within practicality, of course!). If he's anything like Jim, once he understands she truly does want this, he'll get into it, too. Good luck to C and thank you for sharing her story and your experiences.

  5. Anonymous10:10 PM

    I am still listening, crying actually, I cannot believe the outpouring of support from you and Eva and everyone else!! I will email PK, You are all way too much, I said I thought of you all as friends, see I was right!!
    Heartfelt thanks,

  6. I have to say..You and Eva are inspiring. I hope C gets her wishes. I never even dreamed of it 9 months ago..
    Now it's becoming at least a 3 times a week event! (including tonight after David read all the comments)..

  7. Thanks Twin!

    We are all in this together!

    Thanks for commenting. We love our men around here. We need to hear from you guys!

    I am always amazed at how alike we all are. Your comment at Eva's sounded so much like me. I always fantasized about being spanked. On how much fun now that Nick is in on the secret!!

    I am so glad we got to talk and I hope we do it a lot more!

    Amazing things can happen in a short time! As Tiggr works on other goals we don't want to lose out on your and David's stories. Please keep in touch and I will be glad to have you post stories here! Email sometimes!!

  8. Great post, PK! I truly could not have said it better. I continue to be thankful that Spanky knew me better than I knew myself, and sent me a link to Bonnie's blog. Our relationship has never been better!! I hope C's husband will open his eyes and accept the gift that is being offered to him---a fantastic relationship with his wife.
    Big hugs,

  9. PK, what a great post, I do hope that C's hubby listens.
    Mel and I were hardwired spanko's and happily we both knew it, one of the things that I preach is the couple that spanks together stays together.
    Spanking so enriched our marriage, it's absolutely the most fantastic erotic foreplay, believe me making love after a nice spanking is out of this world.
    I don't have a blog, but if your hubby wants to talk PK or Eva will give you my email.
    PK dear girl thanks for posting this.
    Warm hugs,

  10. What an awesome and heartfelt post, PK. I truly hope C's husband reads it and heeds it.

    ciao bella~

  11. I waited 22 years before I came out to my husband and I am adding a comment for the first time. I enjoy visiting almost everyday!

  12. Kallisto,
    "the gift that is being offered to him---a fantastic relationship with his wife." What a wonderful way to put it!!

    You and Mel were the luckiest! Of course you already knew that. That was a very sweet offer you made. Should you ever just want to write a introductory/advice letter to our male readers you can be very sure of having a place to post it!!

    Even if he doesn't read it we can be here to support C!

    I am so glad you come by often and I am really happy that you left a comment. 22 years huh? You beat me by a year we really got started in year 23!! Please leave a comment anytime. The connection and visiting can be so much fun!!