I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Wednesday, December 16, 2020

Ten important things for a Spanking blog

Back when so many were blogging, many people asked question that got us all thinking and participating. Bonnie was really good at it. All this is still true.

I love Bonnie for asking this question. Not for the chance to tell what I hope my blog with say to other, but so that I can understand it myself. So here goes.

What are the 10 things, thoughts, or ideas you would most like readers to take away from your blog?

1. If you are turned on by spanking (and you know who you are) tell your partner today! Do not waste one more minute. The worse he could say is – not interested, and you have lost nothing.

2. People who love spanking are very normal people. We are nurses, teachers, secretaries, lawyers. We look after our kids, sometimes our parents; we teach Sunday school and bake cookies for school parties. We are NORMAL!

3. Being spanked by someone you love and trust make you feel cherished, safe and loved in a way that nothing else can.

4. In a spanking relationship, the relationship becomes the core of your life. Other things like work, neighbors, chores, errands, etc. are just things you do. Real life is you and your partner.

5. If this has always be a fantasy and you are just getting ready to try it for real you need to know: Spankings hurt! They can hurt like hell. But you will still love the experience and the feeling afterwards money can’t buy!

6. Sex after a spanking is the greatest thing since sliced bread! It’s your birthday, it’s Christmas morning, it’s winning the lottery. This is coming from someone who simply hated sex, I loved my husband, but I hated sex. Now I can’t get enough. I have the most happy, stunned husband on the planet.

7. Be understanding of other people’s chosen lifestyle. People are different, that’s a good thing. Some would say I’m a pervert for this kink. I’m not. My husband and I love each other and hurt no one. Be understanding of other and live and let live.

8. Look for toys where ever you can find them. Kitchen supply stores, hardware stores, pet supply stores. Always be on the lookout for items that would not attract attention in the bedroom or living room. Fly swatters, belts, slippers, back scratchers. Remember your kids are everywhere, many toys can’t be left out but these can.

9. Men if you are reading here please don’t let us down. If we have finally told you that this is what we want and need, understand that we have probably been thinking about this, dreaming about this for years. It’s not a spur of the moment request. We want it, we yearn for it, and we need it. You are the only one we trusted with this embarrassing secret. If you try it once and then stop, we may never have the courage to bring it up again and we are going to feel a bit rejected, a bit lonely and a bit sad.

10. Men can’t read our minds. I know that's not too bright of them, but they are only men, so cut them some slack. We can’t give up either. Talk with them, explain things to them, tell them which blogs to read. I can’t look at my husband and talk to him about this yet but I email him a lot! I can get going with words. He seems to love it. If it’s not working out like you expected – keep working at it, it’s worth it. Don’t give up!


  1. Great points PK, and all true. Love this!


    1. Thanks, I know I still believe it all.

  2. Anonymous9:25 AM

    This male wanted a woman to take charge, to spank when needed and not fun spanking punishment spanking. It was an older woman I was dating that provided such but her rules not mine. She treated me like a naughty little boy, scolding,having to call her Mommy, and worse of all I went too far when her best friend was present. I stood saying I was sorry as my pants, underpants were pulled down, her friend went to the bedroom came back with a hairbrush. I was over her lap and feeling the sting of the hairbrush. No amount of pleading, begging would stop the spanking. I was dancing around the room rubbing, my pants and underpants I had kicked off when her friend grabbed my arm and over her lap I went. The next day, I was scolded, and said best behave, I hugged her, said I needed a spanking, wanted a spanking. A couple of months later she introduced me to girl my age who would become my wife. That first date at her place I was taken to the bedroom thinking it was for sex, told to undress, she went to the bathroom, when she returned I was erect and smiling and she was holding her hairbrush. Your getting a spanking, and best do as told. She soundly spanked me, when finished told me to get dress, go home. After work I went to her place, my older friend was there, told to drop my pants, underpants, and both admired my very red spanked bottom. Jack

    1. Jack, you seem to have a lot to say. Perhaps you might think of beginning your own blog. It's great to have a place to express your feelings.

  3. PK, thanks for posting this. Hadn't read it before.


    1. Looking back I thought there were some good points.