I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Wednesday, November 01, 2006


You Are Lightning
Beautiful yet dangerous People will stop and watch you when you appear Even though you're capable of random violence
You are best known for: your power
Your dominant state: performing

I don't suppose that it comes as a surprise to any of you that I came up as lightening too. Just like Lily and Eva. I don't think that the people who know me in real life would agree with any of this. If I didn't know myself real well I wouldn't agree with any of it either.
After my rant yesterday I am wondering if there is a problem occurring in society that could be prevented in part if more information about our chosen lifestyle were available. We all know women who seem to seek out abusers. Several people that write here have said that they have been in abusive relationships in the past. Could it be that some women are seeking what we have here without actually understand what it is that they are really looking for. I really don't know but I could sure see it happening. I know that I was fascinated by the bad boys in high school and early 20s. I didn't ever have the courage to date one. Maybe I was just too scared, maybe I was too smart -- but I was still fascinated. I am so grateful God led me to Nick. If I had actually gone after one of those bad boys I could have ended up an abused wife instead of a loved, cherished, protected and happily spanked wife.


  1. Yeah another lightning strike amongst us blogger brats! But I feel so left out... you, Eva and Lily aren't the ONLY lightning folks out here, ya know... but I guess maybe you would have guessed that about me, huh? I'd have rather been a hurricane, he, he, he *evil grins* well, one particular hurricane, actually. I'd have headed to Crawford, TX instead of NOLA...

    Just kidding... oh, and I'm glad to see that now you are the possessive owner of your husband rather than having several husbands!

    Love ya,

  2. Anonymous12:26 AM

    Hey Elis,

    good points here. I do think that there is a difference between us spankos and women who seek abusive relationships, and perhaps that difference is the kinds of men we seek out. Nick is obviously not an abuser and even though you were attracted to the bad boys in school, I believe you were just too smart to date one.

    I was a bad girl when younger (and J would say I'm a naughty girl now), but I knew enough to marry a "safe" man.

    Cheers, my friend...

  3. Tiggr!
    I have no doubt you are lightening, I would have guessed that with out the questionnaire! Fast, beautiful, dangerous, explosive.

    Thanks, one husband is all I am going to ever need!

    I guess that's right. I would watch the bad boys but as I think back to anyone I dated seriously they were all good, kind men.


  4. I felt the same way about the bad boys. But my guy is not at all the bad boy type, but he sure looks it! Sexy!

    I was not crazy about this weather personality test. Made weather(and me)seem so negative. I love weather!


  5. PK, just hold my hand, I'll earth you, can you believe that's caused by static. I always knew that you were hot stuff. WEG!!! Did you get the good girl.
    Warm hugs,

  6. Theresa,
    The weather thing is fun and interesting, but I don't think it really got any of us.

    If I held your hand I would feel like lightening! No gg yet. I think he is willing, but small house, curious teenager, opportunity is not always there!! Soon I hope.

    Anne Elizabeth,
    Thanks and you would not believe how many times I have typed the wrong name! LOL

  7. I'm glad you found our blog, so that I was able to find yours!

    I don't like speaking for Cindy, so it's up to her to comment about any previous relationships and not understanding what she was seeking.

    I'm not sure I ever behaved or wanted to appear a 'bad boy'. I think true loving, caring, understanding, confident, dominant males don't need to abuse to know who's in charge. I would NEVER harm Cindy, but I certainly don't refrain from giving her a good spanking when she's misbehaved or crossed one of my limits.

    But it always ends with wrapping her so tight inside my arms, and letting her know how much I love her.

    However, I did want to note that you misspelled "lightning" and Nick ought to give at least a MILD spanking for that!