I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
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Sunday, January 22, 2012

Discipline? Why, I'm perfect!

Sorry I haven’t kept up reporting on the Weight Watchers front. I’m doing fine if not fantastic. I gained one pound over Christmas week and then lost it, but I haven’t lost much since. I think I am still doing well on what I eat, but I pretty much let any and all exercise go this month. I guess it’s time to get back to the real world. I went to the gym Saturday morning. Still don’t like it, but I know its necessary.

A friend asked me recently how my life long quest for discipline was going. I hadn’t thought about it in a while. I’ll never get over my fascination with the discipline aspect of TTWD. While that’s the focus for many of my friends here, it will never be for us. There is simply no reason for it in our marriage. I’ve said before we do not fight, we never have. We agree on how to handle our money, we agree on how we raised the kids and since they’re grown there is no conflict expected there, and for us showing respect will never be an issue.

I think it’s our age. I don’t have to worry about showing my husband respect. We simply respect each other. We still say please and thank-you to one another. We tease a lot, it’s not uncommon for me to roll my eyes at him, or tell him to kiss my ass for that matter. I do the same things with my girl friends and heaven knows I’m closer to Nick. If we were ever discussing something serious, and were in disagreement about it, I would never roll my eyes or anything of the kind. And not because it would be disrespectful, but because it would be impolite. Does that make sense to anyone else?

So even though I’ve longed for it in the past there have never really been any reasons for Nick to ‘punish’ me. Before my halo becomes too large I want to add that there are several things I do that annoy him. For some strange reason Nick thinks that I should put away my clothes from the laundry after he has washed and dried a load. He puts away his clothes and the towels and such. He feels the same way about the not quite neat pile of clean and dirty clothes beside the foot of our bed. Sometime he will mention a few of my bad habits. Sometimes he will even give me a few stinging swats.

Yawn… a few swats? Obviously the man really doesn’t care if the laundry is put away or not. And I don’t care whether I’m grabbing clothes from the basket or the closet so why put them away? Sometimes an issue of this nature will come up during a pre-sex spanking. Nick will tell me as he’s spanking that I’ll have to do better and then to make his point we have some mind-blowing sex! Yep, that’ll teach me! LOL!

I guess I do have a few bad habits – very few – that I would like to break, putting my clothes away, exercising more regularly, getting to bed earlier, things like that. I probably could improve with Nick’s assistance, but a few swats (not that I don’t appreciate them honey) probably won’t do it for me. Of course Nick, this problem could be solved very easily. You could put my clothes away when you do yours. And while you’re at it could you do something with that mess at the foot of the bed?

Wait! Stop! Don’t hit post! Badass wrote that last part. She did! Leave me out of this. I don't want to get involved.


  1. Haha. Love that last part. Now, seriously? You never do anything discipline worthy? Want me to give you some ideas? LOL.

    I guess I have a lot of maturing to do...sigh.

  2. PK, YAAAAWN!!!
    Oh, an angel, I must be in the wrong place.
    I think that I prefer Badass.
    Love and warm hugs,

  3. Are you sure you're not living in my house? It all sounds so very familiar. But the thing is, I love my life and my husband and he feels the same about me. Okay, maybe he would like to change a few things - like my piles encroaching on his side of the dresser or bathroom counter, but other than that I'm perfect :)

  4. Have to love Badass!...LOL...i am working on enjoying this place and this day....sounds like you are doing that. abby

  5. PK: Oh, Badass is showing some disrespect. What is Nick going to do about that?

    Meanwhile, I couldn't agree more than folding clothes, putting them in the drawer and then taking them back out instead of taking them directly from the clothes basket is time you could be spending blogging. LOL.


  6. Anonymous11:30 AM

    Too funny, thanks for the laugh. And congrats on the weight loss and management.


  7. Hmmm, I kinda like that Badass chick. Dopp says tell her 'hello'. ;)

  8. Anonymous5:10 PM

    I don't know if any amount of "discipline" can change her habits. But, I may have to hide her laptop in the laundry basket again.

    And Badass's mouth is going to get both personna in trouble!


  9. LOL - firstly - way to go Nick ;)
    I like badass too.....;)
    PK, that's the way - keep doing that and Im sure Nick will step up the discipline ;)
    love and hugs kiwi xxx

  10. Now Stormy,
    I never said I didn’t do anything discipline worthy, I just said none of that stuff really bothers Nick. If I were married to some other man I might never be able to sit down!

    Badass is someone I really like too. But she just seems to run her mouth, she never hangs around for the main event!

    Maybe you and I were separated at birth. That’s the way it is here. We’re comfortable. That may not sound exciting enough for young people but comfortable is a good thing. Some of our habits may annoy them but they love us so it no big deal.

    I am, but it’s taken me a while to get here.

    What disrespect? I was merely making a suggestion! You are sooooo right that time wasted on laundry or cleaning and cooking and such could be much better spent on blogging! What a smart man you are!

    Thanks, I sure wish weight loss could be made quick and easy – but so far it has still taken work.

    Maybe the four of us can get together sometime in the future.

    Hey honey, so good to have you drop by! Now I don’t mind the strap or a wooden spoon, but don’t be cruel. Don’t hide my baby!
    Surely you can’t blame me for what Badass has to say?

    I’m not sure it will ever be discipline – but he’s welcomed to take out his frustration over my bad habits on my butt any time he likes.

  11. I like Badass but I think she may watch she doesn't go too far:)