I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Cutting boards and candy

I thought I tell you that Badass did get me in a bit of trouble. I had Monday off - and loved every second of it! After watching Dr. Phil I spent the rest of the day in my sun-room reading and writing. I did do a tiny bit of house work. I put away all the stuff at the foot of the bed and… well that’s about it. When Nick got home he notice the dishwasher hadn’t been emptied. Heck, I didn’t even know they were clean.

He said “Maybe you should change what you said in your post from ‘I don’t do anything wrong’ to ‘I don’t do anything.’ Funny man that Nick. He quickly bent me over the counter and I expected a few good hand spanks. NOPE! He grabbed the inch thick cutting board! Now that thing packs a wallop. I was left with a sting butt.

Yesterday as I got home from a workshop I saw that the Nick hadn’t had time to bring in the trash cans from the curb or get the mail. So I grabbed them both. Not a big deal but Nick usually takes care of such. When he saw I’d done it he commented “I may need to get that cutting board our more often.”I had to give him a grin.

I made a confessing – which I didn’t think he would see that way, I was just telling him about my day. I don’t like workshops. Strangely enough the morning session was pretty good. The afternoon one had me completely angry and frustrated. I mentioned to him that there were piles of candy at each table, little mini bars of several different kinds. During the morning session I completely ignored them. But once I got angry and frustrated I was popping those things like popcorn! Why do I do that? That’s what Nick wanted to know as he grabbed me for another quick bottom warming. He’s right. Anger and frustration are no reasons to sabotage myself. I realize now that these feelings are triggers to cause me to want to over eat. Maybe being aware will help me stop. Nick wasn’t ‘punishing’ me. But I appreciate him using what he knows gets my attention best to help me realize what I was doing. Now the big problem – with my job how do I keep from getting angry and frustrated (not at the kids, but at all the adults involved)? I guess it gives me something to work on.


  1. PK, perhaps you could look on the troublesome adults as just big kids.
    I have noticed that there are more grown up's then ever, who haven't.
    Love and warm hugs,

  2. Happy your getting your spanks. The candy thing, just don't beat yourself up - now that you know the trigger it might be easier. Keep some almonds around, they are a good substitute.

  3. Nice to see that Nick is paying attention to what you do and don't do. Actually, a spanking after a nice day of doing nothing would seem to be the perfect end to the day. And good luck in dealing with those triggers. I've lost six pounds this month but travel next week and so difficult not to overeat on the road.


  4. Good with that...I remember thinking that being a cashier in a grocery store might be a good job switch..and I loved what I did...when it involved the kids. Gum is my secret weapon.... Glad to hear that Nick can see spanking toys whereever! abby

  5. He spanks and does dishes? Not that I thought otherwise, but he is definitely a keeper, lol.

  6. Anonymous12:15 PM


    Don't let others control your mood.
    You are giving these adults power to affect you, ie make you angry. Handle the things you can and let the rest go. Getting angry and frustrated doesn't help and only makes you unhappy and ruins your day.
    I know not easy, but you can only control you, not them. Glad your Nick is paying you some "attention".


  7. hi PK, glad Nick is stepping up the spanking for you :)
    Emotional eating is a really big hurdle to overcome. They make it sound so easy at WW to stop emotional eating but its something i still do to this day. I have no magic words of advice except to say dont beat yourself up about it, maybe now that you are aware, as you say, you can curb the habit, but if you do give in to emotions from time to time, just get Nick to spank you for it and then do some extra exercise the next day or cut down on your points the next day - dont feel guilty - thats another emotion!
    Good luck, and keep up the good work.
    I think Paul's advice is great, think of the adults as just "big kids". :)
    love and hugs kiwi xxxx

  8. Paul,
    It’s a good idea but these adults have the power to assign me hours and hours of totally useless busy work and I have no recourse.

    I know better than to keep candy in my room at work for this very reason. At least I have a few co-workers I can vent too. That helps some.

    Yep little things like that are what keeps me going some days. I know it would be hard traveling and watching what you eat. But the 6 pounds in a month is great.

    I often dream of going back to work for the veterinary. If I’m going to have to deal with crap at least there, there is a purpose.

    I think most people out here think I’m teasing about how little I do around here. Sadly for Nick, I’m not. Poor fellow!

    I know you’re right and most of the time I can let it go. But this week it has really gotten to me. I’m working on it and thankfully Nick is helping.

    I’ll get a handle on it. I went and walked after work this afternoon. It was sunny and 61 here so it felt pretty good. I have to keep a rein on the guilt thing I know. That can just lead to more eating.

  9. This was such a sweet post. Have mercy the cutting board. I would FAINT.

  10. Molded,
    It packed more of a wallop than I was expecting. I've never been a huge fan of wood anyway. But it did get my attention.

  11. Anonymous1:10 AM

    What a way to get spanked. I'll have to remember to keep our cutting boards away from him, don't want Nick giving him any ideas lolol.

  12. trazuredpet,
    I don't know. That cutting board wasn't too bad when you're dressed. On the bare, I don't know.