I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Weight update.

There's good news and bad news. First the bad, I gained. The good, Nick came through for me and I did get spanked. I could have done better; and I know it. I ate out 4 times last week. (Can I blame Florida Dom?) But there is also better news – I feel very confident about this coming week. Nick said same rules are in place, can’t eat in the chair and for this week I have to make it to the gym at least three times. Shouldn’t be a problem, I’ve already been twice.

I know me pretty well. Nothing motivates me like success. If I can lose some this week it will be a big incentive for next week (alone with the motivation Nick and the OCW paddle provided). I also know some problems to look for – just don’t know how to avoid them. When I have a bad week my ‘self-talk’ is just terrible! If I heard anyone talking to someone I cared about the way I sometimes talk to myself I’d rip ‘em a new one! I need to stop!!

I haven’t done any of the other things I thought about – joined WW, or made some appointments with a personally trainer, I even get 4 free sessions a year. I think I’ve put off WW because I don’t want to fail. I mean if I don’t start, I can’t fail at it. Stupid I know but its still how I feel.

However, for the moment I’m feeling pretty good. I’m watching what I eat and exercising – and thinking about other options. Hopefully, Nick will stay tough and not allow any backsliding!


  1. Yeah! Sounds like such a great start..

  2. PK, good for you, keep it up.
    Stop bad mouthing yourself, there are plenty who will do that, at no charge.
    Love and warm hugs,

  3. PK: Don't beat up on yourself but start taking some proactive positive steps whether it is weight watchers or a personal trainer. Good luck. You know your friends care about you.


  4. I joined WW almost a year ago now. I've lost and gained 20 pounds over that almost year. Now I'm at a 16.3 pound loss. WW does help but your on the right track with exercise. That's my problem. Sounds like your HOH has that right solutions. I may have to suggest it to mean (did I really say that).


  5. Hurrah!!! One week, one day at a time...looking forward to more good news on this topic. abby

  6. Sounds great PK and good for Nick following it through.

    Think positive.


  7. Stormy,
    I’ll take any start – I have to start!!

    The bad mouthing is what I really need to work on.

    I’m working on the not beating up myself and I’m working on what I’m going to do next.

    It really worked for me the first time I tried to lose, 5 years ago. I lost 40 pounds with his help. My goal was to lose a half pound a week – do-able! I got spanked for not working toward my goal, not exercising, over snacking – not for gaining.

    I’ll let you know how next week goes.

    I know the responsibility is mine but Nick following through REALLY does help.

  8. sounds like a brillian start - way to go Nick - if he reads the comments just so you know Nick - you HOH's stepping up like that for us really does work - mine is now doing the same thing and its such a relief to know we have your support and motivation like that :)

    PK - please stop bad mouthing yourself - you are way way too hard on yourself. Maybe Nick can help you with that too....maybe he can set it as a new rule - no more bad mouthing yourself

    Im looking forward to reading you next update :)
    love and hugs kiwi xxx

  9. I've been saying I'm going to join WW but havent yet.

    It's really hard. I hope Nick keeps up the good work.


  10. Anonymous6:34 PM

    I love health and fitness...if you ever want some motivation or advice I love to talk about getting healthy:)! Also, I agree with several others that say you shouldn't talk bad about yourself.

    Good luck with changing your lifestyle and not viewing a change in eating as a temporary plan. If you only change temporarily as soon as you stop you'll gain the weight back! You have to stick to something longterm for it to be successful in the long run, pardon the pun...getting ready to run a half-marathon next month:)!

    Good luck,

  11. Sounds like Nick will be a great motivator! He should start with you being mean to yourself. That simply cannot be allowed, dear lady!

  12. Kiwi,
    I feel he will hold me to our agreement. We do need to work something out to do when I do make goal. I do better with a “Good, but don’t slip or else…” rather than “You did great, good for you.” I simply do better with a threat hanging over my head. Nick has a really hard time understanding this.

    Grace, my sister, what do you say? You want to join at the same time. I’m ready and we don’t have to pay the joining fee if we do it now. Come on, let’s do it.

    I’d give anything if I liked healthy foods. How do you make yourself like veggies if you just don’t? I can eat less of the foods I like, but at my age it’s really hard to force myself to eat things I just don’t like. Good luck on the half-marathon!

    All that meanness is done in secret and silence, he doesn’t even know. If you just met me you wouldn’t think I’d be that way. I guess I’m going to have to find a way to stop myself on the talking thing.

  13. Anonymous9:48 PM

    Regarding eating veggies...eating healthy doesn't have to equal eating bland, boring meals. The Full Plate Diet would be good for you to try! It was on the NY Times best seller list.

  14. Not liking healthy foods, like veggies and fish is my big problem. :-( I can't get myself to try new foods.

  15. Kitty,
    My problem is that I like boring! Isn't that awful? I would be more than happy with chicken, beef, and pork with potatoes or rice and gravy for the rest of my life.

    I'm guessing you understand this. I wish I could turn myself into a more adventurous eater.

  16. Anonymous10:13 PM


    The Full Plate Diet is not so much about telling you what you can't eat. It encourages people to add some fiber rich foods to the diet they're already eating. For instance, the average American only gets 10 grams of fiber a day, but should be getting 40 grams a day. 1 cup of blackberries or raspberries has 8 grams. Just try to add in fiber rich foods and eat a little less of the foods you love, although 1 cup of whole grain brown rice or a baked potato with skin each has 4 grams of fiber. If you eat high fiber foods it will help you fill up and not feel deprived. You can still have your meat, but just don't eat quite as much of it.

    Anyway, good luck! I didn't mean to write a book, lol!


  17. Kitty,
    Don't worry about writing too much ever - I really appreciate the help! I do need more fiber. The berries are a good idea. I feel better knowing I have good support for this part of my life from folks out here too.

  18. Anonymous10:47 PM

    I'm glad to know you didn't mind me writing about health, etc. I really do get excited about eating healthy and exercising...yeah, I'm a health nut, lol!


    P.S. I think it would be nice if you'd post at least once a week on your progress! I'm sure your readers would like to encourage you in reaching your weight loss goal.