I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Saturday, July 22, 2006

It Starts

I have been reading some of the wonderful blogs out there for a few months. Within the last few days I got the courage up to leave a comment and now I'm blogging. This is just a way to sort out my feelings since no one can possibly talk to friends and family about there desire to be spanked. Hell, it took me 23 years to get up the nerve to tell my husband.

That's not exactly true. We dabbled a bit 4 years ago. I liked it but we just let it go because of children in the house ,there needs and my aging parent's needs took up a great deal of time. I stayed so consumed in other things that I just had no interest in sex. None. Zero. Zilch! I wanted to want it but I just didn't.

I'm sad to say that during these 4 years I lost my beloved parents. My son is leaving for college next month and my daughter is in and out more than she used to be. So I have actually had time to think about myself. I have looked on the Internet but what I found at first seemed like porn to me. I like sexy pictures of women getting spanked, but I didn't like torture, whips, chains, I don't want to see male nudity. And then my prayers were answered when I stunbled onto My Bottom Smarts and Bonnie.

It was unbelievabe! Normal, sane, regular people, women like me who had answers to my questions and made me feel normal again. I believe my husband thinks he died and went to heaven. We have made love 8 times so far this month and truly in the past I would have thought that was fine for a year! He is happy but stunned. I already have him reading My Bottom Smarts, Nothing Randon About a Spanking, A Spanking Good Time and Cassie's Space (I want to be Cassie when I grow up!)

I found that once I started leaving comments that it wasn't enough, I wanted to say more, ask questions, and just talk. I hope to hear from some of you.



  1. Hi Elis!

    Look at you. This is so cool!

    Thank you for the kind words. I'm always glad to share what I've learned in hopes that others' travels might be easier than my own.

    It's wonderful to hear that your spanking activities have revitalized your relationship with your husband. For me, that's the greatest reward of all.

    If you have any questions, please feel free to e-mail me.

    Best wishes with your blog, and everything else!


  2. Anonymous11:26 PM

    Hey Elis,

    You did it!!!

    Great first post!!

    Amazing what a little spanking can do for our sex lives, eh?


  3. Elis-
    Thank-you for the kind words! I am so new at this I am honored to be mentioned in the same post as Bonnie and the others. I'll be back.

    Love, Cassie

  4. Hi Elis,
    welcome, welcome, welcome to blog land, I hope that you will be very happy here.
    I see that you have picked some wise mentors, you will find others.
    Blog land is like any other part of the world, you will meet lovely people, not so lovely people and downright horrid people.
    Just be careful.
    Once again welcome.

  5. I feel like I have been visited by royalty!! Thank you all so much! I feel as relaxed and happy and accepted as I possibly could. Please keep in touch.


  6. Elis:: Good Morning and welcome! What a wonderful first post...I started out the same way, inspired by the same people.

    Like you, I discovered there was some really scary stuff to be found online. The women and men I have grown to love and respect here have had a profound and positive influence on my life.

    I'm so glad you've started your own space.

    **Big Hugs**

  7. I don't like pictures of nude men either. I like the man I care about nude, and that is as far as I can go!


  8. Anonymous9:47 PM

    Hi PK
    I am wayyyyy back here at at your first post. I certainly can relate to everything that you are saying here. I hope you don't mind my poking around your old posts.
    Take care,

  9. Andrade,
    You are more than welcomed to look around all you like. Your writing so far have reminded me of when we first started. I hope it works out as well for you and your husband.