I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Thursday, November 14, 2019

Loving our Lurkers!




I’ve had the privilege of participating in Love our Lurkers day since it was first introduced by Eva and Bonnie, fourteen years ago. I spend a lot of time thinking about my silent readers. Do they come every day and check to see if there is a new post? Do they wander by once a month? Are they disappointed that I don’t post much on topic? Do they sometimes read the archives? Why won’t they talk to me? Don’t they realize how much I enjoy getting a comment or an email from people who have found something interesting in what I’ve said?

Recently I had that very thing happen. A silent reader sent me an email and as we’ve written back and forth to one another we’ve become friends. With LOL Day coming up she wrote the following. It’s a gift to all of us who blog – past, present and future. As a blogger I can tell you this really touched me as I’m sure it will other who post out here. Thank you so much!


For the last few years I have read your blogs everyday but remained silent.  Thank you to PK for allowing me to express my gratitude.  Not all of your lurkers may be ready to speak up this November.  Here are some of the things that many of your silent readers and I have wanted to say to you.

Thank you to all bloggers who post regularly.  You provide a sense of comfort and predictability to our daily routine.

Thank you to all who comment.  Not only do you validate and encourage friends, but you offer broader perspective and additional insight.

Thank you to all who maintain a blogroll.  You help promote the efforts of friends and provide us newcomers with valuable links.

Thank you to bloggers who include archives.  You offer us an opportunity to get to know you and provide a wealth of experience and documentation over time.  

Thank you to all who offer inspiration.  You remind us of the importance of mindfulness, gratitude, self-care, creativity, and finding balance in our daily lives.

Thank you to all who inject humor into their blogs.  You help us laugh at ourselves and relieve our stress with jokes, cartoons, pictures, and accounts of your daily experiences.  

Thank you to all who post fiction.  Your stories provide entertainment, help us understand ourselves and each other, and increase our connection. 

Thank you to all who talk about spankings.  In case you were thinking I might have stumbled into the wrong group, your readers appreciate all the details.

Thank you to all who have kept blogs public.  Despite invasions of privacy, frustrations, misunderstandings, disappointments, and lack of encouragement, you continue.

Thank you to all who express a depth of feeling.  You share your anger and setbacks as well as your triumphs which helps us deal with the challenges of our relationships. 

Thank you to all who discuss organizational tools to maintain a successful dynamic.  You help us integrate planning, scheduling, journaling and reflection.  

Thank you to all who include "how-to" guides.  Learning how your relationship began and how it has evolved with any rules, rituals, routines and protocols is so useful to newcomers.  

Thank you to partners and spouses who encourage blogging.  Your thoughts and feelings are important for us to hear.  

Thank you to all who include culture and entertainment.  Explaining holiday traditions and customs across continents is interesting as well as sharing suggestions for books, movies, music and recipes.  

Thank you to all who no longer post but keep their blogs open.  Your story may impact readers years after you have moved on to pursue other interests.

Finally, I would like to share the words of William Arthur Ward with you silent ones.  "Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it."   Please post a comment or send an email to a blogger who has touched you in some way.  It will be appreciated.  

Thank you all,
Viola


Thank you for everything you said, Viola. Your words are much appreciated and please remember ...




32 comments:

  1. Hi PK,

    Just dropping by to say hi. Wow, what lovely words from Viola! Hope you find some new friends over the next couple of days :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Your loyalty in commenting matches Paul's, rest his soul. I thank you for being here for me.

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  2. Have a fun LOL day PK. Hope you have a lot of readers come out to chat.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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  3. I loved reading this PK, thanks for sharing and always be a good source of information and encouragement. BTW your new books is awesome! Have a great LOL day!
    --Baker

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    1. So glad you like the book, Baker. I'm enjoying LOL Day.

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  4. Thank you Viola and PK for sharing. Hope this brings out more lurkers.

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    1. I love what Viola wrote - I'm glad others are getting to read it.

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  5. Thanks to Hermoine's list of LOL bloggers I found your blog...

    Viola's email was heart warming !!

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    1. I agree, she did a great job. I'd love an invitation to your blog.

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    2. 'invitation'?? You don't need one (at least I don't think so -- no one's ever asked for one before)

      Come on over -- everyone's welcome :)

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    3. Hmm... when I click on your name here it tells me that you're not public. Shoot me a link and I'll come right over.

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  6. PK,
    What a wonderful piece of writing from your friend Viola! I'm so glad she decided to share with you behind the blog and she let you post what she wrote to encourage us all. Congrats to you on such a long lasting successful blog! I'm glad you've hung around and given me the chance to get to know call you my friend. Hugs! Windy

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    1. I was pleased to get what she wrote. I know she is speaking for many of our silent readers. I'm really glad you are here too, friend.

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  7. PK, I loved reading this. How lovely of Viola to write this. Thanks for sharing.

    Happy LOL day to you. I hope some of your silent readers come out and leave a comment.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Ronnie, I really hope they do too. I'd love to hear from them.

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  8. P.K.

    Happy LOL day, thanks for sharing and I enjoy your stories.

    Rick

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    1. Thanks, Rick. I'm really glad you enjoy the stories.

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  9. Hope you get loads of comments.

    Prefectdt

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    1. Yes and I think this is great.

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  10. I have become a lurker...... I love reading your blog and reading about you and your story. Sorry I haven't had much to say. Love you!

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    1. I've missed you Blondie. But I also understand that sometimes you just don't feel like commenting because it happens to me at times too. But anytime you want to leave one I'd love to hear from you.

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  11. Deena4:45 PM

    I love visiting here! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing and writing!

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    1. And you make me feel good every time you come around!

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  12. What sweet and touching words from Viola. And PK, you are an inspiration and generous in sharing of yourself and I am very grateful to know you. Hugs

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    1. I agree about Viola's words. And thanks for your words too, Terp. I still happy being here.

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  13. Aww that was lovely. Also, hello from a delurking lurker. At least I don’t think I’ve commented here before. I’m always reading late at night, so it gets kind of fuzzy sometimes... so it is possible.

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    1. I understand about the late night fuzziness. But I'm glad to see you here anyway. I hope you'll come back often and comment whenever you like.

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  14. This was wonderful to read, and how nice of her to write it for you.
    You do have a wonderful blog PK and I’m sure so relatable to many. Your honesty and humour always shines through. Happy LOL days to you!

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    1. Glad you came by Laurel! And yes I think it was very nice for Viola to write this. I really do enjoy talking to people here.

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  15. Great post, PK. And thanks for all you do to keep our community connected.

    Happy LoL Day!

    Hugs,
    Bonnie

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    1. You and your blog were my beginning and all this had led me to a very happy retirement. Thanks again.

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