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Monday, November 05, 2018

You have to read this because I want your opinion


I don’t talk politics on my blog – but sexual fantasies, now that's a different story! When I read this particular article (NOT involving arguing over political issues) I knew I had to share it here.  It was about the differences in the sexual fantasies of Republicans and Democrats and why. I was fascinated.

Here are the basic differences as stated in the article:

While self-identified Republicans and self-identified Democrats reported fantasizing with the same average frequency—several times per week—I found that Republicans were more likely than Democrats to fantasize about a range of activities that involve sex outside of marriage. Think things like infidelity, orgies and partner swapping, from 1970s-style “key parties” to modern-day forms of swinging. Republicans also reported more fantasies with voyeuristic themes, including visiting strip clubs and practicing something known as “cuckolding,” which involves watching one’s partner have sex with someone else.



By contrast self-identifying Democrats were more likely than Republicans to fantasize about almost the entire spectrum of BDSM activities, from bondage to spanking to dominance-submissive play. The largest Democrat-Republican divide on the BDSM spectrum was masochism, which involved deriving pleasure from the experience of pain.



Well that got my attention! I was also very interested in the possible reasons given in the article:

What connects Republicans and Democrats, I believe, is that their fantasies are at least partly driven by what they can’t have. As I argue in  Tell Me What You Want, the supersized sexual appeal that non-monogamous and voyeuristic acts hold for Republicans likely stems from the fact that sex outside of marriage and multi-partner sex are huge no-nos in a political party that continues to make “traditional marriage” one of the cornerstones of its official platform and regularly funnels federal funds toward abstinence-only sex education. Nothing makes us want to try something like being told you can’t do it. This is why taboos, no matter what they are , often becomes turn-ons.

This same instinct may also help to explain, in part, the appeal of BDSM to Democrats. Within the Democratic Party, much of what drives the Democratic Party, much of what drives the political agenda is the view that inequality is the source of a wide range of social problems. This is regularly seen in the party platform, which recently made multiple mentions of the need to “level the playing field.” It’s not a stretch, then, to suggest that playing with power differentials  - especially in BDSM settings, where women and men might not appear to be on equal footing and where the lines of sexual consent might not always be explicit – is taboo in many Democratic circles.



Like I said I found this very interesting. I was just curious as to what you guys might think of this. You can go here to read the whole article.

14 comments:

  1. PK! This IS interesting. I wonder what the author would think of someone like me who used to be a Republican and is now a Democrat? LOL! Messed up?!! HA! Hugs! Windy

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    1. I'm the same as you - dabbled with both sides, but you can see where I'm firmly entrenched now, both politically and fantasy-wise!

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  2. Hi PK, wow, this is very interesting. I will have to look at the whole article.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I thought it was thought provoking.

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  3. Independents don't ever get much mention, I fear. This article is a bit shallow, just like the platforms of both parties. It seeks to put people in one camp or the other. Thanks, but I can make up my own mind whether it has to do with my sexual preferences or my vote.

    Ella Just Saying

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    1. This wasn't a fifty year study with definite conclusions. It was simply a though provoking article.

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    2. It was funny, PK, and it gave me a good laugh. Perhaps I have had to listen to one too many election commercials. Would much rather have a spanking, that's for sure!

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  4. From what I've read here, I agree.Repubs are always trying to stifle anything sexual but they seem to be do as I say not as I do, whereas Dems are more liberal in their thinking and in the bedrooom (or out).

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    1. I agree, that's what I'm seeing (and experiencing) too. And I love it.

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  5. Well, it certainly helps prove the thought of the grassis greener on the other side no matter what.

    Boo

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  6. This was an interesting read, PK. :) I don't know if it is fact, but it makes some sort of sense. A true study would be interesting. Having a third, independent group would be an important addition too. Fun read! Many hugs,

    ❤️Katie xoxo

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    1. I got a kick out of it. Very interesting.

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  7. What about all the people who don't care?
    Rosie Dee

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