I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Sunday, January 30, 2011

Making friends, missing friends

Over the years I’ve given a lot of thought to why I’m here. I began blogging four and a half years ago. I know why I started. I had typed ‘spanking’ in the search engine hoping, I think, just to find some spanking pictures. I’m not sure I even knew what blogs were. Very soon I felt a little like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz when she opened the door into a technicolor world. I found that I wasn’t alone in my desire to be spanked. I found others, so many others, who enjoyed spanking as fun and erotic and for discipline reasons involving submission. I had found myself. Through the blogs – reading them, writing, commenting, receiving comments, I felt acceptance in a way I had never experienced before.

I found amazing friends here. That was the biggest shock. Although you meet new people and make casual friendships all your life, finding true friends – those with whom you can share you real thought, your dreams, your desires – strange though they may seem to most of the world, is rare after fifty. I have always been very aware of those that read my blog, whether they comment or not. Except for some Fantasy Fridays (where I really think the comments are directed to the different writers) I’ve answered nearly every comment that anyone has ever made. I know that some people are where I was so many years and they are just trying to find other in the spanking world that they can relate to. I know there were times I felt very close to some people who didn’t even know I was alive back before I began blogging or even began commenting.

Anyone who reads here knows I don’t always keep on topic. That’s never bothered me because I liked showing that spanko have a wide variety of interest, our marriages of course but also our kids, our jobs, our churches, our hobbies – we’re well rounded people!

Three wonderful blog have come to an end. These bloggers were kind enough to let us know that they were not going to be posting any longer. That’s much kinder than those that just vanish and cause those of us who have read and cared about them to wonder what has happened. Janet, SugarAnne and B’Man explained there reasons well and it seems that they both blogged and have decided not to blog for very legitimate reasons. But I’m still sad. I miss people when they leave the blogging world. I’m happy that they say they will still be reading some and hopefully commenting too. But I if I had my way they would all have just said “Right now we won’t be blogging regularly. If we have something we what to say or share we’ll pop in and let you know.” Okay that’s selfish on my part but that’s the way I feel.

I like my blogging friends, I hate to lose touch with any of them and I hope that my readers will let me know that they are out there because that the reason I blog. I love the contact with other.


  1. PK, yes it is sad, especially if you are a regular reader and feel a connection.
    I have cut back reading and commenting a lot because of this.
    Love and warm hugs,

  2. Oh, how sad. I didn't know about SugarAnne and B'man, although I did know Janet was signing off.

    Still, there are lots of new friends to be made, as Bonnie's In with the New shows us regularly.


  3. You have written so well what i have been thinking...thank you!

  4. sixofthebest9:39 AM

    Yes, some of the greatest moments in my life, have been the friends I made, as a 'spanking lurker'. Bonnie of 'My Bottom Smarts', Hermoine, of 'Hermoine's Heart', 'Erica Scott', and 'Chross', the movie magnate. Then there is Alex Birch, who passed away because of caner, who wrote some of the greatest spanking stories ever written. As one can see 'time marches on', for us 'spanking enthusiasts. But we all have 'one thing in common, we love 'spanking', in all its pleasureable ways.

  5. That's sad PK. I didn't know about SugarAnne and B'Man. Thanks for letting us know. I must pop over and wish them well.


  6. It's nice that they said goodbye instead of disappearing but it's always sad to see bloggers leave the community. Let's hope they eventually change their mind and return.


  7. Paul,
    I know I haven't seen you around as much as possible but I hope you always come by here.

    I know you're right but even with new blogs to read I really miss the old ones when they go away.

    I think there are a lot of us out here that feel the same way.

    I've met my best friends in life here. I wouldn't have missed what I've gained from blogging for anything.

    You know me - I hate losing people out here.

    I feel the same way. I hope they will still be around some.

  8. I'm here i do read but i can't find your follow me thingy lol i guess help a girl out

  9. Thank you for the kind words, PK. Being part of the spanko community through the blogosphere was an enriching year, and we’ll never leave the neighborhood, but the energy we put toward writing on a regular basis was beginning to be a treadmill. This is best left to the people like you who have the talent and energy for long term consistency and fresh subject matter. I wouldn’t have given up this past year for anything, and you and Cassie have been a huge part of my inspiration throughout. We’ll be looking in on you and enjoying your posts as always.


  10. Thanks PK. This warms my heart.

  11. here to say hello :-)

  12. Daisy,
    I'm glad you're here. My follow thingy is way down on the left side. Just keep scrolling, you'll find it.

    See SugarAnne,
    That's why I want you around. You make me feel good! I'm glad you will be around.

    I'm glad. Now take good care of SugarAnne.

    I'm always glad to hear from you.

  13. Im sad with you... they will be missed.