I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Wednesday, August 22, 2018

Logical for us

I really enjoyed Windy’s post the other day and it reminded me of something LJ told me while he was here for the reunion. Most of you probably know that New York City has large gay community. They know a great deal about one another’s history. 

One of LJ 's friends, Tag, had recently gone home for his father’s birthday – at the insistence of his mother. It didn’t go particularly well. There were hateful words and smoldering silences. Upon returning to NY, Tag didn’t seem particularly upset. The visit had gone the same as past visits and none of it was unexpected.



Getting together with a group of his friends when he got back he told them, “It was what I expected. I need to go there occasionally, they’re my biological family. But thankfully you guys are my logical family. And I’m glad to be back home.”

Logical family! I loved it and not only is it perfect for the gay community I think it’s perfect for our community. Many of us have spent years, sometimes decades, hiding who we are, afraid to come out and talk about the longing and desires many of us were born with. Few of us share this part of ourselves with our biological families, but here with other’s like us – our logical family, we can finally be ourselves.

Thank you for being my logical family.

24 comments:

  1. Hi PK, Windy's post was awesome, she summed it up well. It is wonderful to be part of a community that not only accepts you, but who encourage you to be the real you.

    Logical family. I like it! Such a shame that Tag hasn't found that acceptance with his biological family. That is sad.

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    Roz

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    1. True, but Tag isn't sad. He had no ill will toward his biological family but he knows that he is loved and respected by his logical family.

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  2. Windy wrote a great post there. I am so happy to have people in my life with whom I can be my true self. Logical family is a good description.
    Rosie xx

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    1. It truly does sound real to me.

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  3. Anonymous10:23 AM

    PK,
    My logical family is so very important to me. Great post, PK.
    Meredith

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    1. Thanks, Meredith. I'm glad I found my logical family.

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  4. I love it! That’s a perfect description for those who mean so much. It’s good to hear that this fellow has family that supports him despite being logical or otherwise, we all need somebody. Thanks for sharing this one.

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    1. I think we find our logical family through out our lives. Whether we love our biological or not we still find others that are more like our real family.

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  5. PK, I love this post! I like the way you think. What a beautiful way for Tag to describe his chosen family -- logical -- and for you to apply to yourself and our sweet community here. Lovely post! Hugs! Windy

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    1. I've often thought of us as 'being in the closet' so I've compared us to coming out to one another here. And it feels GREAT!

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  6. Wow, did this post ever pull on my heart strings. Thank you so much for sharing. Logical family, what a beautiful thing! Even though my parents had to move in, we do not have a great relationship, my mom especially was very hateful while I was growing up, and told me every chance she could. A few women have taken me in as an adopted daughter about 20 years ago, and I am so blessed by them, and they continue to make me feel loved and wanted. I think I'll tell them of this term. :)

    I look at my daughter, and can't imagine having that kind of hate for her as Tag's family, no matter what she told me about herself. Maybe that is because my own mother hated me so much for so long... I'm not sure. I might not agree with all the decisions my daughter makes down the road, but I'll always be there for her. I'm glad Tag has his logical family.

    I cannot tell my family about our lifestyle, but have told two very close friends and am debating on a third. It was freeing to have them know. I have never met any of the ladies online, we live too far away, so it's extra special to have friends I can share with in person, even though they don't practice themselves.

    Hugs, EsMay

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    1. I’m so happy you had those women who were there to step in as your logical family. I’m like you, there is nothing my children could do that could make me stop loving them.

      I am way luckier than most. Although I still understand the need for this part of life to remain private for most of my friends here, I feel very free. All my family and friends know of the books I write. And even better – no one cares. I’m grateful it worked out this way for me.


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  7. Thanks for being part of my logical family.

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  8. Great thoughts PK!
    Windy post and yours touch on something very important. We all have a deep desire to be loved for who we are. That may be our chosen, logical family or our own biological family.
    Glad Tag has a good logical family!

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    1. Me too. I was nearly fifty when I found this group. I was really fine hiding this big part of myself - but, wow, was it a relief when I no longer had to.

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  9. Logical family, I love it and it's perfect for our community and I'm happy to be part of it.

    I'll have to go and read Windy's post.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. I'm so happy we all found one another.

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  10. PK, I love this! What a nice way to describe the feeling of family that comes with having others to share our very personal thoughts with. I will remember it and share it with some friends who have various reasons for not being close to their biological families. I think using "logical family" will give them comfort. Thank you.
    Rosie Dee

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    1. I guess as adults most of us have both and we're doubly blessed if we love both.

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  11. Logical family is a perfect name! I have been blessed with both, but there is something extremely comforting knowing my family can grow by my own choosing.

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    1. I agree completely! Biological can be wonderful, but that's not always so. Logical is always wonderful!

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  12. I feel lucky to both have great biological and logical family. Thank-you for being a part of my logical family. Hugs

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