TBT - What are your ten?

This was a questioned posed by Bonnie many, many years ago. I hope some of my blogging friends will take this questions and post your own answers. These were my answers back at the beginning of this blog and they are still true.

What are the 10 things, thoughts, or ideas you would most like readers to take away from your blog?

1. If you are turned on by spanking (and you know who you are) tell your partner today! Do not waste one more minute. The worse he could say is – not interested, and you have lost nothing.

2. People who love spanking are very normal people. We are nurses, teachers, secretaries, lawyers. We look after our kids, sometimes our parents; we sometimes teach Sunday school and bake cookies for school parties. We are NORMAL!

3. Being spanked by someone you love and trust make you feel cherished, safe and loved in a way that nothing else can.

4. In a spanking relationship, the relationship becomes the core of your life. Other things like work, neighbors, chores, errands, etc. are just things you do. Real life is you and your partner.

 

5. If this has always been a fantasy and you are just getting ready to try it for real you need to know: Spankings hurt! They can hurt like hell. But you will still love the experience and the feeling afterwards money can’t buy.

6. Sex after a spanking is the greatest thing since sliced bread! It’s your birthday, it’s Christmas morning, it’s winning the lottery. This is coming from someone who simply hated sex, I loved my husband, but I hated sex. Now I can’t get enough. I have the most happy, stunned husband on the planet.

7. Be understanding of other people’s chosen lifestyle. People are different, that’s a good thing. Some would say I’m a pervert for this kink. I’m not. My husband and I love each other and hurt no one. Be understanding of other and live and let live.

8. Look for toys where ever you can find them. Kitchen supply stores, hardware stores, pet supply stores. Always be on the lookout for items that would not attract attention in the bedroom. Fly swatters, belts, slippers, back scratchers. Remember your kids are everywhere, many toys can’t be left out but these can.

9. Men if you are reading here please don’t let us down. If we have finally told you that this is what we want and need, understand that we have probably been thinking about this, dreaming about this for years. It’s not a spur of the moment request. We want it, we yearn for it, and we need it. You are the only one we trusted with this embarrassing secret. If you try it once and then stop, we may never have the courage to bring it up again and we are going to feel a bit rejected, a bit lonely and a bit sad.

10. Men can’t read our minds. I know that's disappointing, but they are only men, so cut them some slack. We can’t give up either. Talk with them, explain things to them, tell them which blogs to read. I can’t look at my husband and talk to him about this yet but I email him a lot! I can get going with words. He seems to love it. If it’s not working out like you expected – keep working at it, it’s worth it. Don’t give up!

Blogger question

Can anyone tell me why my comments on blogger are no longer coming to my email? I don't know if blogger has changed something or if I've  accidentally done something to shut it off. I'd really like it back so I can see when someone comments on a post that might be several days old. Is the same thing happening to anyone else?

I hope you'll join me

I have a little project I’m working on and I hope some of you will join me. I like to post and I like to be on topic every once in a while. There is some spanking going on at our house, we’re talking, all is well. But still after all these years it’s hard to come up with new posts. 

I’ve had two new friends who recently took on the monumental task of going back and reading allmy post. That’s over 2,200 posts! I haven’t even done that, but they have inspired me to look back and think about some of them. I believe it was Bonnie who aptly pointed out long ago that when we each began out blogs, when spanking might have been pretty new to us and the excitement and exploring was the greatest, we wrote some really interesting posts – and since we were new bloggers, very few people saw them. Several of my friend out here are five or more years into blogging. Maybe it’s time to look back.

I’m going to put up some of my older posts as a Throwback Thursday for at least a month or so. I’m having fun reading them and I know many of them will be new to most of my readers. I hope some of you will look back and decide to join me on Thursdays to share some of your early post with us too.

No Surprise

If you read this post. I don't think you'll be surprised by this one. 

Meet my grandpup, Maggie.

Fantasy Friday - The Agony Aunt

I am so happy and excited today to be able to host another fine writer of a brand-new Fantasy Friday story. And I almost missed this one! People – don’t forget to check your spam, the weird internet goblins sometimes grab important stuff to hide there. This might be a good time to remind you that if you do send me a FF story and you don’t hear from me in forty-eight hours, I probably didn’t get it. Try again! Or even tell me in a comment to go look for it. I never what to miss one.

Today’s story is from a good friend and fellow blogger, Rosie Jones from Rosie’s are Red. I’ve always loved this blog title! Today’s story is based on an article she remembers reading from the 80’s. Advice columns were all the rage then before we all started blogging our questions and answers. I think you will all relate to this wonderful story!

The Agony Aunt

Dear Sylvia,

I wouldn’t normally write to a ladies’ magazine for advice but I

really need help from a woman’s perspective. My wife of many years has asked me to spank her as a kind of foreplay. I am shocked and horrified by this request. I adore my wife and worship the ground she walks on. I wouldn’t harm a hair of her beautiful head. Can you please explain why she would want to turn a loving husband into a wife beater? She is being very persistent.

Yours, a bewildered husband.

Dear Bewildered Husband,

Firstly, let me assure you that the last thing your wife wants is to turn you into a wife beater. Many women find being spanked a real turn on, adding some extra spice in the bedroom. They do not want a beating.

As your wife wants this so much, could you not give it a try? You would have to make it sting a bit to get the juices flowing but that is very far removed from a beating. Why not give it a go? You might find that you come to enjoy it for the pleasure it gives her. 

Yours, Sylvia. 

--o0o--

Jared Conway had felt foolish writing to an agony aunt but there had been no one else he could turn to. It had been a month since he had sent off his query. Now, he was holding his wife’s magazine open at the response and the advice was not what he had been hoping for. 

Kirstie Conway had always had a fascination with spanking but had thought she must be some kind of freak. She had buried all thoughts of it until she watched a Fifty Shades movie with a friend, which had rekindled her desire. She had read Sylvia’s advice but it had been a while since she had last raised it with Jared, so she supposed the writer must be some other horrified man. Besides, she couldn’t imagine Jared writing to an agony aunt. She thought of showing the article to him but remembered the revulsion on his face every time she’d brought it up and couldn’t bear to see that again. For his part, Jared was surprised and relieved that she had not shown him the piece in support of her cause.

--o0o--

They were watching an old John Wayne movie one evening when, too late, Jared realised it was the one in which Maureen O’Hara got spanked. When it got to ‘that’ scene he glanced at Kirstie and was shocked to see the naked longing on her face. 

He felt a twinge of guilt then. She’d always been a willing playmate in the bedroom but he had refused the only thing she’d asked of him. He loved to squeeze and stroke her bottom but could he bring himself to smack it? Turn that creamy skin red? And what if he made her cry? It was unthinkable.

Months passed by and he put all thoughts of spanking out of his mind. He thought Kirstie had too, until the afternoon he came home early and heard clapping coming from the den. It wasn’t like her to watch daytime TV and he decided to tease her about neglecting her chores. Opening the door quietly, he was about to call out to her when he realised she was watching a video of a woman being spanked on her bare bottom.

“Darling?”

Kirstie nearly jumped out of her skin and, as she whirled round, he saw to his consternation that she had tears running down her face.

“Sweetheart, whatever is it?”

“I wish it were me,” she sobbed. “I wish you would spank me.”

Pulling her into his arms, he rubbed her back and stroked her hair until the tears subsided. As he held her, Sylvia’s words came back to him, “Try it, you may find you come to enjoy it for the pleasure it gives her.” 

Leading her to the sofa, he told her he hadn’t realised how much it had meant to her. He wouldn’t be able to spank her in the same way as she had seen in the video but he would do his best to make her bottom sting. She assured him she wouldn’t need to be spanked very hard; just thinking about spanking turned her on.

Jared was nervous as hell the first time. He didn’t know how he was going to bring himself to do it. He had looked on the Internet for guidance on ‘How to spank your wife’ and found an article from a top shelf magazine with that exact heading. It advised spanking in three parts: twenty light spanks to warm up, another twenty with a wooden spoon, followed by some rubbing to lessen the sting. Obviously the wooden spoon was out; there was no way he was going to use that.

At Kirstie’s suggestion they decided on role-play to make the first time easier. Heaven knows, she had fantasised enough times and wasn’t short of ideas. She would be a wife who had overspent her budget and Jared was to be the indignant husband who would teach her a lesson. Jared’s instinct was to spank fast to get it over with but Kirstie had anticipated that, guiding him on how to measure out the spanks with a short space between each. They both felt a little awkward as he helped her over his knee and adjusted her position. Taking a deep breath he began the scolding that was to accompany the spanking, his hand rising and falling in time to his words,

HOW. MANY. TIMES. HAVE. I. TOLD. YOU. NOT. TO. OVER. SPEND. ON. THE. BUD-GET?   DON’T. DO. IT. A-GAIN. 

Kirstie had squealed from pure excitement as the first spank fell and soon began to squirm as she felt the promised sting building in her behind.

Once it was over, Jared began to rub her pink cheeks and, as his hand strayed between her thighs, the wetness there left him in no doubt that the spanking was a success.

Spanking had given their bedroom activities a whole new dimension and it wasn’t long before Jared began to enjoy spanking Kirstie. He loved to watch her bottom turn a rosy pink under his hand and the way it lifted, almost imperceptively, to meet the next smack. His only problem was the bulge in his trousers. He hated the idea that hurting his wife aroused him. Kirstie simply giggled and told him that she and his manhood relished the spankings so he was out voted two to one. She giggled again as a swift swat met her behind. 

--o0o--

Some months later...

Dear Sylvia,

 A few months ago you published a letter from a bewildered

man whose wife had asked him to spank her as a means of foreplay. Coincidentally, I had asked the very same thing of my husband not long before, with the same result. I’m glad to say that my husband had a change of heart and it has been wonderful; sex has never been so good!

Yesterday, though, during a heated argument, he held up his hand and said if I didn’t stop hollering and settle down he would put me across his knee. I love the sexy spankings but don’t like this turn of events one little bit. This morning I can barely sit. He says I’ve always been a bit of a handful and wishes he’d thought of it years ago. How can I get my adoring husband back?

Yours, Red Bottomed Girl

Dear Red Bottomed Girl,

I’m afraid this is a classic case of ‘be careful what you wish for’. Now that your husband has experienced the benefits that arise from a good old-fashioned spanking, he’s not going to want to go back to tears and tantrums. Once the genie is out of the bottle it’s very hard to put it back. Don’t despair though; in time you may join the many women around the world who positively revel in following their husbands’ lead. That may seem unlikely now but don’t dismiss the idea out of hand, keep an open mind. 

In the meantime, carry on enjoying your sexy fun and try to stay out of trouble.

Yours, Sylvia

~o~

Thank you so much, Rosie! I did enjoy it and I also remember a woman writing Ann Landers saying she wished her husband would spank her with a wooden spoon. I can't remember the answer, but I remember I wasn't happy with it. This fun story includes the spankee mantra - Be careful what you wish for. Something we all reflect on often. 

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Family loss

I’ve always been very close to my dad’s family. There were eight children, seven boys and one girl. I have twenty-four cousins and since Grandmother lived close to us I got to know all those cousins pretty well. Dad’s was the generation who grew up during the depression and fought in WWII. All of them served in the military and to my amusement, the one girl outranked all her brothers!

I always enjoyed listening to that generation. They told great stories, some were even true. They were all interesting and funny and got along amazingly well.  Once years ago, we cousins got together to make sure each of them got the same tee-shirt for Christmas. It read, “Often wrong, but never in doubt!” This was them for sure, but they were always good natured as they set out to prove one point or another.

 One of the worst things about getting older has been losing members of this greatest generation. But one by one we did. Two were left, one is ninety-three and in a nursing home. He’s not doing well and the other, the baby of the family at eighty-three, a practicing doctor. To the shock of us all we lost this youngest uncle last week. 

He and his wife were on a Disney Cruise when it happened. He’d taking a snorkeling excursion. He was an excellent swimmer. When everyone gathered to head back, he wasn’t among them. He was found by another boat who got him aboard and preformed CPR, but it was too late. 

He was a great and interesting man. He traveled the world, he and his wife went on many mission trips with their church, he traveled to Italy to see the Shroud of Turin. He was a skilled surgeon for many years and as those skills diminished he turned to pain management and wound care. I’m grateful he didn’t have to end his life infirmed and in pain, but I just feel like he wasn’t finished. I know there was more he wanted to do. He was a man of many talents and he’s going to be sorely missed.

Why let one person bring you down?

The book is out and I can now take a deep breath. It’s always fun when it’s complete and in the hands of the readers. I’ve had several emails from friends telling me that they enjoyed the book and you don’t know how much I appreciate that. Publishing a book is so different from blogging. I miss the back and forth of blogging where my readers leave a comment and I can respond directly back to them. 

There are several reviews on Amazon and most are very complementally and they truly warm my heart. But why is it that one really bad review can bring you down? One reviewer received the book for free in exchange for an honest review. I have no idea who they choose to send these free copies to. This reviewer didn’t like it and that’s fine. I realize that not everyone is going to like my books. But she admits she didn’t read the whole book. In her review she says: 

Sometimes DD can be entertaining, but here it was just boring. The few scenes that were included in the part I made myself read were short and boring.

Oh, well, you’d think she’d at least read the book before completely trashing it and giving a one star review. It’s kinda like when you get a new hair style. Twenty friends can tell you they love it, but when one person tell you it looks like crap, what are you going to remember?

If you actually read the book, unlike this lady, I would be honored if you’d write a review on Amazon. If you liked it, that wonderful, but even if you did you can write a polite review saying it wasn’t your cup of tea. First, I really want to know your thoughts. Second, hopefully decent reviews will drown this woman out. And third, Amazon just counts the number of reviews and getting more really helps. A one sentence review is just fine.

If you do choose to leave a review, please don’t let it seem that you ‘know’ me. Amazon is strange, often now authors can’t comment on other authors work. It’s like they think we are all best friends and are just writing reviews to help one another out. Geeze, of course I read the books of authors I’ve heard of and I try to be supportive, especially when it’s a really good book. But it’s not a conspiracy. So please ignore the bad review that is there and if you’re willing write a review telling me your honest opinion – I can take it, but please be polite.

If you’ve never left a review before – and with all the thousands of books I’ve read over the years, it never occurred to me to leave a review until I published my first one – go to the Amazon page for Educating Jenny. The second line under the title says ___ number of reviews. Click on that and scroll down until you see the box on the left that says ‘Write a customer review’. After you click that you’ll be at a page that has in the upper right hand corner

PK Corey

YOUR PUBLIC NAME

Change

I know some of you might be hesitant to have your name on a review for a spanking book, but click change and you can put any name you like, or just anonymous if you prefer.

If you are an avid reader, please, please think of doing this for every single book you read. It doesn’t matter if you’re JK Rowling or PK Corey, finding out someone loves your book is a wonderful feeling.

Educating Jenny is Here!

I'm so excited! 

It's out! It's live! 

Educating Jenny is here!

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There's an interview with me and with Cal and Jenny too!

You can also read a snippet over at the Reading Room today.

It didn't go as planned

I thought I’d tell you how my new program is going.  I’d like to tell you that switching my days around to go to the gym in the morning has worked beautifully. I’d like to tell you that but in truth, it stinks and I hate it. I don’t mind the gym and I did go five days last week. But I didn’t write a word. And not writing makes me feel blah. I try to write in the afternoons but I’m out of it. I can’t get in a rhythm and I end up napping then I wake feeling blah again.

That does not mean I’m giving up, it just means I’m going to have to do the gym in the afternoon. I can get up and write until about two and still get to the gym before everyone else gets off work and I’ll get home close to the time Nick does. Obviously, I can change it around a little as needed but I think this will work better.

But now for the good news. It does seem to be working! I’ve been on Weight Watchers a month now and I’ve lost seven pounds. Nice and steady and I have hope of making my goal for my June vacation.

I go to see my doctor about the bone density test on Thursday. And I’m happy to be able to tell her I’m really trying on the exercise and see where she wants to go from there.

Nick’s gone this coming weekend for one of his golf trips. I’m hoping I can get back into the book I was half way thorough when I had to stop to finish the edits on Educating Jenny. I just need to get my head back into it. 

What's happening?

I have a questions for those bloggers who are way more savvy with blogger than I am. On the days I put up a post, I general get between 200 to 250 hits  by midnight of that day. I got up and checked it this morning and by nine am I had 241 hits! What's happening? I feel like I might have been mentioned on another blog. I'd certainly like to thank them if this is what's happened. If any of you know if this has happened or what might be happening, please let me know.

I'm getting excited!

The big day is coming and I’m sure everyone is getting excited! It’s a marvelous love story and the nineteenth can’t come soon enough! Wait, no – I’m not talking about Harry and Meghan.

I’m talking about Cal and Jenny! The third book, Educating Jenny should be ready for all of you to read by Saturday the nineteenth! (Assuming Amazon does its part) So if you haven’t been invited to the royal doings, just stay home and read! I’ll post the Amazon link as soon as I see it’s live!

Here’s the blurb:

Educating Jenny

(book three in the Cal’s Law Series)

Cal’s young wife, Jenny, just wants to play house with her gorgeous, dominant husband, Sheriff Cal Bennett of Beaufort County.   Cal wants her to complete one more year of college before choosing a path.  Although Jenny is tired of school, she bends to her husband’s wishes and goes off to classes in a nearby city.  On their precious days together, Cal educates his beautiful girl to the idea of sexual fantasies and bedroom toys, and here, Jenny is an eager student!

She is applying herself to her classes and showing Cal she can be responsible when, suddenly, Jenny finds herself being stalked by a mysterious police officer who views every move she makes as criminal. Everyone she cares about knows that what ensues is not Jenny’s doing, but she can’t keep herself from giving in to some sweet revenge. Her plan starts out as a silly college girl prank, but soon lands her on the wrong side of Cal’s law.  

Now this book is all about Cal and Jenny, but you’ll also see other old friends pop up in this book. In this excerpt Cassie and Sue managed to talk the girls into taking them to a college party where they ran into a bit of trouble. Cal was not pleased.

Cassie stood and looked at Cal. “May I have a word with you in private?” she asked him. She headed to the terrace wondering if Cal would follow.

Cal stared at her as she passed, but didn’t move. “Just talk to her, honey,” Jenny pleaded.

Cal looked down at Jenny as she touched his arm. Being married to Jenny was still new enough to him that he was awe struck every time he saw her. He fought the urge to throw everyone out of the apartment and sweep Jenny off to bed. He couldn’t, his job didn’t allow him to blow this off as nothing.

Unable to keep the anger out of his eyes, he followed Cassie to the terrace.

She began the moment he stepped out. “I agree with every word Sue said. Mostly you have to know she was dead right about the girls. Neither Allie nor Jenny did one single thing wrong last night. Nothing. They didn’t want to go to the party, but Sue and I did, and we managed to get our way, as usual. Jenny did not drink one drop of alcohol and she most certainly did not smoke any pot.”

Taking a deep breath, she went on. “I drank, and I smoked. My decisions, my choice and I’ll deal with the consequences. All Jenny did was try and find us when we left the party and get us home safely, and she did. And if you lay a finger on her for that, then you’re just a damn, big, bully,” she paused. Cal just kept staring. “You better hear what I’m saying, Cal. You have no right to be upset with Jenny.”

They stared at one another for a moment longer, then Cal asked, “What’s Tom going to think about all this?”

“I suppose I’ll find out later,” she told him evenly, “and it’s none of your damn business. I’ll get my things now, my ride’s leaving.”

“If you were my wife, you wouldn’t sit for a week,” Cal told her evenly, referencing spanking directly for the first time in Cassie’s presence.

Cassie turned back, looking Cal in the eye she countered, “And if you were my husband I’d have already smothered you in your sleep.”

I also owe a hugh thank-you to two wonderful women out here. Ella, who did my beta reading. She helped me see where I needed more or better after looking over the first draft. And the other big thank you to Rosie Dee who helped me with the edits. There is no way a book will ever come out with NO errors, but after Rosie Dee goes over it – wow! Let’s just say it was the cleanest book I ever sent in! These are two wonderful women!

Change has to come!

This is in no way on topic – it is however, important to me. I hate and despise change. Some people love it I’m sure but not me, never me. I think of my career. Once I got my teaching job I never left that school, I never left the sixth-grade, I never even left the classroom I went into the first day! And all that was fine by me!

But changes are coming. I have no choice. I guess I began this change a couple of weeks ago with the decision to silently compete with my sister for weight loss.  I joined Weight Watchers again. But I didn’t have the ‘I can do this!’ feeling. More like, ‘Yeah, I guess I can try again, maybe…’

Every medical problem I have would be greatly improved, if not wiped out, if I lost weight. And then yesterday one more was added. Now the doctor doesn’t like my bone density. I have an appointment to discuss possible medications next week. I’m sick of medicines! I take too many as it is. I looked it up and the first thing it said on each site was – exercise!

So, my day changes.  I like to do my writing in the morning from about nine until about one or two. But the plan now is to head to the gym by nine. And not occasionally as I’ve been doing, but five days a week. I have to get the weight down and the bones stronger. This is the easiest of the changes. Food choices will be next and I’ve already made some changes there.

First goal to lose ten pounds by the time I head off on vacation in June. I’ve made a reasonable start. I’ll let you know how it’s going.

Checking in with Nick

I was a good little wife and sent the numbers to my husband about my challenge with my sister. Unfortunately, I didn’t quite make my goal. I’m working at it and I’m not discourages. I realize taking off weight takes way longer than putting it on. I wrote Nick telling him our numbers and how I’m feeling this week.

Later that evening Nick came to the living room with Bondie’s paddle. He told me I hadn’t done badly at all and he appreciated the effort I was putting in, but that

since I hadn’t made the goal I’d agreed to he was going to follow through. Bless him. It wasn’t a bad spanking, but I was stinging for sure when he finished. He pointed out that I’d been very close and added, “Work just a little harder next week or it will be a little harder next week.” I had to laugh as I rubbed my butt. The man does have a way with words.

Donna Steele - The Melting Series

Donna Steele has just re-released her 'The Melting Series' it's one of my favorites! I hope you'll go by here and check it out. And keep reading - she's hosting PK Corey as her author of the month!

https://mailchi.mp/cd47cb80594a/news-from-steelestories?e=680e246fc9

I'd love a few friends to stop by. I don't know how many of her friends are into spanking stories.