So many of us out here just
don’t know how lucky we are. There are ups and downs in any TTWD relationship.
But most of us have the option of talking with our guy and they have all been
willing to try this lifestyle.
I recently received an
email from a reader that pointed out what I know must be a problem for many
blog readers. This reader asked what to do if one is a true spanko – one who
has known about the need/desire for most of their life, yet there is no one in
their life to spank them?
There are people not in
any current relationship and there are people who have ask their significant
other to spank, but their partner, for whatever reason, is just not going to do
it. What can a person do if the desire is there, the longing for discipline and
there is no one to fill it?
I’ve talked to people who just
want to be spanked – often disciplined, but who aren’t looking for a love
connection. A sort of business deal would suffice them at this time in their
life, but again where do you look? I know some towns are going to have BDSM
clubs, but really – do you just walk in off the street? Most all options I can
think of are fraught with danger.
So on behalf of my readers
who had the question – do any of you have any safe ideas of where someone not
in a relationship could find someone to fulfil the need for spanking in their
life?
No idea at all, it must be so frustrating to always wonder. I wouldn't have a clue
ReplyDeletelove Jan, xx
Hi PK, I'm afraid I don't really have any inspiration either, other than online, Fetlife etc. Although, of course that does raise safety concerns.
ReplyDeleteHugs
Roz
Sorry PK I can't add my 2 cents worth. Too many creeps out there now, so safety issues would be high on the list.
ReplyDeletePity there is not a real life Corbin's Bend full of alpha males waiting for partners.
Hope you are enjoying your holidays and summer weather.
Hugs Lindy
You are right about the lucky part. I have even thought about this very same situation. I don't really believe that a true discipline relationship could exist without the trust being present first.
ReplyDeleteThe reason that the spanking is effective is that I know it is being given by a man I love and who I know loves me. A man I want to please.
A spanking relationship with a casual partner would be like having sex with a casual acquaintance. Pretty meaningless.
Ella From the Heart
Although I don't know for sure, I know there are clubs out there and also indidivuals who can be hired. Off the top of my head I think Spanking Minnesota http://spankingminnesota.blogspot.com/ might be able to help. I know there was a club in Tampa called Tampa Tanners and there were some who hired out. Just info I've gleaned from reading blogs over the years. Hope it helps.
ReplyDeletePK,
ReplyDeleteThis is a hard place to be and I have no advice here. Just sending thoughts and good wishes to that reader.
Meredith
Hi PK, :) Unfortunately I can't think of anything helpful. One might contact a high end store selling sexual/spanky things, and inquire from the staff. I am thinking of one in CA called Pleasure Island (I think that is the name). They might be able to steer one in the right direction. No matter the case, safety is key! All the best to your reader. Many hugs,
ReplyDelete<3 Katie
It's a hard one PK. Maybe look up clubs in the area. Go to one just to see and introduce yourself. SG's right there used to be one in Tampa called Tampa Tanners. Not sure if they are still going.
ReplyDeleteWish I could help.
Love,
Ronnie
xx