I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Lurkers = friends in hiding!

Welcome to Love our Lurkers Day!! Thank you to Bonnie for helping us organizes. Everyone is always welcomed here, I want everyone to feel free to read here whether you choose to comment or not but I would LOVE for you to leave a comment! I spend way too much time on the computer. Sometimes I think – enough, stop already! Because I know I will never really be able to taper off I guess I will either blog or stop. It’s an addiction and it will have to be cold turkey if I should someday decide to stop. But I have no plans to stop now. Talking to you all is my therapy, my relaxation, and my connection to friends.

Most of us got here the same way – we typed spanking into the computer and waited to see what came up. I was lucky that it brought me to a safe, sane place with people like me who enjoyed spanking as a way to bring closeness and communication to my marriage. I read, lurked, a long time before I ever commented. I didn’t think I had anything to add. I had not come out to Nick yet so I wasn’t being spanked. But finally I just couldn’t stand being on the outside looking in any longer. I knew these were my people, people that understood this strange desire I had hidden all my life. I just had to talk with them. Now I think back to all I would have missed in my life if I had stayed quiet. I would have missed the best friends I have ever had and I would have missed becoming the person I am today. And most of the time I really like who I am. I am pretty sure Nick likes her too!

And while I am talking to lurkers mostly I have one piece of advice to new bloggers too. When someone does take the time to comment, try to respond to them. I still lurk many places when I comment a time or two and the blogger does not respond I usually stop commenting. I keep reading but I assume they are not interested in a back and forth conversation. And that’s okay I know both commenting and answering comments takes time. But if you do comment here I will try my best to respond. I love the back and forth!

And while I am here asking you to please just say hello – feel free to go ahead and write a spanking story for Fantasy Friday, you know you want to! Okay, okay I’ll back off but please just say hello! You can email too elisspeaks@yahoo.com

Have a great day!!


  1. PK,

    You make ME want to delurk! Great post!


  2. Anonymous2:02 AM

    Very good post/thanks

  3. Anonymous4:24 AM

    Good post PK I am with you- if I get no response to a comment I leave on someone's blog I too stop commenting. I love getting comments on my blog. Of course I love your blog and FF!!

    I Gal

  4. Hi PK great post and so true, happy LOL day.


  5. Hi Spanky here! I'm not a lurker by any stretch, but wanted to stop by and say hello again and thank you for all you do!

  6. You never know what could happen with a comment. Friends could become family like you Pk.


  7. Anonymous7:51 AM

    Hi! I just discovered your blog a few days ago. I will be returning often! I love the Fantasy Friday stories and the current series is especially hot.

  8. Anonymous8:06 AM

    Hi PK,
    I pop by often and have a link to your blog on mine. It is fun to comment and get going with the "back and forth." Hope all your lurkers join the fun.

  9. Not a lurker but hey anyway..

  10. I stop by from time to time. Great post and have a good day.

  11. Hello! Just saying hello and blessings!

  12. Hi! Couldn't not leave a comment today, of all days. I am so glad that missing libido made a return. I think using it often helps keep it around.


  13. Anonymous12:17 PM

    Hi PK,
    I am mostly a lurker on your blog although I have left you a few comments before. I enjoy reading your blog and also your FF. I keep meaning to write a story for that. I'll try to do that soon for you. :)

  14. I have the day off so I have been watching the comments is fun!

    I hope there are pleanty of lurkers still out there that are willing to come out and say hey as the day goes on.

    LOL! That would be great!

    Love seeing you here.

    I Gal,
    Love seeing you here. I have to be better about commenting too. Now I would love to have a FF from you again!

    Hey Mina!
    I do enjoy LOL day!

    Hello to you too. Please stop by anytime.

    I finally got to where I can link others again (thanks to CeeCi) and you are there. I hope to be at your place more often.

    We are family that's for sure. I can always count on you.

    Thanks for coming by! I hope to hear from you often. I love FF too!

    This has been a good day so far. I hope everyone keeps coming.

    Lurker or not I always love hearing from you.

    Glad you are here and I will be by your place soon.

    Thank you so much for stopping by.

    That's a great idea and I do hope it works.

    Please keep coming by folks.

  15. PK, we love you too, lots.
    Love and warm hugs,

  16. Anonymous1:03 PM

    Not exactly a delurk... have enjoyed your blog for a long time now. Don't always comment though. Wish there was more time in a day. Want you to know your blog is a real favorite though.

    Todd & Suzy

  17. Hey PK, wanted to leave you a special shout out comment today as being the inspiration with getting me blogging through Fantasy Friday :-)
    You are a spanko blogoverse star!

  18. Anonymous1:48 PM


    Long time lurker here!

    I love spanking! I love everything about spanking! I love your friday fantasy!

    I also love meeting friends in LA...care to meet up with me?

    a lurker

  19. Anonymous2:15 PM


    Just stopped by to say thank you for all the encouragement your blog has bought me these past months.

    Keep In Touch


  20. PK honey,
    I read you every day. I have promised you a FF yet I haven't found the time to write it yet. I will do it some time. Until then please don't mind me lurking. Of course I will keep it up if you mind or not! You know I like to live dangerously!


  21. Hi PK,

    I'm not really a lurker. I visit your blog regularly. Keep up the great work.


  22. Anonymous5:18 PM

    Love you twin even if you did post a smart assed comment on my site!!


  23. Anonymous6:27 PM

    I used to read your blog 3-4 times a week and lost it for some reason. I'll have to remember to thank Bonnie for getting me here again. Love the new format!

    S. in Dalas

  24. Just the Heron Clan folk delurking to wish you a happy LOL Day.

    All the Best,

  25. Anonymous6:33 PM

    Love your blog. I really relate to where you are in your life! Thanks for the great posts.


  26. Anonymous6:39 PM

    Hi there!

    I have really enjoyed reading - it's funny really to feel like you know someone so intimately who doesn't even know you exist!!


  27. Hi PK,

    I come by regularly but don't often comment-- maybe because I'm often a week or so behind. Anyway, I love your kindness and fundamental cheerfulness, and Fantasy Friday is a lot of fun!

    Thanks for all you do,

  28. Anonymous7:18 PM

    Delurked officially last year. I read daily but only comment occasionally, I do enjoy your blog.

  29. Hi, PK!
    What's the saying? "Strangers are just friends that we haven't met yet."
    Having a blog is certainly one way to bring them out of hiding. LOL Day is another.
    Happy LOL Day to you!

    Dr. Ken,
    Spanking Minnesota

  30. Another first time commenter, long time reader checking in!

    Your blog was one of the very first I came upon when I began my online search of all things spanking related, and for that it will always hold special meaning to me. It helped me realize that I wasn't alone in this interest, and that there are really wonderful people out there who have it too :)

    Thank you,


  31. Hi, PK! Love your blog. I've commented before, but hope you're LOL day is going well.

  32. PK,

    I really enjoy reading your blog. Thank you for sharing your life. I look forward to the Fantasy Friday stories - please keep posting these. I may have to submit a story or two so that you have enough. Happy LOL Day. I am not a lurker anymore.

  33. I don't know that I'm really a lurker since I comment from time to time, but I'm popping in to say hi!



  34. Padme,
    I would love to have a FF from you.

    You and your comments are one of the things that keep me posting so much.

    T & S,
    More time in the day would sure help!

    Thanks for the thoughts. I hope this will get folks writing for me again. I am hurting for stories. Glad you are blogging.

    Graceful lurker,
    You never know. The folks I did meet up with I had talked to for two years. Keep talking.

    You are a great writer and I hope you will share another story with us soon.

    When you have time to write just tell us what is going on in your life. That beats fiction any day!

    Thanks Hermione,
    We'll both keep lurking until we have more time.

    Smart ass?? ME??

    S. in Dalas,
    So glad to have you back. I hope you will comment some.

    Great to hear from you!

    Hey Lynne,
    Would love to hear from you anytime.

    Thanks for stopping by. Now be fair tell me a little about yourself.

    Comment anyway, I'll get them. But comments or not, thanks for reading.

    Always glad to have you here.

    Dr. Ken,
    I will be by your place soon. Maybe then we can get to know each other better.

    A first time commenter! Thank you! Please comment again. It really nice to have a group to talk to about this special interest.

    Glad to see you here! I read you too.

    Thanks for the comment. I would love it if you would share a story with us. It is a good way to get to know people.

    You are welcome here anytime!!

  35. hello. i stop by from time to time. enjoy your blog. just i dont have anything to say because usually someone has already said it. i'll try to do better. take care.

  36. Anonymous5:55 AM


    Since you asked.... I am a 36 year old teacher and a mother of two. I have been spanked by the same man for 21 years and we are very happy. We have had long dry spells over the years depending on what was going on in our lives, but always come back to it. I bring up your blog everyday since I found it a month or two ago - I identify with so much that you say and am grateful to have these blogs to help me work through things even though you guys do not know I am here.

    Thanks again,

  37. Welcome lurkers! And thank-you PK. I love the back and forth too...it is so nice to have friends here! :-) Hugs, Terps

  38. Uh, that graceful lurker....

    Could that have been me?

    Or could it have really been a lurker?


  39. Hi Pk,
    Sorry I'm a day late but I did want to say 'Hi" and thanks for all the great blogging you do. Love to read it.

  40. CeeCi! My sister!!

    We know you are here now. Please join in and visit anytime you like. Another teacher - wouldn't you know it!

    You are one of my favorite people to hear from.

    Someone should spank you!

    Thank you, glad to know you read here!

  41. Please!!! Someone SHOULD spank me!

    LMAO....I can't believe you fell for it....LOL

    Did Eva fall for it too???

    Didn't "graceful" tip you off?

    How about the HUGS at the end?

    Sheez, you are really fun to trick!

    grace AKA a graceful lurker