I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Friday, May 25, 2007

In Charge

It’s official! I’m in charge! Do you know how much I hate being in charge? I do not have control issues. I can give up control of anything, well except Mollie. We recently redid our living room, took off all the paneling, put up wall board, and painted. It looks fantastic! Now don’t you think most women would have wanted to have a say about this, maybe check out the color before it was on the walls? Not me! Nick did all this as a surprise for me when I went with the sixth graders to Florida. In fact he was up a 4:00AM painting so I could see it as soon as I walked it. I had no idea he was going to do it. I would imagine some wives would have been outraged, I was trilled!! Control I do not need.

So why the hell am I in charge?? It’s all Nick’s fault that I am going to be grade level chairperson next year! If I hadn’t married Nick my name would be at the other end of the alphabet! I really do hate being in charge. My first job is getting the orders ready for next year I must compile all the orders for every one in my grade level. It is a pain in the butt, and where that can be wonderful – this isn’t!!

I had to call my first meeting today to explain how the secretary wants the orders turned in. If they had set out to make it as complicated as possible they couldn’t have done any have done a better job. And it was my job to not only tell them of this screwed up plan but try to explain it to them. As I told Eva today I have always been a wimp, at least in the past. But coming out, being so happy and confident in my real life, having friends like I have here has made a difference. All that plus turning 50 – I love being 50; I don’t feel I have to take crap from anyone! It’s great!!

So as I began a job I didn’t want, I was standing before those teachers, teachers who are the world’s best complainers when they don’t want to do something. I decided to start off right – I told them, “I got stuck with this job. I’ll tell you now that the way they want the order done is stupid. We have to do it this way anyway. I will take any and all complaints as a sign that you are volunteering to take my place and you will be welcomed to it.” What do you know – not one complaint!! I still hate being in charge!!

But the good news, the best news, when I come home, when we close the bedroom door, I don’t have to be in charge any more!


  1. Anonymous7:00 AM

    I feel your pain.... every last bit of it.

    And where did you find that awesome picture?


  2. You will do a fine job. I think you might even make some changes to the system.

    You and Nick have a great Holiday weekend! I can't wait to paddle you at the party.


    *hugs and grins*

  3. I am with you! I have had no choice but to be in charge for 18 long years! I am looking so forward to NOT forever and ever!


  4. Anonymous12:32 PM

    Nick is so sweet! Hard to believe such a nice guy can give a hard spanking. We should ask him to prove it. :grin:

    You sound like a great boss, too. Great idea on how to cut complaints off at the pass!

    T & S

  5. PK, I so enjoyed spanking you at the party, not a sign of any control there.
    Yes of course, hand it all over to Nick at the front door.
    Yes stymied from the word go, a stroke of genius
    I love giving good girls, any time.
    Warm hugs,

  6. Yea! PK!! I love how you shut them up!! You may hate it but sounds like you are good at it even if you aren't confident. I think though your last comment is exactly how I feel!!! At least how I want to feel!!! :-)


  7. PK, you are just totally awesome. You know that, right???? Nick sure does... thankfully. Otherwise we'd be having to whack him rather than the other way 'round...

    So what happened when he caught up with you tonight after the party?

    You and Ceeci were a hoot!!!!!!

    Love ya!

  8. You must deserve the honor of leadership and actually those who really don't want leadership are those who make the best ones. They let others talents be used to their fullest potential and make decisions only when they are absolutely needed and the buck literally stops with themselves.

    good for you!

  9. Being in charge does suck 'sometimes', I still find it hard to relinquish control though. But I am most definitely getting better, admittingly it is my hubby (to be) who is forcing this lol...

    Nick does sound like a sweetie, what a nice thing to do!
    And way to go you, for standing up to those teachers!!

    Big hugs and enjoy the rest of your weekend...
    Em x

  10. Anonymous10:58 AM

    At work I have to be in control. I like it there, where it belongs. But, like you, let me step through that door, and adios control!

    Sounds like you did a great job heading off all the whining and complaining. I'm proud of ya!

    ~Hugs and have a good weekend!

  11. I used to be in charge at work, and now that I'm not so much, I love it! I'm sorry for you, though, it sounds like you started it out right!


  12. Twin I know you do understand. I only find pictures where you send me.

    Thanks David,
    The really sad part is that we don't get Memorial Day off. I'm working tomorrow.

    Giving up control is one of my favorite things!

    Todd and Suzy,
    He has proven it again and again!!

    I have only conducted my first meeting, we'll see how nest year goes.

    Paul the party was wonderful!! Once Mollie is grown I will give away any and all control.

    Carye! Coming home and closing that door is the best feeling in the world!

    Tig! Great party. Let's just say my heavy handed husband did finally catch up with me!

    Thank you! I would rather hid in the back of a room somewhere but if they are going to insist I have the job I am going to try my best!

    Em, I have found that I can get Nick to do anything I want him to as long as I am not in a hurry! I have only wanted the living room changed for 24 years!!

    Thanks. Lets hope my luck keep up!

    I don't mind being in charge of my classroom but that is the only place!