Books and answers

I can tell you what I’ve been doing lately in one work – reading! It was Sunnygirl who first mentioned Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy to me. Then Florida Dom mentioned it on his site too. I used to read all the time, that is until I began blogging. Now I seem to spend more time writing than reading. I did take the time to read The Hunger Games trilogy (I seem to be into trilogies lately) and I really enjoy all of them and I’m looking forward to the movie.

But let me tell you – Fifty Shades of Grey is the hottest thing I’ve read in… well maybe it’s the hottest thing I’ve ever read. I think someone called it lady porn. I’ll accept that and make no apologies for enjoying it. I could see some vanilla’s being offended, but it was certainly right up my alley. I highly recommend these books to anyone here in our community.

I had very good question from Faerie the other day. She asked:

Someone considering starting ttwd comes to you for advice and you can only tell them one thing. What would it be?

My best advice would be to NOT wait as long as I did to share this with your significant other. I knew I was interested in this type of relationship since pre-puberty. I hid these feeling from Nick for 23 years, which meant I meant I hid who I really was from him all that time. I robbed us of years of closeness. It’s something I can’t go back and undo.

So if you know this is something you want to try, don’t wait another day. Tell the person you love. Will they understand - no? But will they think you’re crazy – no. From my experience and what I’ve read of the experiences of my friends, most guys are willing to listen and try. I can pretty much promise it will not be problem free. It’s like climbing a mountain. You climb a while together and then one or both of you will slide back down a ways. Either of you may sit there a while before you start the climb again, but I think most who try it will see the benefits enough to start the climb again. Some reach the meadow at the top. We’re still climbing, but the climb is way easier than when we started.

So there’s my best advice. I hope it helps someone.

I have enjoyed answering questions. I’ve been blogging nearly 6 years and it’s always great when I get an idea that sparks an idea for a post. So please, ask away. Until then I’ll be reading!