Sunday, September 20, 2009
Report card time
I’ve said many time how much coming out to Nick has improved our lives. It’s so very true. Our marriage was fine before, we weren’t unhappy, we weren’t angry, neither of us was ever unfaithful, we never considered divorce, never had any reason to consider it. We were just two nice people in a union that was cordial but not passionate. Our love life needed work. But we didn’t spend much time working on it. This might have been our report card for the first part of our marriage.
Talking about important things D
Him being dominate F
Me being submissive F
Me working for a healthy lifestyle F
Our sex life D-
Our report card has changed a great deal. We’re not perfect but in my opinion we have made great improvements. He’s how I see it now.
Talking about important things B+
Him being dominate C
Me being submissive C
Me working for a healthy lifestyle B-
Our sex life A++!!
So you see I think one thing in particular we are doing fantastic with. I think our sex life just keeps getting better and better. I also think we have improved on everything else. But there is still need for work.
I would love for him to be a more dominate at times. And I would like for me to me more submissive at times. I mean I wish on a few things he would take a firmer stance and be bossy. And I wish I would be a little more respectful of his wishes on things. I think because he is so easy going and isn’t always going to be firm on any rules or consequences then I some times blow off what I see as suggestions or request rather that doing what he asks. I’m working on it.
But I think we are in a great place! Our improvements and changes have been impressive to me. I am so happy with where we are and I'm happy that we are still changing and growing closer. We don't have to 'get it right' we just have to love each other and continue on our journey.