I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Wednesday, May 30, 2007

“One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives.”

Eva gave me some wonderful mind blogging ideas and they will make for great summer writing. But somehow sitting and staring at 12 year old these ideas just didn’t flow. There is another post however, that has been writing itself in my mind and that did flow freely.

May of last year I was coming off a bad time. My father had died the previous November and I had spent the last 2 years helping with his care. In February I had been hit with a form of arthritis that had me in horrible pain for several months – I was nearly unable to walk alone. Thanks be to God, and the fine doctor I went to, the cure was quick and complete! In May I felt that I had been handed my life back and I wasn’t planning on wasting it!!

I knew that spanking had put a real spark in our marriage with our first attempt a few years before so once again I typed in “spanking” on the computer. Trumpets sounded, the heavens opened and a shaft of light hit the screen as My Bottom Smarts came up!

I had gone looking for a way to spice up our marriage and boy howdy, did I find it!! Nick still thinks he died and went to heaven because of the unbelievable changes in his wife of 23 years. The spanking is so much fun!! The sex is incredible!! And for me, better than both of those things, is the closeness and love we now have that keeps growing.

But you know that is not even what this post is about. I knew when I went looking on the internet that was what I was looking for, something for our marriage – I never believer it would come to me in such abundance but I knew that was what I was looking for. But my other find, the other life changing event that occurred, was never expected even in my wildest dreams. I was reading everything I could find out here Bonnie, Cassie, Grace and Tiggr where my earliest friends. I finally made a tentative comment or two but then I stumbled onto some writing that was me! Everything that I had thought for some years, everything I had felt – here it was laid out for me. So I commented, July 16, 2006 I told Eva:

“Please crawl out of my head; it’s a bit crowd in here with both of us.”

You know Eva is stubborn, she doesn’t always listen. Thank God she didn’t listen then! She didn’t crawl out. In fact she crawled on in and brought in a recliner, kicked back and made herself at home. And I have never been more grateful!

I know that at 49 I did not expect to be making a new best friend. That sounds like an out of date term to some of you but remember I teach 12 year olds. With girls (regardless of age) the term is powerful. Eva is the best girl friend I have ever had or ever expect to have.

After my first comment she emailed me and before the day was over we had shared that we were both teachers – math teachers at that. Again that was July we have pretty much had a running conversation ever since then. I don’t think we have missed a day talking since then unless one of us did not have access to a computer. It didn’t take long to break down the “this is a stranger I met on the internet” barrier. Pretty soon we were talking on the phone and sending each other pictures. I even have Adams email address and phone number although I haven’t used them – yet!

I have shared things with her that I have never shared with any other person. Yes that includes telling her things I have never told Nick although I am doing 100% better about opening up to him in large part because of Eva’s constant hounding me to do so. She is persistent! Sometimes she can be sympathetic – although being a Yankee her sympathetic comment sometimes consists of “Gee, sucks to be you!" Sometimes she yells at me. I mean you ask a simple question like “Why do I have to get my cholesterol down?” and she yells “Because I said so!” Can you tell she is a teacher with 3 kids of her own?

Eva is not perfect, she can be very stubborn and even had the gall the other day to ask me in what ways she was stubborn – I sent here a list! But there is one real problem, and I don’t mean to be critical, but there is no other way to say it – she sounds like a Yankee! Sorry if that sounds harsh but I try to tell the truth out here. And I need to take the time here to say – I do not have an accent, no one around here does. Well with the possible exception of Mollie, she sounds a little southern.

So here we are not quit a year later and finally, finally we get to meet. No one knows how excited I am. We both have apprehensions about the meeting which we have shared with each other. Her doubts are ridiculous and mine – well I just have to live with the worry. She is a good enough person to love me anyway.

There are so many people I have come to love out here. There is no one out here that I do not want to meet and visit with. I don’t know why Eva and I moved into each other’s head and made ourselves at home but it was meant to be. We tease about being twins. We may not actually be twins but we are sisters. Maybe we don’t get as close to people in our real lives because we won’t say to the friends we see daily “I love you, I am a better, happier, wiser, funnier person because you came into my life!” But that is what I am saying to Eva. I mean every word of it! Hurry and get here guys, we can’t wait!


  1. The meeting of the twins will go down in history. Enjoy your summer off. I'm glad to have my cyber friends they are the ones you can really talk to and care.

  2. **speechless**



    That's a lie.

    I love you too twin. Like you, I don't think I've ever had or ever will have a friendship again the likes of which we have found in each other.

    I'm humbled by your post. Thank you.

    See you soon. In the meantime, guess what??? TODAY is THE LAST DAY OF KIDS for me. Oh, wait. You know that!! Hehehe.

    Your turn is coming and when it does we're going to party.

    Oh, and for the record, everyone... when I asked her in what ways I am stubborn I not only did NOT expect a list... I didn't expect such a freakin' LONG list that was 100% accuarate.


    Big hugs~

  3. very nice post. looking forward to seeing you both in just a couple weeks. two Math teachers in one room(HELP LOL) Yes...I agree with you Eva is stubborn.....but I love her anyway. She is not as stubborn as she used to be. It is a little scary thinking she has a twin out there.
    see you soon, counting days here.

  4. Anonymous7:31 AM

    That was a great post, PK. You two certainly have been connected from the get go of your blogs. I noticed right away last summer.

    Very exciting for the two of you to meet face to face. Can't wait to hear all about it.

    Debbie :)

  5. PK, you and Eva are an inspiration to all of us, and just one example of the amazing friendships made here online. Heck, I found my adoptive mom out here, and my own new very best friend, plus a whole pack of other folks I adore equally and profoundly! Everyone out here means a great deal to me and each had helped me in some way (or many), often times without ever even knowing it.

    I can't wait for you two to meet, and will be thinking loads of happy thoughts for the four of you!

    Love ya,

  6. PK, this is a lovely post, I'm so glad that you and Eva met, you are so good for each other and you brighten our world.
    I have made so many friends, sisters, nieces and possibly daughters here in our little world, I won't make a list, you know who you are.
    Love this post, love you so much PK.
    Warm grateful hugs,

  7. What a lovely post! Have a great summer break!

  8. I'm so glad that you two are meeting in person! You probably all know that Gem and I (I can't ever say that without thinking Gemini) are best friends who also met on the internet. Fortunately, we live only about 40 minutes apart. Both of our families all have met now, and we often get together. I know that you and Eva AND your hubbies will have a great time together!


  9. Excuse me???

    I happen to have it on good authority that you DO, indeed, have an accent.

    Man, I wish I could be there for this meeting. Sounds fantastic.

    As for Eva, we already knew all that about her, yet we love her anyway!


  10. PK, this was a very touching post! I am so happy that you and Eva found each other, true friendship is so important in life!

    I find it incredible also, just how many wonderful people write out here in cyber space.

    I have made fantastic friends, since I started blogging 2 months ago.
    Even found a grams LOL!...

    I hope you girls have a FANTASTIC time when you get together, don't do anything I wouldn't do ;-)

    Big hugs
    Em x

  11. truely you guys are an inspiration! You are twins/sisters in so many ways. I too have a close close friend though I didn't meet her this way, but it is truely humbling when you find such a special person. You are both truely very very special people. I am honored to call you my friends!


  12. Wow ... this is just awesome! And a beautiful post!!

  13. David,
    It's amazing, just amazing!!

    I do love you, but trust me - I really held back on the list! But more important than anything you are a FREE WOMAN!

    I think Nick agrees with you about the danger of having 2 of either of us around! Don't worry about the 2 math teacher thing. If Eva wants to talk math she can talk to Nick you and I can sit by the pool or watch a movie!

    I has been quite a year! Lots of fun!

    I think we have all found family out here! You two are very blessed in this department.

    Thanks Kallisto, I hope the same for you. Love hearing from you!

    Gemini! LOL!! Love it. I am hoping Mollie, LJ and Collin will all be around to go out to eat one night.

    Are you going to believe what you heard or what I am telling you! When you head for the east coast you let us know!

    The friendships out here have really blown me away! What wonderful people!

    I am so glad that you are a part of the group. Now if we can talk PS into letting you blog once in a while!

    I love it when you stop by, this is such a good way to begin friendships and keep in touch.

  14. Actually, I'm thinking of getting Eva a book on Southern translation.

    I'm pretty sure she might need it.

  15. I am with Grace. I wish I could be a fly on the wall for this meeting!


  16. You should do PSA's for spanking! The improvement in your sex life and marriage... along with the wonderful new close friend you've made... really do put the happy face on spanking, that spanking deserves. Plus, spanking has helped make you healthier. Love, friendship, health... that's everything!

    ~Todd & Suzy