I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Friday, July 22, 2016

Ten years ago today...

Sorry, but there is no Fantasy Friday story today. It's a special day for me and I wanted to share this instead.

There are some milestones you expect in life. As I child I someday expected to marry and have children and I am very grateful that these things came to pass. Once I was married I fully expected to some day have a tenth, twentieth and thirtieth wedding anniversary. I will be grateful, but not shocked to have our fortieth, fiftieth and beyond. But never during the majority of my years did I ever think I’d be celebrating ten years of blogging.




When my doctor found a way to release me from crippling pain I was in for months I chose not to waste the second chance I felt I’d been given. When I typed my life long fascination, spanking, into google I don’t think I really knew what a blog was. I was looking for some interest spanking pictures or maybe a good story. What came up, after a little searching, was Bonnie’s blog, My Bottom Smarts. This was a chance finding that completely changed my life.

I was forty-nine at the time and for the first time in my life I found I wasn’t alone with my ‘weird’ thoughts and longings. Other people were also fascinated by spanking, by the thought of being spanked, even disciplined. They were normal, happy, hardworking women (mostly women). As I found more blogs I found women just like me – they talked about their children, their husbands, their careers, their pets – and they talked about spanking. The word I could barely say out loud, they were discussing. They talked of implements, pervertibles, corner time, rules, consequences… I had never been more captivated in my life.





I had to be a part of it, first as Cassie, because I wanted to share her stories. But I also wanted to be me and ask all the questions I was so curious about. On July 22, 2006 I put up my first post on New Beginnings and my life has never been the same. Just a very short list of what blogging has given me:

My husband. Nick and I changed from pleasant roommates to a close, loving married couple.

I made the most amazing friends anyone could imagine.  Friends who were just like me, and who never made me feel I ever had to hide who I really was.

Way more confidence in every aspect of my life – the beginning of my belief in my own self-worth.

My writing career.

And everyone of these changes came about because of my readers. My first few comments were very encouraging and began building my confidence. Many commenters became friends and their friendships made me even stronger. Readers encouraged me (and occasionally gave me the kick in the butt) to keep talking with Nick, and they’re still doing it.



My readers made me feel strong, they made me feel smart, they made me feel as if what I had to say helped some of them or at least entertained them. And, God bless them, they made me believe I could write. What a gift that was for me and what joy my writing gives me.

Writing a little spanking blog is not a monumental achievement. It’s not something I grew up dreaming about. But thanks to those of you who take a few minutes of your day to read what I write and especially to those of you who have commented over this past decade – my life has changed in amazing ways.

A blog isn’t going to bring about world peace or solve global warming. But the comments I’ve gotten here have improved my life, they improved my marriage and made me a happier more confident person.  Being happier made me a better mother and that  improving my children’s lives and helped them become super adults. My being a happier, stronger more confident person made me a better teacher which gave me the opportunity to help my students and who knows what they might go on to accomplish.




When you think of all that blogging doesn’t seem like a ‘waste of time’ as it’s been called by some. I’m just one person farbling on about my life, but when you add your comments it’s like tossing rocks in a pond – the ripples continue and you have no idea who you may be influencing.

I’ve been blogging for a decade
 and the main thing I really want to say to you all is



39 comments:

  1. The thank you goes to you PK! You are a wonderfully inspirational and lovely woman who has not only kept us entertained with your Fantasy Friday posts, but allowed us a glimpse in the beautiful life that you call your own. I have learned so much from your stories and I look forward to ten more years! Happy 10th!! Hugs. Amy

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    1. Thanks Amy - everything here has been wonderful. Visiting with you all is the best.

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  2. I too first discovered Bonnie ' blog and it opened up a whole new world and level of acceptance. Yours, Cassie's, Hermione's and Sunny's were some of my next favorites. Thank you for all the posts you've made over the last ten years. It's hard to imagine all the positive ripples you've sent out into the world. Nice work!

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    1. You've mentioned some of my good friends here! I really thing we've all sent ripples out to others. I wish everyone that reads would comment.

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  3. Oh PK, I think we need to thank you! It is a pleasure to know you and I hope that your blog continues for a long time yet. Happy Blogiversary!
    love Jan, xx

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    1. Thanks Jan. I've really loved being here.

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  4. Happy Blogiversary PK! Such a lovely post. I'm so glad you started blogging, I always enjoy visiting here :)

    I agree, we should be thanking you, you have encouraged so many to blog and to write and become published authors. You have introduced us to many new friends. Blogland wouldn't be the same without you.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. You are kind Roz. I really have loved the writing. In school it seemed such a chore, now I love it.

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  5. Congrats on your blogiversary. To have a safe place to grow and interact with others who share a passion is amazing. You've so far in the last 10 years. I wish you and Nick all the best in the next 10 years.

    LS

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    1. Thanks LS - it's so wonderful to have a place to talk with like minded people.

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  6. Ten years? TEN YEARS? You hush your mouth. It can NOT be ten years!!! Damn, woman. Here's to the next ten!! Congrats!!!

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    1. It kinda shocked me too!

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  7. It is you we all need to thank PK. Congratulations on your 10th blogiversary. You've encouraged a lots of us with both your blog and Cassie books. I know I wouldn't have started if it hadn't been for you giving me the nudge, so there is a ripple effect definitely. You are such a kind hearted soul, wish I could meet you in person, as I'm sure we would click. Hope there are many more years for you to share your wisdom with us.
    Hugs Lindy
    xx

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    1. I wish we could meet too! This old world is just too big. I'm so glad you decided to join the gang.

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  8. Congrats..leaving on our cruise today but I had to respond to day. YOU have been such an inspiration and friend to all of us. I...and so many others....are here because of your encouragement. The best for you is yet to come..retirement...and lots more time to write and...other things!
    hugs abby

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    1. Would love to be going on that cruise with you! I'm glad you're here and you're right, can't wait for retirement.

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  9. congratulations on 10 years! :-) Thank-you for opening your heart to us. I am so glad I found you those many years ago and am even happier to call you my friend. :-) Hugs

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    1. You've been with me for most of this blog. I loved when you started your own.

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  10. Congratulations on your ten years. What an incredible achievement and one to be proud of. I'm indebted to FF as it has helped me find the courage to write and become a published author.
    I hope you have many more things to write about in the coming years.
    hugs
    Del/Jaye

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    1. That's a wonderful compliment for FF. But I'm so proud that so many writers began there.

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  11. PK,
    The gratitude is mutual. You gave us Cassie and you are a loving friend. We all help one another and some of us are lucky enough to meet and enjoy a really special kind of friendship. How cool is that!
    Congratulations, dear friend. Please do another ten.
    Meredith

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    1. Meeting friends here has been the very best! I would never have believed I would have felt so comfortable meeting people. It's not something I could have imagined ten years ago.

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  12. Congratulations. As Mere says, gratitude is mutual. Without you there would be no Sunny Girl and there are so many others with whom I would never have the pleasure of meeting and making a part of my life.
    Without PK, there would be no Leigh Smith either. So thank you Cassie, PK and my dear friend. Hope you're around for the next ten, twenty, thirty or more years too to encourage and befriend others. Love you, my friend.

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    1. You are more than welcomed! I really do wonder what I'd be doing now if I hadn't begun blogging and writing Cassie. I can't imagine.

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  13. Ten years, that's a huge achievement PK, many congratulations! Though I have no aspiration to be a writer, having my first FF story featured on your blog gave me the confidence to join in more and get to know people better through commenting. As others have said, gratitude is mutual. Here's to the next ten years!
    Rosie xx

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    1. I'm so glad it encouraged you to join in. Now, how about another story??

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  14. Omg! Congratulations! Like everyone has expressed, we are so lucky to have you. Your interest and courage to begin this blog and Cassie has inspired most of us. I am lucky to have found you. As Sunny said without you I would have never began! A giant thank you! The hours you took to talk to me.....:) not make me scared, also to share when I was ready to jump in!

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    1. This blog has brought me so many wonderful friends - who would have thought? Best things ever about blogging!

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  15. This is truly a milestone, congratulations! Many good wishes for the next ten years, Cassie can't possibly retire yet! Thank you for the many great posts!

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    1. I'm wondering when people will become tired of Cassie, but I still love to write her.

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  16. Congratulations, PK! That is no small achievement.

    Here's to the next ten years!

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Thanks Hermione, I still enjoy it so I'm going to keep going.

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  17. sixofthebest9:12 AM

    Congratulations P.K. on your ten anniversary, as a 'spanko'. May it continue, for many more years to come. I like your blog.

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    1. Thanks! I just wish I'd come out as a spanko twenty or thirty years ago!

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  18. Hi PK! :) Ten whole years!!! What an amazing milestone! Be very proud!

    We are the lucky ones for sure! Yes, you do bring us Cassie and Tom, and their spanky tales. Much more than that, you bring us you- kind and loving, one who reaches out and helps others, shares, makes us laugh, provides us with things to think about, and so much more!

    Selfishly, I am so glad that you are here. A wonderful person, and dear friend! I am happy to know you, and I too hope that you are here for the next decade and more! Thank you, and lots of love,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Katie - how well we all meshed when we were able to get together. I love 'being' Cassie but it's even better being myself because of the real friends I've made. I hope I'm here for a good while longer myself.

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  19. Happy Ten Years Blogiversary, PK! I am so glad that Minelle pointed me in your direction when I first started blogging. I met someone who has become a wonderful and precious friend. I met Cassie, too, of course, and am so glad you decided to get published, as you are such an inspiration!

    I was going to write last night, but next door's came round and I ended up getting wasted instead! LOL!

    I wonder if I will make my ten year milestone! It's so great!

    Lots of love, my friend!

    Ami

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    1. Thank you my friend - I love that I can hear your accent now when I read your posts and comments! Sounds like you had a great time last night. But now straighten up and get to writing! I'm waiting on your next book.

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  20. PK,

    Congratulations on your 10th blogiversary. You are a wonderful and lovely lady and I am so lucky to call you my friend. Blogland wouldn't be the same without you. Here's to your next 10 years.

    Love you.
    Ronnie
    xx

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