My intriguing email from Nick

I told you weekend before last, that Nick sent me a very intriguing email. I want to tell you a little more about it. But first, just in case you are a new reader I need to tell you a little about my husband. He’s nearly perfect. If I were to list all the things he does for me most of you would simply think I was exaggerating.

When I first came out to Nick, and asked that spanking become part of our relationship, he was surprised, confused as to why I would want it, yet still an enthusiastic participant. In other words, Nick gives me nearly everything I want and need.  He asks very little in return.  But is does want one thing and it seems to be very hard for me to do.

All Nick has really asked for is that I initiate sex more often, rather than always wait for him.  I’ve blogged about this before. It shouldn’t be hard!  But it is for some reason. I’m guessing it’s a little bit about my eternal beliefs about what ‘good girls’ are supposed to do and not do, left over from the time I grew up. But more than this, I think it’s really more about always wanting Nick to be in charge in the bedroom.  In my mind this is so hot!

Nick, my smart husband, is working to see that we both get what we want.  This was part of his email,

I hear you do much better following directions rather than “suggestions”.

Although you have been largely responsible for many of the general improvements in our relationship, I have suggested that you initiate play times more often.  I don’t think you have embraced these suggestions fully.

Here are your new marching orders:

You will be responsible for planning and initiating activities during the first week end each month. This will be accomplished by first acknowledging the occasion, and then giving details of what is to happen.

Some possible approaches:

And then he went on to give some excellent suggestion, some catering just to him; other’s where I ask for pampering for me.  Some were all afternoon events, while some were very simple and low key.  He was really telling me that what ever I plan is fine with him.  He concluded,

You can see that there is a lot of latitude for attitude.  Might require a little role playing at times, possibly taking you out of your comfort zone.

I was happy with all of this except for the last five words. LOL, it’s called a ‘comfort zone’ for a reason!  Why would one ever want to leave?  I know, I know, he left his when he began spanking so I’m willing, really.

I sent him back,

Sounds interesting.  I was going to say I'll do my best, but after rereading this I think I'll just say 'Yes, Sir!'  Love you.

His reply,

Sounds like an appropriate answer.

Nick seems to have come up with a way for both of us to be happy and get what we want. By giving me this ‘rule’ (I love that word) he is obviously in charge.  By me following this rule, he gets what he wants too. Nick’s asked for this before – I try for a while and then seem to slack off.  He needs to tell me again. I guess the same could be said for my constant need for spanking.

Its great to have a husband who wants to keep the fun and excitement in our marriage as much as I do.  I bet there are many, many couples that can't say that after this many years. I'll say it again, Nick's nearly as perfect as husbands get.