I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
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Sunday, August 19, 2012

Here I go thinking again...

It’s peaceful here.  Nick is golfing, Mollie moving into her new dorm/apartment.  This may be the first time I’ve gotten to sit quietly in my writing room since the kitchen and the rest of the house was put back in order.  I have my annual back to school cold, but of course, that was expected.  It’s not too bad and I have this quiet weekend to get well and gather strength for teaching next week.

I’ve spent the morning so far doing everything I could to avoid writing.  It’s strange for someone who enjoys writing as much as I do – and I really do,  to HATE getting started!!  I’ll put it off forever (I even cleaned some this morning), but once I start I can’t stop.  This will be a very rambling post.  I have many things to sort through in my mind and I’m just going with the flow wherever it takes me.  So this may be broken up into several posts.  We’ll see.

I know a few of you (bless your hearts) worry when I seem down or something.  Please don’t.  I’m fine, and that’s the truth.  I’m striving for even better, but there is nothing wrong.  Just looking for improvement.

I’ve just got the TTWD blues.  I’m going to blame some of it on work.  In order to keep my sanity at work I have to adopt an ‘I don’t care attitude.’ I still want to clarify one thing – I do care about my students, that they are happy, healthy, learning, growing and feeling secure. I also care about my partner Megan and how she is doing, but other that that, to all the things swirling around outside my room – I don’t care.

Changing what I’ve taught for nearly a quarter of a century – I don’t care.

Changing the calendar and start dates – I don’t care.

Being forced to take teaching advice from someone whose total experience in teaching is four years as a High School PE teacher – I don’t care.

One of my teaching partners being one of the few people I’ve ever know that I really can’t get along with – I don’t care.

Being told repeatedly that how I teach is so totally old fashion and completely wrong and that no one could possible learn anything unless it’s taught through a computer – I don’t care.

Well, I think you get the picture.  I’m not saying this in a desperate, hateful or even unhappy way.  I’m not sad about this feeling; it’s more like a cloak of serenity.  As I see retirement on the horizon, I no longer feel I need to spend time and energy tilting at windmills. I can smile sweetly, nod in pretended agreement and then go in my classroom and teach the young’un they give me the way I really feel is the best way to teach the subject at hand.  I have indeed reached the point when it takes more trouble and paperwork to fire me and to just leave me alone.  Especially since I’m not causing anyone any trouble.  When someone points out that I’m not doing something the way they want it done I give them a sweet smile and say, “Oh my goodness! I’m not?  Well I’ll certainly work on that.”  They go away happy and I continue to ignore everything that they said.  Problem solved, except… 

I need that cloak of ‘I don’t care’ to survive the workplace without becoming angry and frustrated, but it’s hard to throw it off when I get home.  So I find myself thinking:

I’m gaining weight again – I don’t care.

We rarely do TTWD anymore – I don’t care.

Nick and I aren’t as close as we were for a while – I don’t care.

I haven’t posted in a while – I don’t care.

The problem is  I DO CARE !  I care about all these things, but I can’t seem to bestir myself to do anything about any of them.

So I've been trying to find time to give it some serious thought.  If you're interested in what is swirling around in my head come back and I'll see if I can get it down where is make any sense at all.


  1. And may I add:
    I care.
    We care.
    We all care.

  2. PK,
    no you are not making too much sense, but those of us even longer in the tooth then you, have been there, done that and in some cases, still wearing the tee shirt.
    It's odd, those with little experience think that they know it all, while those of us with a lifetimes experience are all to aware of our limitations.
    You will survive, and I will be back!
    Love ans warm hugs,

  3. PK: Of course, we will return to see what is swirling in your head. And how nice that you have blogging and blogger friends to share it all with. Much better than keeping it all bottled up. Good luck in dealing with all this. And maybe a good spanking would help.


  4. How nice to get up this morning and see that I'd heard from the three guys out here that are my favorite men in life (after Nick, of course!) Thanks guys.

  5. We do care. I loved Paul's comment about the difference between young and old. So very true. So know you are doing what you KNOW works best.

  6. It all changes but it's all the same.

    The technology may be what the young have more experience in, but the intuitiveness and experience with what children need.... we have it.

    When we need every bit of energy to give to others it is hard to give to ourselves. When you have the energy to even think about yourself .... WE WILL STILL BE HERE.

  7. Ahh, yes we do care. Be kinder than necessary because we are all fighting something. The sun comes up every morning and so here's hoping it shines a little brighter for you this day. Hugs.

  8. I love what Bas and Paul said. We all do care and look forward to your return. Hugs, Terps

  9. Bas,
    You are so sweet. Lisa is a very lucky woman.

    I think being aware of our limitations is a true sign of maturity.

    I love having the blogging world! I would probably have gone nuts over the past several years without it.

    Paul knows how it is!

    Thanks! I know technology is wonderful – but it all the rest of the teachers use it to teach then I think the kids need to see another way to learn and research!

    You’re right the sun will come up regardless. I’m counting on it being brighter.

    Never fear, I’m not far away. But I do look forward to having more time to post and write.

  10. PK, stop at the doorway and remember that's where PK, Badass and Wimpy reside. They care...and so do we. Chin up!! :)

  11. Rogue,
    Good advice. This is my real life. The other is my job, I'm good at it - but it's not my life. This is my life.