Decision made

I want to try to post more.  The more I talk out here the more I feel like myself.  

A few weeks ago I posted here, asking about what to do when you don’t have a dom/sub live style and you have to make a decision where you each want something different.  We’ve been struggling with such a decision.  As I said in that post, we both wanted the same thing, but that wasn’t possible.  With that not happening our choices were opposite one another.

I think Bas helped me see what was happening.  I thought Nick just wouldn’t make a decision when in fact he made the decision to let me decide.  I know it’s not the decision he would have made, but deep down I don’t think he’s too unhappy with letting me have my way on this one.  If you want to see what I’m talking about, scroll down.

I didn’t go looking for them; they just showed up on our carport one night.  The gray one followed me in (I wasn’t paying attention, I thought it was our other gray and white cat).  When I finally saw him, he was stretched out on the floor looking back at me as if to say,  “Do you live here too?”  He was so sweet and gentle.  But I put him out and didn’t feed him.  The next morning I found out he’d brought his sister with him. 

I said shoo! But they didn’t go.  I couldn’t let them starve.  Nick and I both tried to find them a home – we really did, but there were no takers.  I know having four cats make me the ‘crazy cat lady’, but what can you do? I hated putting them in a pound or shelter, even a no-kill one.  But I knew Nick didn’t want four cats.  I wouldn’t have been mad at him if he had taken them to a no kill shelter – but I just couldn’t drive them over and stick them in the cage myself.   he sure isn’t thrilled, but, well… we have four cats.  All vaccinated and fixed and they are both sweet.  The yellow one is a real snuggle bunny!  I just wish someone could solve the shedding problem.

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I’m putting this in another color – this is how I’ll be posting my rants about Mr. K, for those that get tired of hearing me bitch, you’ll know what to skip.  I haven’t been to school yet and he’s making me mad already.

I am trying my best to take deep breaths... checked my school email and Mr. K has started. Writing 'parent' letters of introduction and signing my name - spelled wrong, I might add.  Writing a supply list for me that includes things I do NOT want and leaving off the things I need.  Deep breath...  I emailed him and told him that while I appreciated his working on this, NOT to run anything off for me because it was WRONG and I won't be using his versions.

I also talked to Megan today She said Mr. K and Ms. T (the other new one in our four way partnership) laughed and whispered and planned together all day.  She said she really felt like a fifth wheel.  She thinks that they will be sleeping together by the weekend.  I say fantastic!  They can keep each other company and leave Megan and me alone.

I’m guessing he is jumping in to try to be leader of the pack – not gonna happen.  I have seniority in both experience and age.  I have no desire to have him change to my way of doing things.  I think he should do whatever works for him, and Megan and I will continue to do what works for us.