In Friday's post, I told you about two of the personalities dwelling within my husband, Nick and Spanky. Today I’ll tell you of the third. I’m not as fond of this one as I am the other two. This one often annoy me.
We’ll call this guy Obie, for oblivious. I'm a spanko. Through and through from birth. I want some realism in TTWD. I crave it. But none of the three aspects of my sweet husband understands this in the least.
I read carefully on other blogs to see reasons why other husbands spank, not counting sexy or just for the funof it spankings. Mostly it seems to be for momentary lack of respect for their HOH - bossing him around , talking over him, back seat driving, not letting him lead, not listening and being generally snotty.
Well, guys, I don’t do any of those things. No, I’m not a saint it’s just easier for me to go silent, thinking ‘whatever’ rather than to argue. But occasionally I do things that I bet any HOH out here would have me marching straight to the bedroom for a sound spanking. But not Obie. He never even seems to think of it.
My example, Nick has asked me to turn on the pool pump each morning. We need to run in long enough each day to keep the pool clean, but not 24/7. I can’t seem to remember to turn it on. I forgot three days last week. On the third day he asked, ‘Is the pump on?’ I told him I was so sorry, I’d forgotten again. Each time I’d say ‘I’ll run turn it on right now.’ But by then he’d just give me a slightly annoyed, slightly disappointed look and be halfway down the stairs to do it himself.
I love that he’s not picky and punitive about every little thing, but if I’d been the HOH, it would have gone something like this, after my hiney was bare and bent over the bed.
“I’ve asked you to do something simple and easy to do. I can understand your forgetting one day – but three days in a row? You could have put an alarm on your phone or you could have just remembered I asked you to do it. I’m betting you’re going to remember after this or your backside’s going to wish you had.”
I bet I would have remembered too! Like Ella said in her post the other day when she spoke about the connection ‘between the brain and the bottom.’
But ‘this thing we do’ never once occurred to Obie. I even waited a few days before writing this because he was busy that night. I wondered if he’d think to spank for it later. But no. He never seemed to think about it again.
Some of you might be thinking that I could have pointed this out to him and he would quite possible have spanked. But once again, that would have put me in control. It’s the control I’m trying to lose.
I think I’ve remembered to do it the last few days because I was thinking about writing this post. To the best of my knowledge Nick has never spanked me about anything that really annoyed him. It what makes me know he only views TTWD as a game. When he’s talking about laundry or teasing about little things he’ll spank. But when it’s something like being lazy and forgetful of something important or he’s really mad at me about something, spanking never seems to enter his mind.
I’m not saying I'm anxious to have an angry husband grab me up and spank me, though I would submit. I don't think I'd have to worry for one minute about this happening often with Nick. But I do wish he wouldn’t be so oblivious to legitimate reasons to spank.