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Sunday, October 12, 2014

Dispelling myths


I need to ask my mother’s forgiveness. Mom would be ninety-five now if she were still with me, and she definitely had her own ideas of how things worked, based on what she was taught growing up. She was firm in how she believed you got the common cold. You got a cold from running in and out of the house to play in the snow. You could catch cold from going outside in clod weather in your
bare feet and you would catch your death of cold if you went out in the cold with wet hair. I often remember her telling me, “I’m cold, put on your sweater.” I never understood how my putting on a sweater was going to keep her warm. In her book, being cold equaled catching a cold.


I being a modern, scientific daughter I tried my best to explain to her that viruses and viruses alone caused colds. She acknowledged that this was a possibility, but never gave up her original beliefs.

Now I finally realized that we were both wrong – it’s neither going out in the cold with wet hair nor viruses that cause me to catch a cold. What causes me to catch a cold is to make a firm commitment to a healthier lifestyle. Once I make the definite decision to exercise faithfully four to five days a week, once I commit to changing my diet and eating healthier and avoid soft drinks as much as possible, once these decisions are firm – a cold will grab me, slam me to the ground and begin kicking and stomping.

It certainly happened this time. Last Sunday it hit. Breathing is the only exercise I’ve managed and trust me the effort alone has been a full time job. Coming home from school I have just enough strength to make it to my chair and with my last reserve I manage to get my computer to my lap – riding the bike, walking, or playing on the wii has not been possible.

Food? I’m sick – I want comfort food. I do not view carrot sticks and salad as comfort food, I never will. I’ve really done okay on the food front. I haven’t been very hungry and I haven’t overeaten or gone over to junk food with one exception. My soft drinks, specifically Sundrop – I crave it like a crack addict craves that next hit. When I cough it hits suddenly and severely. It seems as thought I’m coughing up a lung and Sundrop is nearly the only thing that controls it. Water makes me cough more, but that burning hit of carbonated citrus – oh my, it cuts the cough off! My weight is up a little from last week. I’m not surprised considering I have at least five pounds of congestion in my head and chest.

I promised Nick and I’m promising all of you out here – the cold has only caused a postponement to my push toward healthier living. I know the cold will let go soon and I’m ready to jump on the healthy bandwagon.

Nick has been very sweet and understanding. He is getting over a cold and may have possibly contributed to my current state. But his sweetness and understanding goes only so far and in an email the other night he told me in no uncertain terms that the cold did not get me out of our ‘Friday covenant’ as he called it. Bless his heart, he’s right. The end he plans to work on is not affected by my cold and I am happy he realized that. I didn’t expect it to cure the cold, but knew I’d feel better.  I’ll tell you about that spanking tomorrow.

14 comments:

  1. So sorry you are miserable right now PK...colds are pure D miserable. Hope Nick wasn't too hard on your tushie and that you get to feeling better soon. Sending lots of prayers and healing energy your way.

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Cat, I'd doing fine, thanks. I'd say Nick did just fine.

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  2. Colds do suck, I'm sorry you're not well. It's great that you are committed to being healthy, and that Nick is committed to keep your Fridays together sacred!

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    1. Thanks River, Nick's willingness to stick to our Friday 'date' means a lot to me.

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  3. Sorry about the cold and hope you get well soon. For all the advances in medical science, it's so frustrating they can't find a way to stop the common cold. And I remember my mother thinking that going outside without being properly dressed could cause a cold. And she was a nurse. Hope you are pampering yourself and resting. And nice that Nick is keeping Fridays special.

    FD

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    1. FD, I think all mothers are the same in their beliefs. My theory is that there is a cure for the common cold - and that the manufactures of cold medicine, a multi-million dollar business, bought it to keep it off the market.

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  4. Hi PK, I'm sorry you are under the weather and hope you feel better soon. Colds truly do suck! Look after yourself and get plenty of rest. Good on you for your commitment to health. Glad Nick is keeping your Friday's special :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I'm really feeling better except for the horrible cough.Nick's doing great.

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  5. God Bless Nick and I hope you feel better soon.

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    1. He's pretty special.

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  6. Oh my how I remember hearing that running in and out of the cold was the reason we caught a cold! I had forgotten about the dreaded doing it with wet hair! Brings back fond memories!

    So sorry you are feeling bad, but proud that you are not giving up. Good for Nick! Hang in there!

    Hugs,
    George

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    1. You're right George, it was nice to hear my mother's voice in my head even if she was scolding! I don't want to give up, this is important.

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  7. PK, I hope you're feeling much better very soon. Having a cough is the worse.

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  8. I'm sorry you are feeling so bad! For me drinking copious amounts of hot sugar laden tea makes me feel better.
    Otherwise I never add sugar. When I am sick that comfort food is the best!

    I still get those old myths from my mil!

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