I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Sunday, December 08, 2013

Is it time to panic yet?

I think it may be. Wednesday, when the book comes out, I will pretty much have outted myself to most of my friends. My best friend in real life knows, as does my sister. They were both highly amused when I told them. I’ve told a few others and no one has been ugly or negative about it. But I realize now that many of my friends know I write and that my book is coming out, but they don’t know what it’s about. Not everyone at works knows, of course, only those I trust. But I have to wonder are they really going to be shocked? They probably think I’m just writing about hot, steamy sex – that everyone considers normal, but spanking? That may be too much for some of them.

I’m so very comfortable with what I write; I know I’ve become complacent.  I’ve had the joy of talking with so many of you out here for seven years about spanking, domestic discipline, the works. It all seems so totally and completely normal, that I’m afraid I’ve put out of my mind how very shocked some of my friends might be.

I’m not really worried, I mean, so they’re shocked – so what? That’s a feeling that has come about slowly over these seven years. If my mom were still alive, I don’t know if I’d have felt comfortable publishing. I know I wouldn’t, didn’t, feel comfortable when my children were teenagers. But since both of them are adults, they’ve told me they’re adults, and I agree with them, so they're going to have to deal with the fact that I’m an adult too.

I’ve been careful when telling my friends, as well as family members, that the book is not for everyone. I’ve told them that they might find it amusing, some might find it sexy, and others will be offended. I’ve told them, “I’m not recommending the book, I’m merely telling you it’s there if you’re interested.  My feeling won’t be hurt if you don’t want to read it.  That ought to get them to try it, don’t you think? LOL! I am curious about their reaction! I know what spankos like to read. I know many out here really do like Cassie – but what will a vanilla think?

You can trust me; I’ll let you know what these people says for sure. My publisher at Lazy Day asked me before she put the book up on NetGalley. It’s a site you can join and review books before they even come out. She said it might give the book more exposure, but that I might need a thick skin – I sometimes forget not everyone who reads is one of us.

I keep taking deep breaths, one minute I’m strong and confident and the next I’m a towering mass of jelly. Oh well, it keeps life exciting.

36 comments:

  1. I don't write spanking fiction, but I do write fan fiction...there is a way for people to read what I write and comment. There is an incredible rush when you see that someone has reviewed and there are also people who are hugely critical. The good out weigh the bad and when I am feeling particularly delicate, I just put off reading the reviews or I seek out one of the other authors and because it is genre fiction, they usually got bad reviews from the same person. The first few bad ones may be hard to take, but if your experience is anything like mine, the bad reviews start to have a lot less impact.

    I am super excited for you to finally have your book published! With the publication, there may be a few shocked people, but I really doubt that it will last long. You are liked and loved and will continue to be liked and loved even when you are "outed" Again, congratulations.

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    1. Cygnet,
      You're right about bad reviews. If they are truly hateful they should be ignored. No one need to be rude. Thanks for the congratulations. My friends have been so kind I know I need to listen to them rather than any negative reviews.

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  2. No PK it is not time to panic. I believe that some of your vanilla friends will like it, some won't and some will say it's well written but not their cup of tea...but none of them will think it's anything but stories you have written jumping on the 50 Shades bandwagon. Don't think any of them will think badly of you...and if any do...s/he is not your friend!

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Cat,
      I think you're right about my friend and I'm guessing the one that are shocked or really don't like it will probably just not mention it.

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  3. I'm so excited for your imminent publication.... :)
    I haven't come out to any of my vanilla friends and I got a little drunk last night... the temptation to blurt out "I've written these books, you don't have to read them, I just want to tell you what I'm doing." but of course I didn't. Your friends might surprise you, so don't panic.
    Rather like you, I've been writing these kind of stories for years, and it would be great if I could tell my family. At the end of the day, I enjoy writing and that is what is most important to me.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. DF,
      That's why I can't keep my mouth shut - all this writing is to important to me and it just spills out.

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  4. PK, what a wonderful exciting time for you. Everyone is nervous before a new ''baby" enters the world. I have read all about Cassie...she is funny, she is smart, she is a woman in love with her hubby, she makes me laugh....and yes, she gets spanked. She is hard not to love! I can understand your apprehension....but I really do think all will be well.
    hugs abby

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    1. Ahh… Abby you make me happy. It is like sending a 'baby' into the world and it help to know that so many love her.

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  5. PK,
    everything will be fine, I feel it in my water. LOL!
    Anyway, I will be there in spirit with Nick and your adult children.
    Your life is built on a very firm foundation, a little shock cannot harm you.
    Love and warm hugs,
    Paul.

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    1. You're right Paul and I love feeling all of you all around me.

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  6. Anonymous8:18 AM

    I'm excited for you! Everything will be fine
    Tia

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  7. Excited for you!!!

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    1. Bea,
      Thanks it's a fun time.

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  8. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter, don't mind. Congrats and good luck!!!

    xo

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    1. Truer words never spoken Bonnie!

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  9. keep the strong and confident feelings going...just think of all the people who will LOVE Cassie as much as we do... Hugs

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    1. They're the ones I'm pulling for Terps. I just have those momentary doubts.

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  10. Anonymous11:49 AM

    As poorly written as fifty shades was. It did somewhat bring the topic to main stream and it was very well received. There is no reason your vanilla friends have to think you engage in the activity. You can tell them you were inspired by the success of fifty shades and it intrigued you. I have never heard anyone presume that the above said author engaged in the lifestyle. You will be fine. Hugs and excited for your book to come out!!!

    C

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    1. C,
      That was one great thing 50 shades did. People know were out here - and many seemed to enjoy it, well at least reading about it.

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  11. Anonymous11:53 AM

    PS we don't assume crime writers committed the crimes! And Cassie is not you. Her life is not like yours! So it is a work of Fiction and you can look your friends in the eye and say so!

    C

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    1. LOL, I guess that's true - must be my guilty conscience!

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  12. PK I am so proud of you for outing yourself to so many people and I have to echo Cat in what she says.

    I have had lots of friends ask me what I am writing this last few months, and I simply say that I am learning to write fiction they may find erotic, and that if I ever publish I will use a different personna. They are all fascinated but very kind, and none have pushed me to explain any further. Your family are the only ones who really matter, when all is said and done. And me? I adore Cassie!

    Hugs
    Ami

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    1. Thanks you Ami. Yes people may wonder, but only those who are the very closest to me would ever ask - and I'd tell them!

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  13. sixofthebest1:37 PM

    PK, here is a toast to you, and congratulations on 'coming out' party for your new published book. May you celebrate the event, by 'having a spanking good time'. which will include your voluptuous naked rear end.

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    1. What a great idea, I can't think of a better way to celebrate!

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  14. No time to panic, PK. It's time to celebrate. You should be congratulated on getting your books published. And if your friends are shocked, that is their problem. And I think we are living in a society that is becoming much more acceptable to different lifestyle. Hope you get a good spanking to celebrate.

    FD

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    1. My friends may see like 'Modern Family', gay son, spanko mother. At least we're not a dull bunch!

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  15. Don't worry. Enjoy the moment. Everything will be fine.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. You're right Ronnie, and I'll have my friends here no matter what.

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  16. Cassie is a wonderful love story with spanking included in their love for each other. One gives and one receives. It is absolutely perfect. I can't wait to enjoy all of it during the Holidays!!!!!!
    I am proud of your decision to tell everyone. You are sharing an important part of all of us!

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    1. Minelle,
      I'm proud of my writing blog, and I'm getting to know people there. They have all seemed so very nice - but the people who read here are my heart. I'll always share important news here.

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  17. Whatever happens I am here for you! I'm so proud of you for taking this huge step and putting yourself out there!

    LOVE AND HUGS!
    grace

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    1. Grace,
      You are one of my first and best friends here. It's been quite a road hasn't it. Love you too.

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  18. Just bask in the success you have achieved. After all, it's a life long dream comes to pass, why not just sit back and enjoy it. Quit second guessing.

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    1. You have the right idea here. And that's what I'm going to do. If negativity comes from this I'm just going to pretend you are all standing behind me - shooting the bird to any jerks!

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