I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Sunday, December 15, 2013

Birthday and conversations

Today’s my birthday and I’m celebrating over at Celeste’s Jones. She was kind enough to invite me over to talk about Cassie’s Space. I hope you’ll come by.

I had a bit of a start yesterday when Mollie said something about having read through chapter six. I gave her a surprised look – I had provided her with the first three chapters, but I was waiting for her to ask for more if she was interested. She never had. I told her when the book came out, and she seemed very happy for me, but didn’t ask to read any more.

Knowing I hadn’t given her access to the other chapters I asked her how she’d read them.

“Well what do you think? I bought it. You didn’t think I buy your book when it came out? Of course wanted to support you. I’m just kinda scared to read it.” She told me laughing.

“Maybe you can put it in the freezer if it gets scary.” I teased her, using the plan Joey used in Friends when he got scared reading a book.

“Our freezer’s too small at school and besides it’s on my iPad.”

We laughed together and I told her, “Don’t be scared, people that write murder mysteries aren’t murderers you know.” As C had pointed out to me in comments.

“I still think I’d rather you write about murder.”

We talked a little more. She doesn’t like Tom. I’m not surprised, most vanillas don’t. And I realized that at her age, I don’t really mind her not liking Tom. I worry about very young women who are too eager to be submissive.  I like that she is strong and independent. The gift of submission, should she ever decide to give that to someone, should only come once she is completely sure she can care for herself.

But it was an interesting conversation. I think it embarrasses her a little, but not enough to really be bothered and if Mollie's not really bothered I realized that there isn’t anyone else I’m concerned about. I’m so happy she’s home for the holidays.


Now I’m off to celebrate, hope to see you at Celeste’s.

33 comments:

  1. Hey PK...it really is awesome that Mollie bought your book and is reading it!

    Ya know...I don't think any of us want to think of our parents as sexual beings...even though we know that we really were not found in the cabbage patch or delivered by the stork! LOL So knowing that these 'sex scenes' came from your imagination has got to be a bit uncomfortable for her.

    I do have to agree with her...if my mom or even one of my kids was an author, I'd rather read anything they wrote that did not include sex! ;)

    Happy Birthday!

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Cat you're right on. I know my parents only had sex twice because I only have one sister! As she get older it won't be such a shock.

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  2. I think that's great that Mollie bought the book and is reading it. I'm almost done reading it and I want to read more. I'm glad you're be releasing a second book. Have a Happy Birthday! Amyee

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    1. Thank you Amyee! It's been a great birthday.

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  3. Happy Birthday PK! I hope you have a fantastic day ... and perhaps a birthday spanking :)

    I think it's awesome Mollie brought the book. Although it's perhaps a little uncomfortable reading sex scenes written by her mother, I think it's great that she's not overly bothered.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      If there were really graphic scenes I know I wouldn't be comfortable. Cassie and Tom are a more 'fade to black' couple.

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  4. To be able to have an adult conversation with your daughter...and yet she is still her baby and you are still her mom. While perhaps slightly uncomfortable at the book's theme (what child, even as an adult, wants to think of their parents as sexual beings), how wonderful that she supports your writing and even purchased the book. I never really thought about it, but the funny thing is that I think I would be happy to find out that my mom wrote a romance novel...that she was happy in that way or that at least she dreamed about it. No details necessary, but simply to know that she was still thriving intimately and passionate about life. Not such a bad model to look up to as one heads towards the future. :-) I do understand what you are saying about not liking Tom - I probably would not have at that age either nor would my mom have been happy if I had been in such a relationship before truly finding myself...my own daughter is still too young for me to imagine...but once secure and independent and in a trusting and loving relationship, then yeah, I think I would quite okay. :-) Have a very happy birthday!

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    1. Terps,I do think it has a lot to do with age. I believe later in life Mollie will be happy that all this made me so happy and brought Nick and I so much closer. But I really would be a little worried if she were 21 and dying to submit to a man.

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  5. Happy Birthday!!!
    Mollie is a remarkable young lady, to be able to talk to her about your book is great for you both. I have one family member who knows about my books and we talk frankly about them. I gave her the crime writing scenario too - if I wrote graphically about serial killers would people think i was one - no, obviously not.
    I shall stop by Celeste's blog.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. DF,
      It's great to be able to talk to someone you're close to about your writing. I won't talk to Mollie about it a lot, but I do have other real life friends with whom I can talk about it.

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  6. PK,
    Happy Birthday yet again.
    I'm not going to make a third comment about your interview. LOL!
    Love and warm hugs,
    Paul.

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    1. Paul,
      Your have said more than enough over the years - I do feel the love!

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  7. Anonymous8:03 AM

    Happy Birthday!
    Tia

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  8. How wonderful and have a Happy Birthday.

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    1. It's been a great birthday!

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  9. Happy Birthday my dear!! What a great conversation. You are very very lucky to have that level of honesty with Mollie. I agree with you that now it is okay she isn't adoring Tom...later if she loves someone and wants to submit with trust....okay too.

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    1. Minelle,
      That's it. Once she knows who she is and once she loves a man this much the decision will be hers.

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  10. I echo all the comments above. This is the kind of openness that I hope for with my daughter some day.

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    1. Leah,
      She's an amazing young woman.

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  11. PK,

    Happy Birthday.

    I think Mollie is a wonderful daughter.

    Off to read the interview now.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Ronnie,
      It really was fun talking with Celeste.

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  12. Anonymous3:00 PM

    Happy Birthday. I am glad you can talk to your daughter, and I am pleased you quoted me. LOL The greatest gift of all is the love and trust between mother and child! Bless you all this Holiday Season!

    C

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    1. C,
      The season is starting off great. Mollie and I seem to grow closer every day.

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  13. Many Happy Returns of the Day, PK!!! Hope you got the bumps! (Smugness written all over my face here!)

    What a wonderful conversation with your daughter! I have been able to talk a bit to mine, but not as far as spanking. All our kids know is that I am learning to write sexy stories. So I think you are really blessed with such an understanding offspring!

    Many birthday hugs!
    Ami

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    1. Ami,
      They want us to view them as adults, yet it's hard for them to view us as anything but parents. It's all a learning experience.

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  14. I echo all of the above. How truly wonderful you can discuss this with your daughter! As Terpsichore said-I'd think a daughter would love knowing her mother was doing something she enjoyed, and felt passionate about. Good for you! Good for Molly! Happy Birthday! I'm nipping off to buy the book.....

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    1. Saoirse,
      It's a really strange, I remember when I first started blogging I was terrified of Mollie finding out. She and I have both done a lot of growing and maturing.

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  15. Happy Birthday! And yeah, an IPod in the freezer would not do too well. :)
    EsMay

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    1. Thanks Es May! You're right, she may just have to hide it in her closet! LOL!

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  16. Happy Birthday! I hope you had a great day!

    HUGS!

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  17. I was great Grace. Even got my birthday spanking!

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  18. Hi PK. Hope you had a great birthday,
    love Jan.xx

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