I accidentally found a way to get one more thing I wanted from Nick last night. For most of our marriage Nick did one thing that bugged me. When we would go out just the two of us for groceries, Wal-mart, wherever – he wouldn’t walk with me. He tends to walk faster than me so he just went on and I just brought up the rear alone. It alternatively hurt my feelings and pissed me off. True to form my former self never said a word assuming any good husband would read my mind and know what I was feeling.
Since the transformation I haven’t really needed to say much because it has improved greatly. It still happens but not as much and he always looks back to at least see if I’m coming, which he didn’t always do before. But when we went to a few places last night he walked with me whenever we went to the same store. The best part of this was that his butt was close enough for me to pinch discreetly. When I did he reached back and grabbed my hand and kept it so we walked along for a bit just holding hands! I loved it!! We are not teenagers. I don’t have to walk through the mall holding hands endlessly to feel loved. But when he takes my hand in public, or pats my behind, or any other form of touching, I do feel loved and I feel like he doesn’t care who know it – I’m his wife and he loves me!
The sweetest old couple in our church seemed to always touch. They held hands, or he would have his arm around her. He is gone now and in my mind I will always believe that they enjoyed the same lifestyle I’m living now! May not be true but I still grin every time I see her or think of them.
Elis~
ReplyDeleteDon't ya wish you could just come out and ask her?? Maybe someday this will not be such a hidden topic.
And Adam will look around in walmart if we happen to be the only one in the aisle to make sure that no one is looking and then swat my butt. I just roll my eyes and say "they have cameras in here ya know." LOL
Eva
Perfect! That's exactly what I want!
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Elis,
ReplyDeleteThat's very sweet.
The way I solved that problem, and a couple of others, is that I go to the grocery store without Randy! :D
Hugs,
Bonnie
Very true Elis, Mel and I touched all the time, a hand on her elbow, in the small of her back when seating her, hand in hand when walking. Touch is important.
ReplyDeleteWarm hugs,
Paul,
Hi Elis,
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with Paul... touch is important, both hard and soft, but always with love... and as frequently as possible. I tend to initiate touch in our relationship but that makes Dante's spontaneous shows of physical affection, however subtle or intense, that much more incredible!!
Big hugs!
TTFN,
Tiggr
That is wonderful Elis. I have grocery store fantasy's. Simple ones actually. I just want my bottom smacked, fondled, and handled while shopping!
ReplyDeleteBonnie,
ReplyDeleteMe too most of the time, but when we do go together...
Paul,
I am not wild about seeing teenagers groping each other in public but to see a mature married couple that lovingly touch in public -- nothing is more romantic.
Tiggr,
That sound exactly like us!
Theresa,
You and me both sister!!
Oh, how wonderful, Elis! How touching brings us closer. honBun insists on hand holding in public places. It;s marvelous! D :)
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