I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Tuesday, November 12, 2013

My lurkers are special to me

*Cassie has an LOL post up too, but for some reason it won't update.

Love our Lurkers day. I’m so proud to be here. I've had the privilege of participating in every one. I’ve been here a long time and there is only one reason for that. People keep coming to read and I can’t begin to tell you what that means to me.

I know most readers don’t leave comments and you are still as welcomed as the flowers in spring, but I would still like to get to know you. Not pry into your world, but just to make a new friend. I have wonderful friends in real life, but the friends I’ve made here – well I feel we really know each other. No, they don’t all know my real name, or where I live, or what I look like – but they know me. They know my hopes, and fears, and longing. They know what makes me laugh and what makes me cry. They know that my children are my heart and long time readers have followed their growing up years. Many have also shared things about their lives with me.

Few of us expect to make real, new friendships after a certain age. But you can do it here. You just need to step up and leave a comment. That’s how most of us started. Taking a deep breath and making that one first comment. I can still remember the amazement, joy (and slight terror) when a blogger answered my comment and I realized that it could actually be a back and forth conversation.

Those of us who love the idea, and the reality, of spanking in our lives need to band together. Many in real life will try to convince you that you are wrong or crazy, they’ll talk of abuse or perversion. They don’t understand, and I guess that’s okay, but here – you’ll just be one of us, totally accepted for yourself and no one here will try to change you one bit.

One more word – our dear sweet Bas was a lurker here for four years before he made himself know. Even then he only came out to warn me that I had put up something that could have hurt me. He was my friend and protector before I had even met him. And he credited the blogs here with prolonging his life, I can only hope that was true. Bas showed me how powerful friendships here can be.

For all my lurkers, remember, you have friends here – you just haven’t met them yet.

92 comments:

  1. Hey Elis...I was a lurker for quite a while and the first time I posted a comment on any blog, I thought I was going to be sick! Happened the first time I posted here and then you replied so warmly.

    No longer a lurker! ;) BTW...have you heard from Lisa lately...how are they all doing?

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Cat,
      I do remember that fear for sure - but it's long gone now.

      I just heard from Lisa the other day, she's doing alright, but of course each new season is the first without Bas. So it's still very hard.

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  2. Hi Elis, :)

    Happy LOL Day to you!! :) We were all lurkers at one time or another. It is a bit terrifying to make that first comment. Once people do, they will find a bunch of lovely people in the land! One of them is you. :) Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Katie,
      I was sure everyone with a computer would know I'd commented on a spanking blog. LOL, I was wrong. It's really safe.

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  3. I miss Bas so much. He would have been so proud in his sweet way, telling everyone the story of his lurking and encouraging everyone to start blogging. He was like an entire institution all by himself. I don't know how one person could have enough love to reach out and change so many of us, but he did. We were so lucky.

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    1. Ana,
      Bas was one of the very best this that happened to me through blogging. Such a special soul. Always kind but would kindly tell you you were wrong if he felt that way.

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  4. Hi PK, I was thinking of Bas too this morning , I bet he is reading all our posts from his cloud this morning. I hope you have a nice lol dsay
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Jan,
      Could well be. He did love blogland.

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  5. Happy LOL day, PK!

    I found you by Bas.
    As you can see, everything is his fault

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    1. Mona,
      It's his fault and he'd be proud to claim blame!

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  6. Happy LOL day PK! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

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    1. TL,
      I'll always have thoughts to share - I'm just glad someone is willing to listen.

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  7. Happy LOL day. I read more than I comment here, but thank you for your great blog.

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    1. Janey,
      Thank you so much. I'm glad to know you come by.

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  8. I absolutely love this blog and have for a very long time :)
    Happy LOL Day PK!
    # MrBBSpanker

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    1. MrBBSpanker,
      You made my day. I'm not always on topic and I worry that people will lose interest.

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  9. Happy LOL Day PK. Lovely post. The friendships made here are very real and as you said, Bas proved that to all of us.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      I always laugh when my daughter points out that I do everything on line that I warn her about - talking to strangers, etc. I told her it's fine as long as she waits until she's 50.

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  10. Happy LOL day.

    Prefectdt

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  11. PK,

    Never a lurker, more like one of the family.

    Happy LOL day.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Ronnie,
      Absolutely like family!

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  12. Anonymous6:41 AM

    I do love you blogs!! Thank you for letting us not so brave or with not much to blog about read!! I am great full to all of you.
    Tia

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    1. Tia,
      So good to hear from you. Bravery builds - I know from personal experience. When I made my first comment, I had never said one word to my husband about spanking. Boy, have both out lives changed. Please come by anytime!

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  13. Hello Elis! Waving hi from lurkdom ;)

    JGIrl

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    1. Jason Girl,
      Waving back - stop by for a visit anytime.

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  14. Hi Elis,

    Happy LOL 8 day! I'm a regular visitor to your blog, and always enjoy your posts and fiction.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Hermione,
      Thanks, I really appreciate all the folks who help with FF.

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  15. Like many lurkers turned bloggers, you can't hang about blogland for too long without finding your way here. Thanks for all the Fantasy Fridays they have helped inspire me and hopefully leading to getting a book published :)
    hugs
    DF

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    1. DF,
      I love that so many have shared on Fantasy Friday - it's like eating chips, you start writing and you can't stop. So glad you read here.

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  16. As you know I was like Bas, read for many years and finally de-lurked! You my friend, are the reason I began to blog....friendships here-Yes very real!!

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    1. Minelle,
      I have wonderful friends from here. It's something I wouldn't have believed if it hadn't happened to me.

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  17. Happy LOL day, PK. Getting to know and meet you was one of the best things that happened to me when I stopped lurking. You have been a mentor to me in this lifestyle. And a dear friend. Want to wish you much continued happiness and hope your book is a success.

    FD

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    1. FD,
      You are very special to me. I don't know if you remember exactly how we met, but I do. It was a difficult time for me and you made me feel better.

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  18. As you know I am not a lurker here. I am happy to call you my friend. :-) You were one of the very first blogs I visited and commented on and have been doing so ever since. Thank-you for sharing yourself. :-) Hugs

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    1. Terps,
      I bet we've been friends for more than six year. That's a long time in blog years, LOL!

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  19. Elis,
    very eloquent dear girl, and so true.
    Love and warm hugs,
    Paul.

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    1. Paul,
      You and I are living proof.

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  20. Wonderful post my friend and I mean that sincerely.

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    1. Leigh,
      It's strange, you can make many friends, talk to so many people and one or two somehow 'hit' and you know they will really understand.

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  21. While I don't comment as often as I should, yours is a favourite blog of mine to read! Happy LOL Day! :D

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    1. Christina,
      That's a high compliment, thank you!

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  22. Happy LOL day. I think you single handedly have convinced many of us to start blogging...and many to start writing. You were the one that got me blogging..thanks!
    hugs abby

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    1. Abby,
      Bless your heart - I just a good jumping off place and I'm so happy that you and others joined us.

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  23. Happy LOL day
    Thank you for reaching out a year ago to me and convinced me that I had something to say in TTWD, it it weren't for you I would still be lurking

    Bob

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    1. Bob,
      So glad you stepped out! I was scared when I commented the first time,but for me once I found blogs I just couldn't keep my mouth shut.

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  24. Hello! I don't think I have ever commented on your blog, but I come by all the time. Love it! Happy LOL Day. :0)

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    1. Irish Lucky,
      Thank you for letting me know. It makes me happy that LOL day really does give people the encouragement to come out and say hey.

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  25. Happy LoL Day! I don't comment often but enjoy reading!

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    1. Chickadee,
      You're welcomed here anytime.

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  26. Anonymous11:03 AM

    Hi Elis
    I enjoy reading your blog and like the story of how you came to be known as PK. I have only commented on one blog before today but, as I have been lurking since the beginning of the year, thought I should stand up and be counted as this day is dedicated to invisible readers like me.
    Happy L8L day!
    Rosie :)

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    1. Rosie,
      Thank you! LOL day IS for you and I'm glad you took the time to stop and say hello. I hope you'll come back again and say hey.

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  27. hiya! Happy LOL DAY!!

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    1. Fondles,
      Great to see you!

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  28. Hello my friend, you know you have a lot to do with me being here in this wonderful community. I have not been the greatest of friends lately as I have not been commenting much. I just haven't been able to focus as much as I would like for that. I wanted to say thank you for all your support and hopefully I will be able to rectify that lurker status soon :)

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    1. Faerie,
      You are a great friend - who has a TON going on in her life. I love that you're still here. It says a lot for how important this place is, even when life smack you around a little.

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  29. Happy LOL Day Elis! Your blogs was one of the first I came across back when we joined blogland, and we've been lurking ever since.

    -Clint and Chelsea
    Learning Domestic Discipline

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    1. Clint and Chelsea,
      I'm so glad you came by today. I feel like I'm not on topic all the time a lot these days, but I sure can relate to so many post out here.

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  30. Laurel11:59 AM

    Hi Elis,
    I've been lurking here for years. I found you via Bonnie and have been hooked ever since. I have always admired your candor and sense of humor. I fell in love with Tom and Casie and cannot wait to read your book. Thank you for being the person you are and for welcoming your lurkers. *smiles*

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    1. Laurel!
      Oh you found the perfect way into my heart! Anyone who love Cassie and Tom is a friend of mine. I hope you'll come by and visit anytime.

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  31. Happy, LOL Day, Elis. Yours is one of my favorite blogs, you sound like me in many of your rants and posts. I don't comment nearly as often as I should.

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    1. Kaki,
      If you agree with me on my rants you must be an extremely intelligent woman! LOL, ranting here keeps me sane at times.

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  32. Anonymous12:30 PM

    I am a regular reader and lurker of all your blogs!

    C

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    1. C,
      I thank you - I hope you'll say hey more often.

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  33. Happy LOL day Elis. I don't comment often, but I do enjoy visiting your blog.
    Blessings,
    George

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    1. George,
      You are welcomed here. I hope you'll leave a comment occasionally. It's always good to know when people have come by.

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  34. Happy LOL day! I don't know if I have ever commented but I do enjoy reading. Glad I could say hello.

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    1. Zoe,
      I'm glad you do and I'd love to get to know you.

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  35. I love this. Such a true sentiment about this amazing community. Anyone who has found their way out of their comfort zone even a little will quickly find what honestly caring people make up this little section of blog land.

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    1. Corinne,
      You're right. To feel a little 'different' or 'strange' in real life and then to find a place where you are completely normal and one of the crowd, is just amazing.

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  36. A few years ago your blog introduced me to this whole new world. Thank you.

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    1. I love seeing you here Patty!

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  37. Happy LOL Day. Though, it could also mean LoL, it's awfully fun to laugh with you

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    1. Blondie,
      Sometimes life seem a little ridiculous to me and I just have to laugh at it!

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  38. Happy LOL Day. Your message is brilliant! Bas is still missed and his impact still felt. Your blog is wonderful, thank you for sharing!

    hugs,
    fiona

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    1. Thank you Fiona, that means a lot to me. And yes, I do still feel Bas' influence.

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  39. You will always be my Pissed Kitty! I am proud of your blogging accomplishments! I read everything you do!

    Love you!
    grace

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    1. Of my first three amazing friends I met here you are the only one who still blogs and you are still very special to me.

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  40. Elis <--- that still feels odd. :) You were one of my very first friends in blogland. And actually, yours was one of the first blogs I found. You are warm and generous and always, always encouraging. Lurkers, this is the one to talk to!!

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    1. Rogue,
      Bless your heart! I love to talk to newcomers, whether they have just found us or have been lurking for years. I'm so glad we met here.

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  41. Happy LOL Day, PK. Take care.

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    1. SNP,
      So happy to see you here today.

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  42. I just wanted to say hi. I have only commented on your blog a few times, so I guess I tend to be more of a lurker than a commenter, but I do like your blog and have learned some amazing things from you. Thank you. :)

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    1. Es May,
      I hope you'll comment more - as for learning, I think we all do a great job of passing knowledge around here.

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  43. Happy LOL 8 Day! Glad you're here too! I really appreciate your blog a lot.

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    1. Thanks Cygnet,
      I really love being here.

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  44. You are amazing!!!!! Love your blog, love your stories, love your guests!

    Happy LOL day!

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    1. Thanks you so much Sarah, of course everyone helps with the stories, thank goodness.

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  45. Grace M5:02 PM

    Hi PK, sorry its late, been completely out of the loop for a while, happy belated LOL day.

    Grace M

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  46. Happy belated LOL day!

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