Friday, November 29, 2013

Fantasy Friday, pre-empted for THE WEDDING!

Since I didn’t have a new story for Fantasy Friday I thought I’d pre-empty it just this once. If I only do that when one of my children marries we shouldn’t miss too many stories.

The wedding was New York casual chic. Not to be mistaken for southern country casual – where we sit around barefoot, drinking ice tea and gossiping about the neighbors, no this had a different feel to it all together. All these beautiful people seemed right at home in the West Village.

While I never had any qualms about LJ and Colin marrying, I had great fears of them planning a wedding. I mean, come on – two boys, they hadn’t been planning pretend wedding since they were five. Some things just need a woman’s touch. Thank heavens for Franny and Erin! LJ, Franny and Erin all met at seventeen while attending Governor’s school. These lovely ladies did the planning and kept the guys on track for what needed to be done. With them at the helm everything flowed smoothly while nothing felt staged or regimented.

Colin had worked for nine months on the playlist and I over heard one of them say, two more songs and then we’ll get married. We headed to one end of the bar where they had decided to hold the ceremony only to realize that only a small few would be able to see. We all heading to the stairs at the other end of the room.

Franny also officiated the wedding – something they had spoken of in jest years ago, but worked out perfectly in real life. The evening felt almost magical as the three of them took their places on the stairs. Franny began by telling a bit of their history, mentioning that many in the room had never know LJ or Colin when they were not together and pointing out that for many attending, the near decade the boys have been together, was the longest relationship any of them had witnessed.

She carried off the ceremony beautifully, with just the right amount of emotion, humor and love. She spoke to the crowd saying, “If anyone here has reason why this couple should not be married – keep it to yourself. You’ve had over nine years to say something, this is not the time.” to the laughing approval of the crowd.

Each of the boys wrote their own vows and they did a beautiful job. Colin won the toss of who would go first and as he pulled out his vows his mother (who may be more southern than I am) said to those around her, “That boy always did love to make a speech.”

His vows were beautiful and he concluded with, “Almost a decade ago I walked out onto a stage in North Carolina and saw your face for the first time. You smiled at me and completely changed my life. And I’m more than honored to still be sharing a stage with you. I love you.”

LJ’s vows said in part, “When I hear people talk about the person they love, they often say they need each other. While I understand what they mean, I never want you to feel that I’m with you because I need you. I need things like food and shelter and medicine. I choose things like art, education and ambitions. I want, and I choose to have you in my life, not because I can’t live without you, but because a life with you is so beautiful I couldn’t pass it up.”

Although I didn’t cry (I was simply too happy), many around me were weeping openly. The whole evening was just perfect. The party continued amidst much laughter, hugging, and story telling. I loved hearing Colin’s mother telling a group, “I finally had to tell Colin he was gay, he wouldn’t ever tell me. I finally just told him, son I know you’re gay, but what kind of mother would I be if I didn’t love you anyway. Now let’s go.” She’s just great.

We all huddled around as they signed the marriage license, many cheering saying, “It’s official.” Others saying, “You’re legal in thirteen states, or is it fifteen.” Yet others saying, “No you’re legal in all fifty states since you married here.” Finally LJ raised his arms in victory asserting, “It’s ambiguous!” and we all cheered.

I’ve never been to a wedding like this, I doubt I’ll ever attend another like it – it was too perfectly suited to LJ and Colin. I’m honored to be the mother and mother-in-law of these two fine men. I have shared their past and am grateful that they are willing to share their future with us. I look forward to the adventure.

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Written by PK at 11:30 AM



At 12:42 AM, Blogger Cat said...

Oh PK...thanks for sharing.

Franny's line about keeping objections to yourself was great!

And the boys vows...absolutely, beautifully awesome! Yup...tears in my eyes!

So very happy that LJ has as wonderful a mother-in-law as Colin does...they are so lucky! Just gotta wonder...which mother is gonna start asking for grands first! *snicker*

Now put your feet up for the rest of the weekend and relax.

Hugs and Blessings...

At 12:43 AM, Blogger Daisy Christian said...

glad everything went great ..sounds like an awesome time!!! glad your back too

At 1:43 AM, Blogger Fondles said...

Oh that sounded wonderful! My eyes aren't quite as dry as when I started reading the post. :)

At 1:54 AM, Blogger Roz said...

Hey PK, sounds as though the wedding was absolutely perfect. I love that Franny married them, and her line about keeping objections to yourself.

Colin's Mom sounds awesome. It seems both boys lucked out with Mother's in law :)


At 3:40 AM, Blogger Mona Lisa said...

Oh, my, I have a tears in my eyes.... How amazing !!
And I just love, love LJ’s vows ...

Good luck, boys !

At 7:33 AM, Blogger Paul said...

an experience of a lifetime I imagine.
Both boys are lucky in their Moms and Mom-in-laws.
Well done to all concerned.
Love and warm hugs,

At 8:28 AM, Blogger Leigh Smith aka Sunny Girl said...

Lovely, brought tears to my eyes.

At 9:50 AM, Blogger Anastasia Vitsky said...

That's great, PK. Congratulations once again.

At 2:45 PM, Blogger George K said...

PK, what a great wedding, congrats to all! I too loved the line about keeping objections to yourself! Thanks for the update.


At 3:03 PM, Blogger ronnie said...


I wished I'd been there. The boys vows were wonderful.


At 5:28 PM, Blogger Joolz said...

Sounds like you had a wonderful day; Congratulations to you all xxx

At 6:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well said, babe.

At 7:17 PM, Blogger Katie said...

What a special ceremony, PK!! :) What loving words Colin and LJ spoke to eachother!!! Gave me goosebumps reading this. It is a wonderful thing to see such joy in a son's eyes and heart! Many congrats and thanks so much for sharing! Many hugs sent your way,

<3 Katie

At 9:35 PM, Blogger Minelle Labraun said...

What a perfect way to see marriage. Each of their vows were beautiful.
I think that when people marry often there are so many expectations that the couple often get lost in the shuffle. I am glad that this wasn't the case here.
Congratulations PK!

At 10:44 PM, Blogger PK said...

Awww… the thought of grands. LJ says then definitely do not plan on children - he's certain. However four years ago he told me he'd never marry either. So...

At 10:45 PM, Blogger PK said...

It was as much fun as I've had in a long time.

At 10:49 PM, Blogger PK said...

There were many happy tears there. It was wonderful to see how many people care so much about my boys.

At 10:58 PM, Blogger PK said...

It was perfect and having Franny marry them - well no one could have done it better. I can say for sure that both MsIL have never had one problem accepting their sons or the man they chose.

At 10:59 PM, Blogger PK said...

It was magical standing there hearing what they had to say to one another.

At 11:02 PM, Blogger PK said...

It was the experience of a life time, I can't imagine some parents choosing to miss something so important. Not me, I'll be there every time they want me.

At 11:02 PM, Blogger PK said...

I was just great Leigh.

At 11:02 PM, Blogger PK said...

Thanks Ana. It was very special.

At 11:03 PM, Blogger PK said...

Everyone thought that was great!

At 11:03 PM, Blogger PK said...

I was impressed. They both did such a great job.

At 11:04 PM, Blogger PK said...

A wonderful day for sure.

At 11:05 PM, Blogger PK said...

Thanks honey, I think we did very well.

At 11:07 PM, Blogger PK said...

When he first told me he was gay I worried that he would never find this kind of happiness. I'm so glad my worries were groundless.

At 11:14 PM, Blogger PK said...

They were the stars of the show for sure. Colin's mother said she wasn't going to worry as much anymore since she had seem how many friends they had and how much they were loved.

At 10:52 AM, Blogger Janey said...

I think most mothers just want their children to be safe and happy. You have both and they both have great MILs.
Fantastic post, congratulations. Janey

At 11:37 AM, Blogger PK said...

You're right, that is all we want for our kids. It warms my heart to realize how many people love and care about them. That was another reason the wedding was so special to me.

At 12:19 PM, Blogger Jackie Berlant said...

Sounds perfect. Smiling

At 12:36 PM, Blogger PK said...

It really was - it might have been cold out side, but the wedding was warm and loving.

At 4:08 PM, Anonymous Grace M said...

Sounds like a beautiful relaxed day filled with love, absolutely perfect. I’m so happy for you

At 12:37 PM, Blogger Patty said...

What a wonderful day. I wish all that love was contagious.

At 7:12 PM, Blogger abby said...

WOW..certainly a day to be remembered with much love and pride! Thanks for sharing it with all of us!
hugs abby

At 10:25 PM, Blogger Terpsichore said...

such a wonderful retelling of the special day! it sounds wonderful and so special. Thanks for sharing! Hugs, Terps

At 10:38 PM, Blogger PK said...

Grace, that describes the day perfectly.

At 10:39 PM, Blogger PK said...

That is a wonderful wish. I think everyone against same sex marriage should be able to see how wonderful this was.

At 10:40 PM, Blogger PK said...

Thanks Abby,
It was a day to remember. It was magic for everyone.

At 10:40 PM, Blogger PK said...

I hope every mother is as happy as I was on their child's wedding day.


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