I walked in the house yesterday afternoon to a ‘look’ from Nick, a small grin and the statement “It’s a good thing I trust you.” I had to laugh when he told me what he was talking about. The branch of our bank in our little town is closing. I’m not about to drive to the next town to cash a check so I decided to open a small checking account in another bank in town. I wanted to see how much was in our account, but I couldn’t remember our password. I called Nick to get it. That was all I asked, I know he’s busy at work. I closed my account at one bank – which took forever to get their check-writing machine to work. It seemed to take forever opening the new account too, so I got home about ninety minutes late.
Nick was saying “It gives you a funny feeling when your wife calls to get the bank account password and then she doesn’t come home.” LOL! Poor fellow! But I don’t imagine he was really very worried.
We have our empty nest back. And we did celebrate, as we should have. I can’t say the girls (PK, Badass or even Wimpy) are back on a full time basis, but Nick has a wonderful way of at least coaxing them back for an afternoon visit. A little spanking and some great lovin’.
I’m feeling better about my hurt feelings. As many of you guessed it was about my news about LJ and Colin that caused the situation. You all helped me enormously. Everyone who commented and emailed me seemed genuinely happy for them. Everyone I’ve shared with at school has been supportive, and even the folks I shared with at our church – my parent’s friends who are in their eighties wished them both well and seemed happy for us all.
Even the three that hurt me so – they weren’t ugly about it, there sum total response was “Oh…” and a complete change of subject. Not exactly how the mother of the groom expects her closest friends to react. I’ve written the letter. I’ll smooth and refine it until I get it right. It will be there to send if I ever decide to.
But as Lillie pointed out to me, they have shown me who they really are. Not bad people, but their feelings against same sex marriage are stronger than their love for LJ and me. That tells me a lot.
I’m going to be fine – LJ and Colin are happy. Nick, Mollie and I are happy for them and nearly all our friends are supportive. Really what more could I ask for? If I still find myself feeling hurt and anger to those few, well maybe Faerie said it best in an email –
“I've always thought a life well led is the best revenge, LJ’s doing that quite beautifully.”