I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Books and answers

I can tell you what I’ve been doing lately in one work – reading! It was Sunnygirl who first mentioned Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy to me. Then Florida Dom mentioned it on his site too. I used to read all the time, that is until I began blogging. Now I seem to spend more time writing than reading. I did take the time to read The Hunger Games trilogy (I seem to be into trilogies lately) and I really enjoy all of them and I’m looking forward to the movie.

But let me tell you – Fifty Shades of Grey is the hottest thing I’ve read in… well maybe it’s the hottest thing I’ve ever read. I think someone called it lady porn. I’ll accept that and make no apologies for enjoying it. I could see some vanilla’s being offended, but it was certainly right up my alley. I highly recommend these books to anyone here in our community.

I had very good question from Faerie the other day. She asked:

Someone considering starting ttwd comes to you for advice and you can only tell them one thing. What would it be?

My best advice would be to NOT wait as long as I did to share this with your significant other. I knew I was interested in this type of relationship since pre-puberty. I hid these feeling from Nick for 23 years, which meant I meant I hid who I really was from him all that time. I robbed us of years of closeness. It’s something I can’t go back and undo.

So if you know this is something you want to try, don’t wait another day. Tell the person you love. Will they understand - no? But will they think you’re crazy – no. From my experience and what I’ve read of the experiences of my friends, most guys are willing to listen and try. I can pretty much promise it will not be problem free. It’s like climbing a mountain. You climb a while together and then one or both of you will slide back down a ways. Either of you may sit there a while before you start the climb again, but I think most who try it will see the benefits enough to start the climb again. Some reach the meadow at the top. We’re still climbing, but the climb is way easier than when we started.

So there’s my best advice. I hope it helps someone.

I have enjoyed answering questions. I’ve been blogging nearly 6 years and it’s always great when I get an idea that sparks an idea for a post. So please, ask away. Until then I’ll be reading!


  1. Reading. Yeah, I used to do more of that too... this post made me feel warm. Maybe because of the question, not sure really why, but warm I feel.



  2. I must download that book. Thanks PK.


  3. I'm on the third book and can't put them down. I just started reading them last Thursday. Wonderful panty wetting series. Highly recommended. Hope the author continues to write.


  4. PK, I agree, don't wait, spill the beans, you might be very pleasantly surprised.
    I will see if I can find a review of Fifty Shades of Grey .
    Love and warm hugs,

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  6. PK, That is great advice. And thanks for the tip on a new book to read. I can't wait to find it. I feel like I had been reading everything I could for awhile there and something new would be good.

  7. That's good advice for anything, don't be afraid to share with your soul mate. They want to know everything, they want to be everything to you.

  8. As always, great advice, thank you :)

  9. That is a very HOT trilogy for sure. Ive read mixed reviews, and personally i LOVE it and have a huge crush on Christian Grey lol, so it's nice to see someone else enjoys it as well :)

  10. as Stormy said that is great advice for anything in life...not just spanking.
    I have read a mention of that book on a couple of blogs and so i have looked the trilogy up on amazon...a set i will be getting for sure :)

  11. Kitty,
    I hope warm in a good way.

    You won’t regret it!

    I just finished the second one. I have to get some rewrites done on my work so I won’t down load the third one until I get that finished.

    I would be curious to know what you think of the books if you read them.

    I don’t think you’ll be disappointed.

    You’re exactly right. Sharing anything important to you with the one you love is the best thing.

    I hope it helps someone.

    LOL! I have a crush on them myself!

    I hope you’ll like the books as much as am.

  12. Just a couple of questions....

    How much wood could a wood chuck.....oh never mind!

    Really what I want to know is....are you team Peeta or team Gale?

    Starting 50 shades tomorrow!


  13. Just a couple of questions....

    How much wood could a wood chuck.....oh never mind!

    Really what I want to know is....are you team Peeta or team Gale?

    Starting 50 shades tomorrow!