We have an anniversary coming up this week – a big one. Thursday we will have been married for 25 years. Had I known I was going to be a teacher I would never have gotten married in early June. I am often so busy our day goes by almost unnoticed. But I am not terrible sentimental about the actual day really. And with the man I married that’s a good thing. To tell you the truth Nick can really be romantics at times but it doesn’t always come naturally to him. But it occurred to me that I have never told you all about when Nick asked me to marry him. Perhaps that is because he never has asked me. Let me explain.
Nick and I had been dating nearly two years. We were happy with each other but neither of us felt the need to rush into marriage even though we were 26 and 31. I had lived alone for 7 years and Nick had lived alone for 13. Marriage was going to be a big change for us. So we had talked a little but no proposal.
Then one Friday as I was headed to his house for the weekend Nick called and asked me to bring over an album he had given me. I told him fine but I forgot to take it. When he asked about it I teased him and said “I forgot it but if you want in here you know how you could have it here all the time!” Nick just laughed and said it would be cheaper to just buy another album.
The next weekend he called and asked me to bring it again. Again I told him fine and again I forgot it. When he asked this time I said “I told you how you could get it here all the time!” Nick looked at me and sighed and said “Okay, when do you want to move it in?” And that, folks, was as close as he ever came to asking me to marry him!
Okay there was no sky writing, no personalized score boards, no rose pedals, no down on one knee, no ring in a champagne glass. But we loved each other and we did want to get married. We went to get a ring the next day (Saturday) but I didn’t tell anyone just yet. Maybe there is a little bit of a brat in me after all because I went to church Sunday morning I didn’t say a word to my mother. I sat peacefully with my folks through the opening of church and a few songs, my right covering my ring. I waited until the preacher started preaching then I nudged my mom. I held out my left hand and pointed to the ring. Her eyes nearly popped out of her head and she immediately started stammering in a whisper. “Shhhhhhhhh!” I shushed her as she had so often called my dad and me down when we whispered, “The preacher is preaching!” She tried to contain herself and as she quieted I leaned over and whispered “June” (it was already February). Mom looked startled “June? This June??!” I knew she was thinking of all the time and details that had gone into my sisters wedding. Years later I started to tell her that I was pregnant with LJ the same way but I knew she would have dragged me out of church and spanked me for sure it I had tried that stunt again!
The wedding was beautiful. It was pretty much what my mom wanted. Honestly the wedding didn’t matter that much to me. I just wanted to get married and mom really had a vision of what he wanted for her daughter. At our age Nick was insistent that he and I pay for a great deal of the wedding but it was a lot of fun. Bridzilla I am not, I just enjoyed the party!
One thing many of our friends said at the time that I didn’t really understand was that they thought we would make a great old couple. I couldn’t understand why they said that – I mean we were young at the time. But they saw something, I think it was their way of saying they could tell we would be together for a long time. They were right – we used to say we skipped our first marriage and went directly to our second. Lots of our friends at the time who had gotten married in there late teens and then divorced were starting to remarry. I think waiting until 26 and 31 was good for us.
Now you all know how much I love Nick romantic or not. I don’t want you to think he has no romance in him – he did get me a very special wedding gift. Something that no one else has ever given me. In fact he felt is was so special that he replaced it on our 20th wedding anniversary. Want to see a picture of my special wedding and 20th anniversary gift? Scroll down…
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Oh well, he turned out to be a great spanker!!