Sad

It’s a sad day here. My nephew died his morning. He had an 11 month old son. My nephew was 20 years old. Twenty-five years ago his mom and I were best buddies and worked together. She met Nick’s baby brother when they were both in our wedding and two years later they were married. My good friend became my SIL. I was with her three years later when she did a pregnancy test to find out this boy was coming. We were so happy we cried, you cannot imagine the joy we felt. Five months later she was with me when I did a test to find out LJ was coming. More tears of joy. We spent that summer talking about how to raise our children and what good friends they would be.

The boys were good friends when they were young but as they reached their teen years their interests went in different directions. My nephew turned first to sports and then unfortunately as he got older to drinking and drugs.

In the last few months he had been doing better. We all hoped and prayed that everything was going to be alright. But this morning that hope was dashed forever.

His mom is on the cruise with her other son and another SIL and Mollie. They don’t know what has happened yet. The boy’s dad is devastated and confused about exactly what to do next. Call the ship, wait until they get home and tell then when they call? We have offered to drive down with them to help drive everyone home. I don’t suppose either of my SIL will be in very good shape. I also worry about Mollie. She has lost my parents but it was expected and we all had time to adjust. She has never experienced a shock like this and about someone so young. I want to be with her. LJ is back in his college town but we have talked today. He knows I need to connect with him and he has called several times. I also have a great need to hug Mollie.

Right now Nick and I are just trying to be here for each other. We are so worried about his parents dealing not only with losing a grandson but know the hurt their own son is going through. Right now I just want it to not be true, I want it to go away, I don’t want to have to see the family is such pain. Thank you all for being here as a release for me.