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Monday, January 04, 2016

What the doctor said

I can’t imagine anyone enjoying their vacation more than I did. I saw my children, I played, I relaxed and I came to terms with what the doctor said. What she said was diabetes. Life changing, but not earth shattering. I felt pretty shattered when I first heard. I have always been against real life changes that don’t involve spanking. But this is what was dumped into my lap and the changes must be made.

When I first heard I was upset and scared and I only told a few friends here and a few in real life.  People in both places help me gain a little perspective. One dear friend from blogland told me of a health crisis she’d faced a few years back. She went though some serious stuff with little reason at first to expect a good outcome, yet she made a wonderful recovery and is as close to normal as the rest of us – what ever that might mean. Other good friend here is also dealing with diabetes and she’s given me some good ideas and suggestion. 

All these friends helped me put things is perspective. I wish I didn’t have diabetes – it sucks. Okay, enough of that – on to what to do. I feel I no longer have the decision of whether or not to lose weight. I simple have to do it, period. My beloved Sundrop – the greatest soft drink in the world is now but a lovely memory. My days of mostly junk food – chips, donuts, cakes and cookies have been turned upside down. It’s not that I can never have these things again, but my days of mindless grazing are over.

Lastly – and I take a deep breath as I say this – I must learn to eat vegetables. In the past ‘eating vegetables’ meant eating my corn, lima beans (yes, I like them), potatoes, and rice. Can anyone say starches? It’s hard to change lifetime dislikes and there are just so
few vegetables I like. I’m working on it. I don’t find it nearly as difficult to stay away from what I shouldn't eat as I do making myself eat the things I should. So I’m taking small steps – trying new things. Looking for recipes. The meanest things the doctor said was that I was going to have to learn how to cook – now she gone to meddling. I guess it's true what one of my friends here said,  "You have delayed adulthood for an impressive span of years." I guess it time to grow up.

I’m on no medication at the moment. She wanted me to keep a record of my blood sugar for a month and then we’ll decide what will be best for me. So the only real changes I’ve made is to begin exercising and to eat sensibly.  Just those changes have improved the way I feel. I was having a lot of blurry vision and that has cleared up completely.

The most important thing!

This is not going to turn into a health blog. This is a spanko blog and it will continue to be so! Hopefully even more so. I haven’t felt good for a while – spanking didn’t interest me, I didn’t enjoy the ones I got and I was worried about my lack of interest. As I’ve begun to feel better my spanking thoughts have started to returned. The desire isn’t strong yet, but then again we’ve had company and I’ve been in mom-mode for nearly a month, that could be a factor. We’re going to work on it.

If you have great receipts for low carb dishes and want to share, please feel free! If you have questions I should be asking the doctor that I might not have thought of yet, send them on – you can always email elisspeaks@yahoo.com  But mostly I hope you’ll be around for encouragement. I’m good now, I feel strong and ready to do what needs to be done, but in six months, eight, ten – I’m going to be tired of being good and I’m scared bad habits of the last fifty or so year are going to try to rear their ugly head. Hopefully I’ll feel so much better that won’t be a problem.  After all I plan to be around a long time, Nick and the kids (who aren’t really kids) still need me, I have future grandchildren to spoil, there are many places I want to go, things I want to do and definitely books I want to write. Being healthy is the way to get all these things done!

Thanks to all of you who have been concerned and ask about what was really wrong. I found out, I know what I need to do, and now let’s all get back to spanking!

38 comments:

  1. Hi PK, I'm so glad you posted this update, I have been thinking of you. I know this has come as a bit of a shock, but it's great that you have some answers and that it can be managed.

    Making those lifestyle changes is hard, but you can do it. Since Rick's surgery we are also having to make lifestyle changes.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. It could be so much worse - this can be controlled. Yeah, a little work, but I can do it. Hope things are going to be manageable for you and Rick.

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  2. Anonymous1:09 AM

    I have been on a diet since April and have lost about 40lbs. It is called The fast Metabolism Diet. The diet has 3 phases and is too long and complicated to go into here, but the reason I am bringing this to you is because Phase 2 is "low carb". If google Haylie Pomroy (the author) or FMD Phase 2 recipes there are lots of delicious low carb, recipes that I think will keep you interested. Also, I had to give up my beloved Diet Coke with Splenda (no caffeine or artificial sweeteners allowed) and found that I enjoyed the Dasani and La Croix flavored sparkling waters. Best of luck to you in your journey to health. You can do it!!!

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    1. I'll defiantly google it. I like looking at new recipes and I'll try the flavored waters. Cause just plain water is fine for a while but not forever! Thanks for the encouragement.

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    2. Anonymous2:31 PM

      There are lots of great flavoured waters. Perrier has lime and grapefruit sparkling water that is pretty good!

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  3. I'm sorry about your diagnosis but I'm sure you will get on top of things. The shops offer a huge range of alternatives now which can help.
    I am going to look up the diet above, but I am not sure about the no caffeine element.'

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    1. I'm not quite ready to give up all caffeine yet myself but I'm still going to try some of the recipes.

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  4. Take one step at a time PK. I had to change my whole out look on life five years ago with a scare but it has made me appreciate life more and I feel healthier. Stay strong, once you have been on your special diet for approximately 6 weeks it will feel like second nature. At first you will feel deprived and grieve for the things you can't eat but it will get easier. Good luck for your journey to better health.
    Hugs Lindy

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    1. Change is never easy and so often I've just given up. I just can't do that this time.

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  5. I know you can do this PK. Once you have been on this for a few months and feel healthier you wont want to go back to easing fast foods.

    I hope you will post some of the recipes you like as we all could do with eating less carbs.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. I will Ronnie, after I do some experimenting. I'm anxious to talk to the doctor again and really find out exactly what I should be doing.

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    2. I'm glad you will PK as it could help others who might be struggling and don't like to ask.

      Love,
      Ronnie
      xx

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  6. PK, unfortunately real life is not just a spanking story. Damn! But I will tell you that having Sam as my diet coach and Mr Paddle to back things up makes eating healthy a lot more interesting. Maybe Nick could be persuaded to help.

    Ella Cheering You On!

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    1. Well it SHOULD be a spanking story! I would love to work out something like this with Nick and I know he would be willing but I don't know exactly how it would work. We'll talk.

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  7. Hi Pk, oh my goodness I don't know what to say. Our son was diagnosed with diabetes, insulin dependent at age 16 and it was a massive blow to us all. However he is 27 now and is so fit and healthy. It is a huge change , mind you really and truly no one should live on junk food and so that change can only be for the good. I am not a vegetable fan either , I tend to stick to the same old things. Do they make your fizzy drink ina sugar fee version, Son has all his favourites but in sugar fee. There are lots of stuff you probably can have if you have it the right way. I reckon as you head into retirement this is your chance to be healthy and have a great life. I hope you can get to grips with it all, much love and if you want to talk email me,
    love Jan,xx

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    1. I have a cousin diagnosed when he was 17, he's 75 now and doing well. Glad your son is doing so well. As I understand it I can have most anything if I don't eat too much and not too often. There is one diet drink I like, but I know those can cause problems too.

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  8. Diabetes sux...and dieting sux ever more. But faced with a world of evidence that shows that a moderate diet brings so many rewards, I guess the choice is made easier. Maybe retiring looks just a little bit more appealing?

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    1. I have a year to retirement - it would be so nice to go into it in really good shape. I'm going to give it my best shot!

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  9. Hi PK,
    I am always happy to share recipes. I have done a lot of experimenting with food in trying to find healthier ways of eating for both myself and my family. Still I am a work in progress and human so I regress to old habits from time to time, but just remember one step at a time. And, I know you can do it - we both can. Just know you are not alone on this journey - you have friends by your side. :-) Just let me know when you are ready for recipes and information as I know life changes can be overwhelming. Feel free to give me a call if you want. Hugs

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    1. Thanks Terps, we'll be talking. I just wish I liked more veggies. Guess I'll have to learn.

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  10. Well, you have the diagnosis and you have a plan, you are off to a good start. I know I had a lot of litter mind game tricks I used when I got gestational diabetes and I am sure you will too. New habits will replace the old and you will be feeling great. Anytime you need encouragement, there are lots of friends out there. You can do it. Reward spankings are a must

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    1. Thanks Blondie. It's going to be an adventure, which is a little scary. But I can do it.

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  11. PK,
    You can do this.
    Meredith

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    1. I know I can do it I just have to get my mind around it. Thanks Meredith

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  12. As you know I am also one with this illness. I mostly just stay extreme low carb. I tend to not eat starches, breads, rice, pasta etc. However since mom passed away I have struggled so much. I have been trying to get back on track too. I have quite a few tricks that help me stay full and satisfied. If you are interested in my 'good girl' strategies..... I'll pass them your way. For me I am much better with the all or nothing mentality. There is quite a bit of info regarding ways to beat type 2! We can help each other be good!
    Sorry about the diagnosis. It is such a shock when it happens. It gets much easier. Also there is a rainbow when you are successful!

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    1. It was a shock though it shouldn't have been. I feel like a drunk who was told my liver is shot. I feel like I did this to myself so now I have to pull myself out.

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  13. Sorry to hear you have diabetes but want to wish you the best in dealing with it. All your cyber friends will be wishing you the best and while you will continue to have a spanko blog, feel freeto keep us up to dae on how you are doing.

    FD

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    1. Thanks FD, my blog is really my online diary. For better or worse you'll hear about most everything.

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  14. Anonymous11:20 AM

    I'm sorry to hear that and can relate to the panic, because somehow that's one of my biggest fears. It's not in my family or so, but I just love junk food and like you am not too fond of vegetables (I like red cabbage and sauerkraut, peas and carrots are edible as are tomatoes and cucumber, but that's mainly it) and know I should eat them more often.
    Also ever since you wrote about barely being able to walk back up from the waterfall I was concerned about you. Maybe you should also do some fitness - I try to do that twice a week and not because I like sport so much, but because I know it's good for my body.
    Love the comment from your friend about delaying adulthood.
    I hope you find some yummy recipes.

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    1. I'm glad you came by. I've feared this too and kinda feel like I did it to myself. I'm exercising now - but only at my house. I might join the gym again soon.

      I loved that line too - it's so very true.

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  15. Well that pure D sucks, PK! I am happy that the results are something that is manageable...hopefully with diet and exercise. I know what you mean about dieting...bleh. I love veggies but now have found out that many of my favorite veggies are carbs! Good gravy...that sucks. Would be really nice if they labeled things in the store as carb, protein, not carb, etc. wouldn't it. Sending lots of healing energy and positive thoughts your way. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. I'll sure vote for that label. If they left the labeling up to me I'd probably go through the store with 2 basic sticker. "This taste great - stay away it's bad for you" and "This tastes like crap - eat up it's good for you."

      Thanks for the good wishes. All will be fine eventually.

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  16. Anonymous11:24 AM

    Sorry to hear about diabetes! Wishing you well in managing it. I found this blog to help manage my diet- pizza is my weakness and love the chicken crusted pizza. If you get free time check it out!! http://sassysouthernyankee.com/2014/02/chicken-pizza-crust/

    ~K

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    1. OMG that looks wonderful! I will be trying this for sure! Thanks for the tip.

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  17. Hi...I am just getting back to blog land...read this and thought..this could be me. I have been warned by my doctor...I may be turning to you for advice...Good luck to you, you can do this.
    hugs abby

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    1. I was warned too, please listen to them. I'm not sure want all it's going to involve, but I'd sure rather not have it.

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  18. Anonymous4:41 PM

    PK. You can do this!!! I don't know if you remember, but I first started working with Todd when my diabetes was very much out of control. With their help and hard work on my part i am now off all insulin and doing fairly well. Jean

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    1. Jean, it's been a long time. So glad to hear you're doing so well with control your diabetes. Are you still in touch with Todd or Susie?

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