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Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Aging

What do you think of growing older? Are you planning on aging gracefully or are you going to fight it tooth and nail? I’m for the growing old naturally. I don’t mind using a rejuvenating face cream and I do color my hair, but that’s as far as I’m going. This weekend I was talking to LJ and he mention seeing a recent picture of Olivia de Havilland, and how beautifully she had aged. What do you think –





Diane Keaton chose to skip surgery and do it naturally too, isn’t she beautiful –





But look at Meg Ryan, she was a beautiful young woman and she would have aged beautiful I think, but she didn’t give herself the chance.






And last was the one that upset LJ the most. Now I’m not dissing Dolly in any way – I love her and I always will, but I hate the plastic surgery – she was a natural beauty, and like Olivia de Havilland, she would have been a natural beauty into her nineties.






What do you think. Do you trust yourself to age naturally and gracefully? I know I'm going to give it a try.

42 comments:

  1. Well dang PK...if I looked like Olivia de Havilland or Diane Keaton or presurgery Meg or Dolly, I would definitely be happy even though I've never been graceful a day in my life so how in the heck can I age gracefully? That being said, even looking like me instead of them, I won't be undergoing any kind of surgery...with my luck, I would end up looking absolutely hideous! So I will just stick with...*sigh* ;)

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. True I didn't pick dogs, but honestly I love how older women look.

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  2. I think that plastic surgery can be done tastefully, but I plan on aging naturally. I am going gray already (silver actually, in my early thirties!) but my husband doesn't wasn't me to color my hair. My grandmother recently reminded me that 20 years ago she was contemplating getting a second face lift, but us grandkids talked her out of it because we tools her that we loved every bit of her, even the wrinkly parts. That was a good reminder to me that even if I don't feel "good enough", I am perfect for the people who love me.

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    1. That's the best thing, perfect for the people who love us. And you gave your grandmother great advice.

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  3. Oh blimey, seeing some of these would definitely put you off going under the knife. I shall just have to settle for what I have got
    love Jan,xx

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    1. Jan,
      I've see some surgeries that looked great at first, but if you're lucky enough to live to old age, then it just looks weird.

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  4. No nip and tucks for me. I'll just age and hopefully nothing sags too much:)

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Ronnie,
      I would love to have the boobs back where they started, not bigger or anything. Just the right place.

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  5. I am with you on this one...not sure how graceful i will be and i still plan on being mu fiesty, stubborn, fun loving self, but not going to fight it. The alternative to growing old or older is no fun at all.
    hugs abby

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    1. Graceful or stumbling we're all heading in that direction, and natural has to be the best.

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  6. Aging naturally beats the hell outraging naturally is far more attractive than that plastic look! I think I shall just accept my natural fate.

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    1. I think the worse thing anyone can do is have their lips worked on - it ALWAYS turns out horribly.

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  7. I'm with you too PK, no surgery for me. I'll age ... well, maybe not gracefully, but naturally lol

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I think naturally is good enough.

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  8. PK,
    whether I've aged naturally or not, I am what I am.
    Love and warm hugs,
    Paul.

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    1. And I think you're great.

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  9. It's too late for me, if I was going to do it, it should have already been done. lol

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    1. LOL! I saw you, you needed NO work!

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  10. PK, I absolutely shrieked at Sunny's comment!

    I am fighting the ageing process, but only in that I am determined to think young and act as young as my energy levels allow me.

    I am very anti plastic surgery, because if you have one bit done, then you find another bit needs doing, and so it goes on until you look like an "effigy" of your real self. Ugh. No thank you.

    But I do put a good quality cream on my face and neck every night without fail and have done since my teens. Heaven knows if it helps, but it helps me psychologically. And I have always followed a piece of advice given by Joan Collins years ago - always wear a good foundation on your face (a moisturising makeup) preferably one that contains at least a Factor 15.

    I have no intentions of going grey. Not ever. My grandmother had henna on her hair till the day she died, and I always think of her as a glorious redhead. My mother was blonde, and I am determined to keep my hair blonde as well.

    I also like having a pedicure once a month to keep my feet respectable and because it is harder to get down there to put my own polish on my nails these days.

    The part I hate about ageing is that everything seems to head south. I am still on the track of the "perfect" brassiere, and as the years go by they need to hold them up and herd them in more than ever!

    The only consolation is that we are all paddling the same canoe. So from one "older woman" to "another", many hugs!

    Ami

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    1. I wish I hadn't ever started coloring my hair, but I started going gray earlier. My mom had a beautiful mixture of blond/white hair - it became a Champagne colored. Love your line about having to 'herd' them!

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  11. I fully intend to age like Diane Keaton. Now as to whether that's a realistic goal or not, I have no comment. Lol.

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    1. I think it's a wonderful goal!

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  12. PK,
    Ami is so right! We are all paddling the same canoe here. My philosopy is to play it forward and the best is yet to come. How we see ourselves is important to how we approach the day. Some days I feel like crawling right back under the covers. Great post
    Meredith

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    1. It's true we're not going to look our best every day - but I don't want anyone cutting me to make it any worse.

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  13. I'm aging with grace and acceptance (mostly). It's the inner being that troubles me. Why can't my joints bend any more!

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    1. So true! I would't worry one bit about my face, boobs or hair if I could get my knees to work right again.

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  14. I'm with you, PK. I will try my best to do some kind of natural aging with any grace that I can muster up! :) I have been lucky to this point- I have very little grey in my hair. Rob says that he doesn't think that I need to or should add colour in the near future. I agree with that. That being said, I don't ever think that I will let myself be all grey. My mother is 85, and I have never seen her with grey hair. I like that. She wears very little makeup, but moisturizes and has her cleansing routine. It is just enough. I think the same way moving forward. Which hopefully will please Rob! :)

    As for energy levels etc. moving forward- hope that I can still do a little running for a few years to come. Oh gosh- I feel like a kid still sometimes at 54. Unfortunately my body screams at me to straighten me out and put me back in my place... I still laugh at how stiff I was, four hours into our get together when we got up from the table. As my dad says, "Growing old is not for sissies." LOL Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. I can testify you are lovely and I'm so impressed that you run. Some day just getting started walking is a pain.

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  15. I think there is a big difference between getting a little subtle cosmetic surgery, and having your face nipped and tucked and shot up and butchered until you look like a circus clown. It's sad what some celebrities have done to themselves, but think about this -- there are probably many others who have had GOOD work done, and you don't know it, because you're not supposed to. You're just supposed to think, wow, they look wonderful.

    I'm 56. No, I'm not shooting my face full of botulism or doing the blowfish lips. But if I had the money, would I go for a good old-fashioned face/neck lift, to pull up the sags and take a few years off? You betcha. And I detest those wiry gray hairs that sprout from my part and hairline, so I have my hair colored every two months. Growing older is inevitable, but looking older can be tweaked, for sure.

    I've said this before, but no aging gracefully for me. I'm going to kick age's ass.

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    1. I am positive that there are great results with proper cosmetic surgery. If the person is sane and reasonable, it would be fine - but for so many it becomes a unobtainable goal to look perfect and they don't seem to be able to stop trying.That's when it can go really wrong.

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  16. So yes I dye my hair... I hate what grey hair does to my complexion! I would lift my boobs and take away tummy sag... But the reality is that is just my fantasy. Like Ami I use good face cream and try and stay healthy!

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    1. Minelle,
      Yeah in reality hair is the only thing I'm willing to change.

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  17. I'm going for a somewhat natural approach to aging. Since I also am not pleased with what grey hair does to my complexion my hairdresser uses the foil method so you still see some grey, just less of it. And trying to stay healthy and active is most important!

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    1. Meg, that's not a bad idea. I'll keep coloring as long as I'm teaching after that maybe a slow change over to gray.

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  18. I agree it is sad for those that had plastic surgery to look better.. my mom is 70 and looks 55. I think I have a fighting chance hehe

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    1. Sounds like you have excellent genes!

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  19. I colour my hair and have no intention of stopping. I would hate to just go grey. I don't look anywhere near my real age, and I hope it stays that way for a few more years.

    I wouldn't mind a subtle facelift to remove the creases on the sides of my mouth that make me seem to be frowning. I try to smile a lot so people won't see the lines.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. If it make you smile more maybe the creases are good things. But I'm with you on the hair so far.

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  20. I go back and forth on this. I remember when I was in my 30s saying, "I am going to follow the scripture that says "white hair is a crown of glory." but you know what, I don't want to look like my grandmother in my early 50s. So I dye it every 7 weeks and put highlights in it. I fight it tooth and nail and then I get tired of the work and say, nope just let it go. I will be loved for who I am regardless of how I look. Then I go back to fighting it.

    Recently I got a nice stylish, professional haircut that swoops toward the face (to hide my turkey gobble) and had a couple shades of highlights put in. I had a co-worker sing my praises, loudly in a hallway of how I look ten years younger and "my god your last hairstyle was just not good on you" and it "made you look so old and not good." I went back to my desk and sat just blinking for a while. Lord, that wasn't fun. hahhahha.

    So I guess the answer is--depends on how hot it is, how moody I am and how much work it is that day. LOL Some days I roll with it -- other days I don't

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    1. Your co-worker could use some lessons in tack, but I'm sure she meant well. I've alway said I'll keep coloring my hair until my youngest was our of school, I've been mistaken for her grandmother often enough as it is. Well she'll be out next year and I have one more year to teach after that. I guess I'll decide then.

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  21. I am hoping to age with as much natural grace as I can...

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    1. We all do hope for that. I'm right in the middle of it and can't be sure it's happening for me or not.

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