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Wednesday, January 08, 2014

That HOH twist

I emailed Nick again yesterday. I had a few ideas I wanted to run by him. He gave me a good long-term goal to work on, but I knew I needed some shorter-term goals to work on too.

I suggested having a bedtime rule. I know I need more sleep. I hate going to bed, I hate getting up in the morning and I’m exhausted when I get home every afternoon. I know getting enough sleep will also help with weigh loss. What I told Nick was:

I just feel like this is something I can work on, but it won’t seem earth shattering or defiant if I don’t make it every night. Some nights I’ll be getting in bed early, maybe to avoid a spanking the next day. And maybe some nights I’ll be late because I know I need a spanking and can’t really ask for one.

And deep down I chose asked for this because I felt I could also fudge a little since occasionally I can slip into bed without him knowing exactly what time it is.

And then he goes and put an HOH twist to it! Here’s what he added:

You will need to keep a bedtime journal I can refer to time to time to see how you are doing, because I won't always know what time you get to bed even when I am aware of your arrival.

Hey wait! How can I be sneak with this? And then he we from preaching to meddling as he added:

Another record I want you to start keeping is a brief log recording roughly the amount of time spent daily on two areas.  First the time spent on your computer games, second the time spent on exercise.  See where this is heading? 

Yes he’s definitely paying attention – not trying to cut into my writing time, but still finding time in my day for exercise.

There may also be an issue of timing here – I was the very happy winner of a paddle from Blondie in the Winter Spanks blog hop. I’m so excited! I’d looked at the pocket paddle several times wanting one and I eagerly showed it to Nick.  He took the computer looking at it carefully. He thought it was very pretty too, but then he looked at me with a slightly evil grin and added, “You’re not going to like it.”

He’s nuts, it’s beautiful and I’m going to love it. Now whether of not I tell him when it actually arrives, that another story.


24 comments:

  1. PK,
    seems you are getting what you wanted/needed.
    Love and warm hugs,
    Paul.

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    1. Paul,
      I all sounds great - still have my fingers crossed.

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  2. Hi PK, Wow, it looks as though things are changing in your house! :) You'll have to tell us what you think of the paddle. It definitely looks pretty :)

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      I'm sure I'll give a full report.

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  3. Nick has caught that HOH bug. Whenever i suggest a change of rules, or the adding of something...He usually agrees. Then He adapts and changes what i suggested......You are in for a ride, girl friend!
    hugs abby

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    1. Abby,
      We're starting all this next week when Mollie heads back to school. Will he really follow through? I really hope so.

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  4. Be careful of what you wish for...isn't that the way it goes.

    I think you will love looking at the pocket paddle, not sure how you will like experiencing its purpose.

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    1. Leigh,
      I do know the saying! I probably will like the looks better than the feel.

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  5. Hi PK, blimey he is stepping things up a bit. John always says that " you are not going to like it " thing. Trouble is he is usually right!. I am glad I won your book, no offence to Blondie or anything but one wooden paddle is enough for my bottom. It is what he has promised to use when he doesn't like what I have written in my food diary. The trouble with that and your sleep journal is that there is no chance of sneaking :(
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Jan,
      I'm really glad you won too. I hate that I have to make myself be honest. It would be so easy to fudge.

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  6. I am sure the paddle will be lovely to look at and fantasize about...the experiencing it I guess time will tell... :-)

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    1. Terps,
      I do have my guess what the experience will be like, but I still I want to try it.

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  7. PK,

    Look forward to hearing how you like the paddle. I already know Nick will love it:)

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Ronnie,
      I'll tell you all about it - can't be worse than the cane.

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    2. I don't know. The wooden paddle Bogey and Bacall sent me, pack a punch.

      Love,
      Ronnie
      xx

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  8. Wow PK, what a turnaround all of a sudden. Aren't you dead chuffed?! You'll have to let me know what the paddle is like. LOL! I am imagining it is like a bathbrush without a long handle, so at least he can't swing the darn thing! LOL! Brilliant for you! I am so pleased!

    Hugs
    Ami

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    1. Ami,
      Oh I hope not, I hate our bath brush - we have a long and short handle one and both hurt like heck!

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  9. I am so glad he is calling you on what is important to him and you. See....you are heading in the direction HE WANTS. I believe Nick has hinted at what he believes can help you...Now he is insisting...
    Gosh that pocket paddle sounds ouchie.

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    1. Minelle,
      I hope and pray you're right - but not about the paddle.

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  10. Wow, who is that guy living in your house and calling you your husband and HOH? Want did he do with that dear guy who was too easy on you. Looks like he is stepping up to the plate. Let's hope he keeps it up. It may not be long before he collars you.

    FD

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    1. FD,
      I so hope you're right. I hope he's really stepping up and not going to just let it go again.

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  11. What a wonderful, wonderful man you have PK!
    A gem!
    (Tom has no chance in comparison with Nick, I know that since I read the first page of Cassie .. lol ..)

    You know what, PK, all this writing, how happy they are for your sakes, that you eventually get that you want it.
    Your fantasies come true.

    Nick `s best friend and defender Bas, is not here.
    So I will think of Nick.
    It will not be easy for him ..he is not a HOH naturally.

    (Why is it often in marriage so that one partner always seems to love more, wanting more, sacrifice more?)

    Hugs,

    Mona Lisa

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    1. Mono,
      You are right that Tom can't hold a candle to Nick. I appreciate all the effect he puts into our marriage.

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  12. Goodness PK...hope this doesn't turn into a case of 'be careful what you wish for'!

    Sending lots of positive energy that you both step up. ;)

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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