I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Wednesday, June 05, 2013

A Very Special Day!

How special? Thirty years ago today Nick and I married.  Thirty years, it’s hard to believe. I mean I did always know we’d get here. I knew when we married that there was no chance of divorce. We both knew that.  Not because we think divorce isn’t an option in marriage, it was just never an option for us. 

We are both blessed by having been surrounded by long marriages. Not only our parents, but between the two of us we have twenty-four aunts and uncles with only three divorces amongst them. Most of the rest had marriages that lasted for more than fifty years and some more than sixty.  We always saw marriage as for life. 

That doesn’t mean everything has been perfect. I’ve always liked the answer given by Ruth Graham, wife of Billy Graham, when she was asked if she had ever considered divorce, she answered, “Divorce no, murder yes!”

I think our marriage has been backward and I’m so happy about that.  I think so many marriages start off with closeness and wild sex.  Then it cools as you raising kids and seeing them off into the world. Then often couples realize that they don’t know each other any more and don’t care.

We were happy and friendly when we married, fairly distant and roommate-ish as we raised the kids, but then… then I found blogs, like-minded people to give me courage and I came out of our little closet. Introducing spanking into our relationship changed everything. It wasn’t only the spanking, it was the whole coming out – sharing this secret I’d had all my life that brought us closer than we’d ever been before, and of course there’s a lot to be said for the wonderfully, wild sex!

This post is for my wonderful husband and also for those new readers, those who have just found blogs, those who are wondering if they could possible bring it up to their spouse after all these years. Could it work?


We’d been a couple for twenty-five years, been married for twenty-three before I gave him the tiniest hint.  No he didn’t understand, yes he thought I was a little crazy, and yes it was embarrassing, but he listened and we tried. Was it worth it?



  1. Happy 30th Anniversary, PK & Nick! What a wonderful tribute to your marriage, yourself, Nick, and ttwd - to say it's been worth it!

    Here's to many, many more years of it being wonderfully with it! Thank you for sharing, PK.

    Hugs and cheers!!!


  2. Happy Anniversary! Our 15th is in 3 weeks, and I can't wait for the next 15 years!


  3. Happy Anniversary PK and Nick! A wonderful tribute to your marriage and testament to the fact that it's never too late to 'come out' to your spouse with your spanking desires.

    I hope you have a very special and wonderful celebration :)


  4. Congratulations and Happy anniversary! Yes, our extended family is remarkable divorce free, and yes, we've got sexier with age and the spanking has increased. I think it's never too late to bring something to a marriage.
    Hope you have a great celebration :)

  5. Happy Anniversary, a milestone...hmmmmm....30 spanks for 30 days to celebrate?? hugs abby

  6. Happy anniversary!! I like Abby's suggestion. :)

  7. Happy Anniversary. what a milestone. You are so lucky to have each other. And, yes, it was obviously worth it. You are an inspiration to so many of us in the blog world.


  8. PK,
    truly a wonderful anniversary for both of you.
    I'm so happy for you, may the next thirty be even better.
    Love and warm hugs,

  9. Happy 30th Anniversary PK and Nick! Be proud! That is a wonderful accomplishment! I hope that you have a very special day of celebration!

    Yes! I am with you. This backwards marriage thing is pretty darn amazing. How lucky we are! :) Hugs to you both,

    <3 Katie

  10. Happy Anniversary. I loved this post!

  11. Yep it is never to late! Perfection is in the process and trying new things. Beautiful my friend beautiful.
    I think Abby is on the money for you and Nick! At least school is over and you will not need to sit down!

  12. 30 years? You all are OLD. Congrats!! And happy happy happy anniversary!!

  13. This is beautiful; your story is inspirational.
    Happy Anniversary!!!

  14. Wow, that an inspiration. Thank you for writing this post. Obviously for my Sir and I - we aren't new at this and it is always something we talked about. But for those who haven't it is amazing to hear stories about starting after a long time. Taking that first brave plunge and that there is hope for hot amazing sex after room-matish times.

    CONGRATULATIONS - 30 years is an amazing accomplishment and an inspiration to all of us!


  15. Happy Anniversary. May you have 30 more.

    I'm with abby, I think it's a wonderful idea.

  16. PK, congratulations to you and Nick. Your story sounds so similar to ours and so many others. The backwards romance thing was just a bonus. ;-)

  17. Hi PK, Happy Anniversary, I know exactly how you feel, that's just like our life too. Isn't it great now? Hope you get an anniversary spanking:))
    love Jan.xx

  18. Amazing! Congrats!!!

  19. Happy anniversary PK and Nick!

  20. Pk and Nick,

    Happy anniversary and congratulations on 30 years.

    Love and hugs,

  21. Congratulations! Wishing the two of year many more happy years together to celebrate your love! :-) Hugs

  22. I want to add my congratulations! Thirty years is quite a milestone. May you always be as happy as you are today!


  23. I love all of you for coming by to wish Nick and me well. It's been a good day and I plan on it being an even better weekend!

  24. Anonymous8:00 AM

    Congratulations. I hope you have a terrific weekend.

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  26. Happy Anniversary! I hope you both have many, many more years of happiness together. Remember to always say, "I love you", to hug and cuddle, to laugh together and cry together when its needed, hold hands in public, and glory in the love you both share!

  27. Happy Anniversary to you both :) i hope you have many many more happy years to come :)
    great post :)

  28. Happy Anniversary! The next 30 will be " icing on the cake".

  29. I am so late to this party! I hope that you are having a wonderful celebration and enjoying some much-needed sanity restoration time. Many happy spankings to you both!

  30. Anonymous6:39 PM

    Congrats my friend and hope you have many more years to come together

  31. That is amazing. Happy Anniversary. I hope it was wonderful.