A Very Special Day!

How special? Thirty years ago today Nick and I married.  Thirty years, it’s hard to believe. I mean I did always know we’d get here. I knew when we married that there was no chance of divorce. We both knew that.  Not because we think divorce isn’t an option in marriage, it was just never an option for us. 

We are both blessed by having been surrounded by long marriages. Not only our parents, but between the two of us we have twenty-four aunts and uncles with only three divorces amongst them. Most of the rest had marriages that lasted for more than fifty years and some more than sixty.  We always saw marriage as for life. 

That doesn’t mean everything has been perfect. I’ve always liked the answer given by Ruth Graham, wife of Billy Graham, when she was asked if she had ever considered divorce, she answered, “Divorce no, murder yes!”

I think our marriage has been backward and I’m so happy about that.  I think so many marriages start off with closeness and wild sex.  Then it cools as you raising kids and seeing them off into the world. Then often couples realize that they don’t know each other any more and don’t care.

We were happy and friendly when we married, fairly distant and roommate-ish as we raised the kids, but then… then I found blogs, like-minded people to give me courage and I came out of our little closet. Introducing spanking into our relationship changed everything. It wasn’t only the spanking, it was the whole coming out – sharing this secret I’d had all my life that brought us closer than we’d ever been before, and of course there’s a lot to be said for the wonderfully, wild sex!

This post is for my wonderful husband and also for those new readers, those who have just found blogs, those who are wondering if they could possible bring it up to their spouse after all these years. Could it work?

YES!

We’d been a couple for twenty-five years, been married for twenty-three before I gave him the tiniest hint.  No he didn’t understand, yes he thought I was a little crazy, and yes it was embarrassing, but he listened and we tried. Was it worth it?

YOU BET IT WAS WORTH IT!