I love reading the different blogs out here. I feel that I have learned so much. I enjoy the blogs from people who practice true domestic discipline. I feel honored that they are willing to share their journey out here. I’m always happy to see that the choice to try dd often bring the couples closer and makes the marriages stronger.
I thought I wanted a dd marriage. Now what I have realized is that what I really wanted was what comes with a dd marriage, the closeness. We have never had some of the issues I hear others talk about. We have always, always treated each other with respect – never any shouting or name calling or hateful attitudes from either of us. We share the same views on money and how it should be saved or spent. Because I was the one who had dreamed of having kids and how I wanted to raise them since I was about 3 years old, he usually deferred to me for decision on child rearing, but he was always there to back me up.
Where we needed the most help was knocking down my walls. Now that’s been a toughie, and certainly an ongoing one. For me this began when I got the courage to come out and tell him I was a spanko. This was a MAJOR step for me and a wonderful one for our marriage. Our spanking takes a much more playful and sexual twist. I needed the break through sexually. I was repressed and I really don’t know why, but Nick spanking me excites the body and opens my mind and heart. Part of it was his total acceptance of something many people would have dismissed as crazy.
That doesn’t mean I don’t like to feel his dominance once and a while, especially in the bedroom. It’s a turn on for me. I like the fact he sends me several rules for the week to help on the weight loss and anything that bugs him about the house or laundry. Those last two things alone could keep me in spankings for months! But it’s still more of a teasing thing. None of those thing makes him angry, a little annoyed maybe, but not seriously angry.
I love to read about real dd marriages but I wish there were more of you who are into spanking for the fun and pleasure of it to speak up. I know we’re not alone, I read Grace, Ronnie, Bonnie,Hermione, and others that fall into this category. If you and your love are into spanking for the fun of it or the erotic pleasure of it, please think about comment more. Becoming involved in the spanko community is the best thing I’ve ever done. It’s very freeing and I love all the people I visit with here. I love the confidence I’ve gained by talking to other like me. I just want everyone that reads here to know that you are welcomed to use this space to ask questions and share your experiences. I know sometimes you just need an invitation.