I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
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Monday, January 24, 2011

Thinking around corners

I’m wondering what my friends out here think about corner time. I know one thing about it, and that is that there are very few picture I’ve found depicting it the way I see it in my mind. I started thinking about this when I was looking for Fantasy Friday pictures for last week.

We’ve never done corner time. Not sure I would want to, but like most things that can be included in a dd relationship, it does hold a certain attraction for me. It is such a dominate/submissive exchange. I know some people view corner time as childish and demeaning, I disagree. I mean if we, as a group, don’t feel that way about spanking why should we feel that way about corner time? It provides a time of calm and quiet reflection. Not about the problems of the world, it’s a time to reflect on the relationship you have with the one you love. Something has happened to get you to that corner. Maybe you’ve been spanked; maybe you’re going to be. Corner time is a time that you can gather yourself, reflect, and accept. I think it could be a plus in a dd relationship.

I spend a lot of time thinking about dominance and submission. I used to think I could be (wanted to be) submissive. I don’t know. I do know that Nick does not want a submissive wife. He wants an equal partner. Now what wife could complain about that? Of course not being in the roles of dominate and submissive doesn’t mean we can’t have the occasional power exchange.

Sometimes he does make requests. I know he likes me to be in bed by midnight. Usually I make it, not lately. Today he did mention that I’ve been late several nights this last week. I really didn’t think he’d noticed or that it was important to him anymore. So why do I stay up late? Do I do it to see if it still matters to him? Do I do it to try and push him into some reaction? Do I do it because I like staying up late? To tell the truth I really don’t know. Maybe I’ll find a nice quiet corner and think about it.

7 comments:

  1. PK,
    We don't engage in corner time either, but we have a version of it that is comparable. If I've taken a spanking leaning over the kitchen counter, or the dresser, or the bed, Usually B'Man will tell me that I am not to move once he is finished. And I'm left bend over with my panties at my ankles for as long as he decides to leave me there. He doesn't tell me what I should be thinking about or reflecting on, but I'm sure that he knows that the dead silence with me in an uncomfortable position will elicit some self examination... or maybe he just enjoys staring at my ass. I'm not sure.

    SugarAnne

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  2. PK: I think corner time as part of a dd relationship is a plus. There's a good power exchange in the submissive being sent to a corner to reflect. Reading your post, I think you would be intrigued by it.

    Unfortunately, your hubby -- even though he's such a good husband in so many ways -- doesn't seem to be into it, especially since he lets you slack off on his desire to have you in bed by midnight.

    So I guess you will just have to fantasize about what it might be like.

    I might even steal this topic for my blog because I'll be curious to see how many of your readers say they have corner time as part of their relationship.

    FD

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  3. PK, I suppose corner could be part of the D/d lifestyle.
    I've never done or used it.
    Love and warm hugs,
    Paul.

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  4. I've stood in the corner.

    I don't find it childish. I find it a relief.

    It's interesting to be standing there while he's getting things ready. It's interesting to stand there after a spanking to think about things.

    I would say that I like it. Or not. Depends on the day. LOL

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  5. I"m a big fan.

    Corner time has many functions, including the ones you describe very well, but for me the best thing is that it provides a structured transition in a punishment.

    One of the hardest things after spanking/being spanked is the process of returning to normal. When you get up off a lap, hair messed up, red in the face, and bottom, breathing hard, possibly sobbing, clothes around your ankles, is to work out how to get from that state back to your normal relationship with the person who has just disciplined you; and getting shakily to your feet is not the ideal time to tackle this; the person spanking you probably feels the same way.

    "Off to the corner" doesn't just signify your acceptance of your punishment, its a convenient interlude to reflect, get your breath back and begin the climb down back to normality (Ok its also the best way to experience the exquisite after effects of a smacked bottom).

    "OK, pants up and you can come out now" is an easier transition by some considerable way.

    The same apples to the one doing the spanking in terms of readjusting and similar principles apply to corner time as a prelude in terms of drawing you out of the person who has a normal day job and into being the one who gets his/her pants taken down and bottom smacked.

    So, please give it a go..

    R

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  6. SugarAnne,
    I sure he loves looking at the lovely picture you make but it's the same feeling of dominance that you'd feel being sent to the corner. I know I wouldn't want it all the time but sometimes I'd really like to feel some dominance.

    FD,
    I think intrigued is a good way to put it. I think everything I hear about the different ways people do TTWD could be put in that category.

    I hope you will ask about corner time. You have lots to people answer your questions and I would be very interested in know what they have to say.

    Paul,
    Sometimes I think it could add to the experience. I just find it interesting.

    Grace,
    I think that’s what I want – or not, depending on the day. LOL!

    R,
    I hadn't thought of that aspect, but it makes a lot of sense - a time of transition. There are many time I know, for me especially before, that I need to get my mind in the right place. And yeah I guess after too. I do sometime wish we did this.

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  7. Anonymous12:09 PM

    Careful what you wish for, PK. For more major offenses I am usually given corner time. And for REALLY major offenses, any time I request a "break" during the spanking, I am sent to the corner...and am spanked with whatever he wants to use, when he feels the break is over, bent over in the same corner. Ugh!

    Be well,
    Amanda

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