I got the comment below on my last post. When I read it my first thought was ‘Can’t do it.’ But I think maybe there was some excellent advice here. I don’t know if I can give up writing all together because it’s my major stress relief and a real joy to me. But I think I’ll take a break here. Never have before, after 4 years I guess it’s time. We always tease about wishing our guys could read our minds. I can honestly say this time it wouldn't help. I have no more idea what I want that Nick does.
I probably won’t be gone long. If anyone needs me I’ll be checking my email.
I've been reading about this for many years now; wives who want to be spanked or dominated in some way and husbands who do it enthusiastically at first, then eventually slow down and sometimes stop altogether. I asked my husband about why this happens and he said that for a lot of husbands, the whole thing can start to feel like a chore.
"Spank the wife, take out the garbage.." You know.
It starts to sound like nagging. Which is the last thing any of us wants to do, I know.
Which is why I disagree with the advice to "communicate nonstop" about this topic. A lot of men feel they are already getting too MUCH communication about it. They're sick of it. Even though we women do not think we are overdoing it, ofttimes *they* do.
So, one thing you can do is give it a rest for a while. Doesn't mean forever, just a while. Instead, maybe focus on *his* fantasies? Cater to his desires for a while instead of yours? When was the last time you guys focused solely on his stuff? :)
And maybe back off reading the blogs about spanking and writing about spanking and getting your head into "all things spanking". Take a break from it.
I know from my own experience that when I read lots of blogs on certain topics, I become consumed by that topic. I obsess on it, that's all I want to think about.
But if I resist and stop going to such websites, the urge to constantly think about that topic recedes.
You may find that after you take the pressure off Nick and let your obsession slack off for a while, things might pick up again naturally.
Just some ideas, based on my own experience as well as observing others for so long, now. :) Good luck! :)