But what happens when it’s true? There has been no spanking
or even talk of it here for a long while. I haven’t complained. It’s not been
discussed at all. But I have noticed something. Nick’s hands are giving him
trouble. I’ll see him rubbing his thumb and taking pain meds. He’s not much of
a complainer, but sometimes I see him flex his hands and occasionally mention his thumb is hurting. While I do love the sting and achy feeling on my butt, I do not want spanking me, to cause him pain.
There are alternatives. If he’d ever really wanted the lifestyle there are other
ways we could connect that don’t involve an actual spanking. I do love a good spankings,
but I’ve mentioned other methods of discipline to him over the years. But after a while, when he never seemed to
take to any of them, I just feel embarrassed to mention them again.
I guess his hands give me one more reason not to bring it
up. Have any of you dealt with this problem?
Hi PK, I'm sorry to hear Nick's hands are giving him trouble and hope he will get it looked at. I think from memory there may have been occasions Rick had trouble with his hands for various reasons, but temporary so it didn't curtail much spanking action.
ReplyDeleteMaybe try trying to talk to Nick about alternatives again?
Hugs
Roz
Thanks Roz, but I think I'm kinda talked out.
DeleteHi Pk, oh dear, this is a difficult one. It is hard to ask for something they can't give us. Hope Nick's hands get better.
ReplyDeletelove Jan, xx
I hope they do too. I sometimes have trouble with mine so I know how much it can hurt.
DeleteHave not had that problem, sometimes his hand hurts after a spanking, I am careful what I say about that. If it continues maybe having it checked out would be worthwhile. hugs abby
ReplyDeletePicking him up and physically carrying him to the doctor is pretty tough. He says it's probably arthritis and they can't fix that so why go. Men!
DeleteHi PK, working around health problems is difficult in any situation, but I've always found it particularly hard when it affects this part of our life. Maybe a paddle with a cushy handle?
ReplyDeleteMight help. I don't know.
DeleteEveryone knows no spanking goes on here anymore and the majority of that reason is because Ray has arthritis in his wrists and hands so I can sympathize. As for other methods of punishments- really? Are you going to stand in the corner? Grounding you wouldn't work because you love staying home too much. Let's see what else others come up with as a substitute. Oh, maybe a spanking machine.
ReplyDeleteYeah, some other methods might be 'hard limits'. But some are personal to me and could work. I've told him, but I don't think he ever paid attention or if he did he didn't try any. They are my private ideas, he's the only one I've ever told. So I guess they'll just stay in my head.
DeleteHello PK,
ReplyDeleteWe were there for a while, a couple years to be honest. Baby came, then the Duke had a bad accident that took a long time to heal from, parents had to move in, and it just didn't happen. I was talked out as well. And then one day it just came to a conversation with us being honest, and it just kind of came out in that conversation how we were better with it. We were drifting apart, and where did we think we would end up if we didn't make changes... it comes and goes, some weeks we're on the ball, other weeks we have to come back together to work at it again... not sure that helps any... just my experience.
{hugs} EsMay
Babies and parents would make it so very hard not to mention the accident. You are to be commended for realizing how much you needed it all.
DeleteHard one PK and I wished I had some ideas. Nick could have a little arthritis. He should get them checked.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Ronnie
xx
I wish he would. I don't want them getting worse.
DeleteFrank does have osteo arthritis in his hands ... he has enlarged knuckles and often in the morning he has to run them under hot water to get them flexible again. He's always cursing because he can't hold small stuff like nails or screws any more. I was worried spanking would cause him hand pain but he assures me no, it doesn't ... but that's just him. Everyone is different.
ReplyDeleteI think the main thing here is to mention to Nick what you've noticed. You never know, it might just open other conversational doors as well.
.... nj ... xx
I guess I need to ask Nick. At least that might be a good place to begin.
DeleteThat is a tough one. Is it that bad that he couldn’t hold an implement? I hope he has his hands looked at just to be sure. When you know what you’re dealing with then maybe suggestions could be made...again. ??
ReplyDeleteJust keeping the conversation going might be a good thing.
You are so right. He's never even said that using an implement hurts as usual - I decided what he was thinking and I go by that.
DeleteAs the others have said this is a tough one. Nick should seek medical advice as even with arthritis they might be able to prescribe something for the pain. Or give him hand exercises to reduce it. Wish I had a solution for you.
ReplyDeleteHang in there and persuade your wonderful man to go to the doctor.
Hugs Lindy xx
I do want him to see a doctor. We'll be talking about it soon.
DeleteHas Nick noticed the pain hits after any particular food? Sometimes "gouty arthritis" comes and goes. Check out foods high in oxalis acid and lists of food to avoid for gout. Maybe he just needs to exercise his hands with a little "bottom therapy" for you!
ReplyDeleteRosie Dee
That I've never heard him say. But we need to start paying attention. I'm for that kind of exercising.
DeleteThat's oxalic acid. Stupid spell correct!
ReplyDeleteRosie Dee
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DeleteSorry I have been SO off the grid lately. I am finally feeling like myself again and catching up in blogland.
ReplyDeleteGet Nick some glucosamine at Sam's Club or Costco. It is such a safe supplement and knocks out arthritis like a champ. I just wish there was a pill that would help Nick want to spank.
Love and Hugs,
Ella