I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Monday, September 18, 2017

Writing and retirement

Maybe I should change this to a retirement blog. I think I like retirement nearly as much as spanking. And with retirement I get to enjoy it all the time. I’ve tried to come up with the best thing about retirement, but there are so many things to choose from. Getting up when I want to is near the top of the list. When I got up to take Mollie’s cat to the vet the other day it was dark! I don’t want to get up in the dark. Since Nick leaves for work before five am I got little understanding or sympathy from him. I also don’t like showering in the dark. When I complained about this to Nick I got a bland look and the suggestion that I turn on the bathroom light. HaHa. He knows what I mean, we have a solar tube in the shower and I love the light that floods in during the day. That’s when I like to shower.

But I guess for me it’s having the time to write is that I love best. I’m still not as disciplined as I’d like to be. I think I’d get a lot more writing done if I’d turn the internet off when I sit down to write. I’m bad to hop over and check FB or the blog or emails. But I do try to get in several hours of writing a day. I’m not sure whether writing is a career, a hobby or a way to waste time. As for a career – well, I’d hate to try and live on what I earn. Although everything I have made has thrilled me and gone way beyond anything I thought I’d make through writing. I should say it’s more than a hobby, maybe I should call it a lifelong passion. I was about twelve when I day dreamed of writing Cassie’s stories.



A way to waste time? Nick said something that made me feel good the other day. We were discussing the possibility of him retiring. He knows how much I like it, but I’m not sure he would. He likes being active. And I told him, “I don’t know if you’d like it as much as I do. I like sitting around doing nothing, but you don’t.” He replied, “I wouldn’t call writing nothing.” Just a simple statement but it made me happy that he felt that way and that he'd said it.

I could see how someone might think otherwise. Have you ever watched someone write? Yes, sometimes I’m pounding the keyboard like it’s on fire. But there is so much of my writing time spent staring into space. What I’m actually doing most of that time is listening. Sometimes I’m sitting with my eyes closed. I know Nick has to think I’m sleeping – but I’m not, I’m watching.  I don’t snatch words from the air. I’ve spent more time in the room with Cassie and friends than I have anyone in real life. For Cassie, especially, I don’t create scenes and dialogue. I watch the scene and listen carefully to what everyone says so I can type it later.



It’s so nice to have my characters do the work for me. This is a little harder for me with Cal and Jenny, but as I get to know them better it’s getting easier. I start out with a skeleton of an idea and hand it to my characters. They fill in the guts as well as the muscles and skin and everything else. Sometimes they even make changes to the skeleton. That’s why I love series, I always want to know what happen next. I have ideas for stand-alone books but knowing me if I ever get around to writing them, I’ll try to turn it into a series. I just can’t create characters to toss them aside at the end of the book.

I’m going to keep writing as long as anyone’s reading. Actually, I’m going to keep writing whether anyone’s reading or not. Be it a career, a hobby or a waste of time it’s an important part of my life and it always will be.

21 comments:

  1. So happy you are enjoying your retirement, PK. I do understand what you are saying about getting up when it's dark. I keep telling people I could be a morning person if morning started around noon. I also understand your creative process...I do the same with painting. As long as your writing makes you happy, that's what's important. Of course, it doesn't hurt that we all love your books. ;)

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. I'm so very happy that you and others love my books! It's like hearing that someone thinks your child is wonderful!

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  2. Hi Cat, I am so happy for you. We both love love love retirement too. I don't do anything as productive as you, but I seem to be so busy all the time, when I get up of course, lol
    love Jan, xx

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    1. It's being able to do what we like when we want to do it. Stay up late, sleep late - or the opposite. Whatever we like.

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  3. Hi PK, I'm so very happy you are enjoying retirement, it really makes me smile :) I'm with you on getting up and showering in the dark.

    More time to spend doing what you enjoy, writing...how wonderful, and for us too :) Nick's comment was lovely, he respects what you do.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. It really made me happy that he felt that way. And I do love our solar light tube!

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  4. PK - Makes me happy reading your post. I am so glad you are loving your retirement which as Roz says it good for us too. Loved Nick's comment.

    I am just about to take up sewing again (haven't touched one for yonks) not sure how well I'll do. Need something simple to make first.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Thanks Ronnie! I bet you'll love getting back into sewing and I bet it would come back to you easily.

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  5. Amen to your last paragraph.
    Enjoy your retirement.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Thanks, it's the best!

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  6. Pk,
    I love when you talk about the how and the way you write. I love that you know Cassie so well. I can feel that when I read one of your books. Keep writing. We will keep reading.
    Meredith

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    1. I'm glad you want to keep reading, cause Cassie keeps talking to me.

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  7. PK! This is great. Now I know when I'm staring off into space, I'm really working. ;)
    Amy

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    1. Absolutely - but it may be hard to convince others.

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  8. I love retirement too and now I've filled all the available time with joyous pursuits.

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    1. That's good - as long as you have time to write for us in there somewhere.

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  9. PK,
    I love that your characters walk around in your head. How I would love to have such a gift. Nick is right. Your writing is way more than "nothing." It is part of what makes you such a wonderful woman and wife and mother and friend. Be proud of yourself, girl!

    Hugs From Ella

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    1. I am Ella, thanks. I'm just so lucky that my imaginary friends didn't leave me as I grew up.

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  10. We both love retirement also with all the enjoyment it brings. I'm not keen on early mornings though, much prefer to wake up when I'm ready.
    Time seems to fly so quickly we wonder how we ever had time for work before.
    Keep doing what you enjoy PK there are heaps of us who love your books and can't wait for the next one to be published.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. Thanks Lindy - that getting up when we want to is hard to beat. Looks like the next book will be out before Thanksgiving.

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  11. Hi PK, :) SO loved Nick's comment to you! It's wonderful to be respected for what you do- especially when it's from the one who loves you the most! Beautiful!

    So happy for you, that you are enjoying your retirement so much! Lucky us too- more fun, loving, spanky reads in our future! Many hugs,

    ❤️Katie

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