Not too much happening to write about so I’ll give you the
bits and pieces of our lives. I got to put my grandmother skill to use the
other day. Mollie thought it was time to get her little one spayed and because
of school she couldn’t get her there at the 8:00 am drop off time. Grandma to
the rescue. I went over to Mollie’s and got the baby and took her in. I was
surprised at how nervous I was leaving her. I worked for a vet for about eight
years. I’ve assisted with many thousand spays and even did two completely on my
own – yet I was nervous leaving my grand-cat for the procedure. But she came
though beautifully.
Nick’s parents had their seventhly wedding anniversary this
past week. Seventy years, it’s hard to imagine. Sadly, they were not together.
MIL is not doing well at all. She is in a nursing home now and recently fell
again possibly cracking a rib. She is fighting pneumonia and in a lot of pain.
We would have taken FIL by on their anniversary but he has a bad cold and it
just wasn’t for the best. I’m sure you have all been to nursing homes – both good
and bad, MIL is in a good one and unlike many living there, she usually has at least three separate
visitors a day. Some poor souls don’t
get that many in six months or more. It’s great to have a close family and all
are helping, but I really see Nick and one of his sisters going above and
beyond.
Several of you asked if Nick read my last post and I’ll
answer what I thought I’d answer – Of course not. I’m okay with it, I know the
man surely has his hands full these days. But the fact that he doesn’t read
will always hurt my feelings just a little. I know for a fact he spends over an
hour on the computer as we sit around in the evening. He’ll often read me a
little of news stories or jokes off Facebook. How long would it take for him to
read my post? I mean I’m only posting a couple of time a week most of the time
and usually they’re short. It’s not like he needs to comment or anything. I’m just
mildly griping, it’s not a problem. But you’re the people I gripe to. Aren’t
you a lucky bunch!
Some of those nursing homes are just so sad! I just got back from visiting a couple in their eighties who just moved to an apartment in a retirement community. The man is getting dementia and he asks the same questions over and over. He complains about not being able to walk to the dining hall: this from a man who was in the JAG corps and in the Army. Sigh. To quote Bette Davis, "Getting old ain't for sissies". I sometimes wonder what will happen to me since I have never married and have not children. I will probably be the one watching television and never getting any visitors.
ReplyDeleteSorry your blog isn't getting read by your husband. Gripe away, that's what friends are for. :-)
I have wondered about my son and his husband who choose to have no children. But while it does help some people there are others with children who still have no help.
DeleteI'll probably always fuss about him not reading a little.
Hi Pk, my parents in law are in a nursing home and it's standards have dropped so much. I am worried sick, I try and keep on top of things for them and am in most days, often complaining. It is up for sale at the moment and I think it will be closed down. My mil has been there for nearly seven years and up until recently she has loved it. I have tried to persuade her to move to no avail and am at a loss now.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby doesn't read my blog either, in fact ttwd is ttw are not doing at the moment, lol. Life ....
hugs to the grandcat.xx
love Jan, xx
True having it for sale is not the best sign. He used to read it every time I posted and became good friends with many of the bloggers back them. We even hosted some in our home. But he has lost interest. We still do some, but not to a great extent.
DeleteHey PK, Eric reads my blog when he travels internationally because we talk less with the time changes so he'll use that time to feel close to me. With Nick home with you, his guy brain probably doesn't think he needs to read what it's your head; you are right there in front of him. Lately I've been trying to figure out how to keep from having hurt feelings when someone does or more often, doesn't do something that would make me feel so good. Eric was exhausted from being up traveling and working over 45 hours once. Even so, he called and we talked for two hours. "I love you" is big to me and he didn't say it the whole time we were on the phone. It's all I could think about. Later, I felt really stupid when I mentioned it and he was furious, pointing out all he had gone through and calling, talking, etc. Girl brain.
ReplyDeleteAmy
Yes, you were using your girl brain. It's so obvious that he loves you. I agree with your take on why he doesn't read. But can you imagine your love writing a blog telling his feelings and how he's doing emotionally and then you not even bothering read it?
DeleteWe are lucky indeed to have you as our resident griper - lol. I don't think Ray even knows the name of my blog so reading it would interfere with his playing FreeCell in his self-imposed time slot for his computer (mind you we both have more than one of our very own)
ReplyDeleteYou are lucky, I am so very good at it! I love our men - but I must say, MEN!
DeletePK, sorry your MIL is not doing so well. When it was time for P's mom to go into a care home we visited lots and I couldn't believe how some were so awful and badly run. We were lucky and found one local so we could visit often.
ReplyDeleteHappy to hear no probs with your little grand-cat.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
Nothing like visiting a nursing home to make you want to take better care of yourself!
DeleteJust keeping Nick's parents in my prayers. They must be special folks to have such a son.
ReplyDeleteThere are always things I could wish for with Sam. He would never have sent me a report card, like Nick did. He would never be as romantic as Sunny's guy. Since I am so very far from perfect, I like to be thankful for a man who loves me so much. We are all lucky in that way.
Love,
Ella
All our guys are so special in their own way. We don't get to choose an item from column A and one from column B. They are each just perfect for us. Doesn't mean we never complain about them, but always mildly.
DeleteI hope your in laws are feeling better soon. It sounds like you are all amazing at keeping in touch and watching out for them, good for you.
ReplyDeleteAs far as reading your blog, maybe printing up a hard copy and hilighting parts might get his attention. Has he ever given you a reason as to why he doesn't read it? On the flip side remember this is the man that left you half a piece of his one strip of bacon....that's pretty cool.
I haven't forgotten about the bacon. I think of it often because that really says who he is. If I asked him to read on a specific day he would. I just wish he wanted to know what I'm thinking enough to check it out on his own.
DeleteHappy Anniversary to Nick's folks...what a lovely milestone. So sorry they couldn't be together to celebrate. They are so lucky to have such a devoted family to care for them. When my mom was in rehab, I had to walk through the nursing home wing and it was sad to see those that never had any visitors sitting there looking so forlorn as others were visiting with family and friends.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry Nick hasn't read your posts lately. Wanna borrow my little caste iron skillet? Just the baby one to knock some sense into his head, not the big one that would really hurt him. :)
Hugs and blessings...Cat
They have always been great in-laws.
DeleteI'm not ready for the frying pan yet, but I'll keep the offer in mind.
Hi PK,
ReplyDeleteLoved hearing about your grand cat and glad to hear she came through the surgery well. She is soo sweet :)
Happy Anniversary to Nick's parents. Wow, that is some milestone. I'm sorry they weren't able to celebrate together and sorry to hear about your MIL.There are lucky to have such wonderful family support.
I understand your feelings being hurt by Nick not reading here. Rick used to read and we found the blog a great tool in our relationship as it gave him greater insight into my thoughts and feelings.
Hugs
Roz
I loved it when he read when all this started. It did help explain all that was going on and he got close to the people too. Wish he hadn't stopped.
DeleteWow...70 years that is quite an achievement! Sorry to hear about your MIL, but I am sure she feels all of the love of such a wonderful family. I don't think there are many partners who ready here....not sure why..
ReplyDeletehugs abby
I guess their not reading is the basic difference in men and women. No one could keep us away if our guys were writing about their feelings.
DeleteI stopped hoping my hubby would read my blog long ago...but it would be nice if he took an interest... I know he just thinks of it as "my thing" rather than as a window into my feelings.
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