What not to do.

When you feel unsettled, a little mad, slightly depressed and there is no apparent reason for any of it let me give you some pointers on how not to spend your day.

Don’t take one little thing that is annoying or bugging you and keep turning it over in your head until it gets bigger and bigger, way bigger than it needs to be.

Don’t spend the day in a house full of people trying to avoid talking to anyone. For one thing you will realize that no one really cares if you are talking or not and it will hurt your feelings.

When you take your daughter and a friend to pick up some lunch don’t spend the time waiting for them staring into a close-up mirror seeing every wrinkle, sag, dark circle, gray roots, etc

Don’t take the Christmas tree down by yourself and think that the little hands that made many of the ornaments probably won’t be living here in a few years.

Don’t beat yourself too much when you just chicken out and can’t make yourself go alone to the funeral of a former student who died of cancer two days after Christmas and was the same age as your daughter. God bless you Nathan.

Don’t listen to your ipod – this means all the music you care about because nearly every song has the potential to make you cry. And you don’t want to do that because you might not stop.

If I did anything right today it was emailing Eva who kept me from sinking further down. So I can add one more don't. Don't ignore good advice when you get it.