Baker's questions

I read Baker's post yesterday and I was really intrigued by her questions. She did a great job and you need to go by and read her answers if you haven't .


1.  Are you an introvert or extrovert or somewhere in between?  What about your HOH? 

Outside our own families we are both introverts. When LJ was born, my sister called the hospital. Nick answered and told her all about the baby, hair, weight, length, etc. and then handed the phone to me. Her first question was, “Who was that?” I told her Nick, of course. She replied, “He hasn’t said that much to me the whole seven years I’ve known him!” All our friends know Nick’s an introvert.

Many would be surprised, however, to learn I am too. I guess it’s being a teacher that has caused me to prefect my extrovert act. I can appear comfortable talking with large groups as well as individuals. I’m at the age where I can fake it with the best of them. But inside, I’m so very happy tucked away by myself.

2.  At what age did you realize that spanking was something you were into and at what length did you go to hide it?  Did your HOH know?  For those of you who began your marriage with spanking do you think anything from your childhood helped you to be more accepting of the spanking lifestyle.

I can’t remember a time when the idea of spanking didn’t fascinate me. I know I made up my first spanking story around the age of four. I was spanked as a child, rarely, but it happened. I hated it! And when it happened, or was even threatened I quickly changed my behavior. But the idea of spanking, the infatuation I have has always been with me.

I hid it COMPLETELY. No one knew or ever suspected. No one knew that I could tell them from the opening seconds which ‘I Love Lucy’ had spanking in them. And I still have a stolen book from the school library – I told them I lost it – that was about some English children where one got spanked.

Nick and I had been married for twenty-three years before I told him my ‘strange’ desire.

3.  Do you know of anyone else in your family who practices DD, TTWD, etc.?  And how did you come to learn that they did?

I don’t know of anyone else.

4.  Are you a homebody or outgoing?  To me this is different than being an introvert or extrovert.  You can be an introvert and still love to go to museums or a ball game.  You can also be an extrovert and love to just have people over and entertain in your home rather than going elsewhere.

I’m most definitely a homebody! My favorite days are those where there is no reason for me to leave my house.

5.  How do you view blogging?  Is it an outlet?  A way you process?

I believe blogging means more to me than it does to most people. Blogging (and by blogging I mean not only what I write, but the wonderful people it has brought into my life) gave me the freedom to be myself. It allowed me to, ‘come out of the closet’ so to speak. I don’t stand on the street corner shouting about my love for spanking and the joys of submission – but I can write about it on my blogs and in my books. I’ll defend it stoutly should anyone claim it’s abuse and that a woman must be ‘sick’ to accept it. I’m happy with the person I’ve become since I began blogging.

6.  What tendencies do you see in your DD or TTWD friends and bloggers?  Warning this one may be sensitive to answer.  I am in no way trying to criticize these are simply observations or things that may be similarities between us.

I’ve probably met as many bloggers, in person, as most anyone out here. There are two similarities in them all that I’ve noticed. First they are all strong women who can handle anything life has ever sent them. There are strong, independent and capable. The second thing is their deep, abiding love for their husbands. It each case it’s been their choice to live this lifestyle, their decision to choose to submit to the men they love so much.

7.  Are you a lover of the printed word?

LOL, of course I am. I love to read it and I love to write it.

8.  Do you view yourself as a submissive?

No, sadly that’s not what Nick wanted and I’m not sure I could have done it if he had wanted it. I think I could have. I know I would have liked to tried.

9.  Last question.  What traits do you see in your HOH that help you follow his lead?

Nick doesn’t lead, we always walk together – or maybe occasionally, alone. Perhaps one of us will step forward if we’re more familiar with a given terrain. Maybe if I’d asked for this when we first married we would have grown into more dominate/submissive roles. But by the time I let him in on the secret, we were pretty well established in how we handled life.

I hope many of the rest of you will answer these questions. I love to know what you all think.